My boyfriend has a fuck buddy, what should I do?

[Victoria007]

I meet him on Bumble and we dated for 2 months, then he asked me to be his girlfriend a week ago
all this time I have known that he has a fuck buddy which I couldn't say anything because we were not official but now I know he continues to see her each time he does not sees me
I know that he has a fuck buddy because he told me he was doing that (he implied past) and I know his location from bumble so he is always at this person's place when he is not with me (dunno if female or male, he likes to have sex with both)

Updates

+1 y

I know about the fuck buddy but he does not know that I know!
That is why I dont know how to address the issue
I am not ok with a fuck buddy but how do I tell him that I have been checking his phone location every day to know where he is going

[GiselleB]

Tell him you're not okay with him having a fuck buddy! If he refuses to stop seeing that person then you know it'll be best for you to end it!

[Drooogie4]

Break up with him? I think it's that simple. He's your boyfriend and still sneaking around with his old FB.

[PondyPand]

Why did you agree to date him and not being up the fuck buddy?

[PondyPand]

*bring

[Victoria007]

And thank you for taking the time to comment as well :)

[madhatters4]

tell him that you want to be in an exclusive relationship and that means ending the friends with benefits situation.

[Nykid28]

If you want to be exclusive with him you should just tell him

[cougarclaw87]

You should start over with a new person, communicate boundaries upfront, and go from there.

[cougarclaw87]

I read your "update". If you tell this guys you've been checking out his location he's gonna turn that into a huge issue, possibly freak out, and think you're a stalker. It would be simple and the most drama free if you just told him things weren't working out and walk away.

[MannMitAntworten]

Dig him a hole in the desert. Cheaters are shit bags. I'll help you dig...

[PondyPand]

But at present he isn't a cheater. She knows about it, hasn't said anything against it. Communication is key.

[MannMitAntworten]

You know him?

[MannMitAntworten]

How is a fuck buddy when you are involved not a cheat? Explain that, please...

[PondyPand]

Because by not speaking up, she may as well given consent, since she KNEW he has a fuck buddy and DIDN'T have a conversation about it BEFORW she commenced dating. It's simple logic.
I'm the first to agree to dig holes for cheaters. But in this case, it doesn't count as cheating because she hasn't told him otherwise.

[PondyPand]

Also read below for another girls response "it's polygamous, just means you'll spend less time with him" to which asker replies "thanks!". Now that doesn't sound like a girl who wants him exclusive.

[MannMitAntworten]

Ah. Got it.

[Victoria007]

@PondyPand I thanked the person for the comment not because I dont want to be exclusive I am not poly amorous nor is he according to what he told me

[Victoria007]

@PondyPand He does not know that I know about the fuck buddy

[PondyPand]

@Victoria007 so what the fuck do you expect from him? 🤦🤦🤦

[Anonymous]

Every men in bumble are there for finding someone to fuck and leave

[MlleCake]

What's your question?

[Victoria007]

how to handle the situation, what would you do?

[MlleCake]

I'm polyamourous. It's not an issue for me.

You can ask for more time with him.

[Victoria007]

thanks!

[Ripper_E]

So what's your question?

[Ripper_E]

Tell him. Start off with it was wrong of you to be checking his phone, but it does not change the fact he is cheating. If he prioritizes his phone over cheating, then leave.

[Victoria007]

Thanks for your comment, I did not check his phone at all, I know his location because we are connected in Bumble so every night and morning I look to see where he is, and sometimes he is at his place and sometimes he is 7 miles away from his place, aka, his fuck body address I assume because is always the same 7 miles difference

[Reddwolf]

Then leave him you don't need to put up with it

[Timelesswisdom]

Fucking sodom and gommorah.

[Texaskid1]

Then you should get your own fuck buddy!!!