My boyfriend is still really good friends with his former fuck buddy and it makes me super uncomfortable. How do I deal?

[danirocks85]

My boyfriend and I are have great communication in our relationship. We are always very open and honest with each other, which makes me trust him and puts me at ease. However, sometimes he tells me things I'd rather not know. For instance, yesterday he told me that he and one of his best friends used to sleep with each other. He and this girls are still good friends and I hate it. It's not that I'm afraid he'll cheat on me or that she'll try to sleep with him again (she has a boyfriend) it's that every time I hear her name, I picture the two of them having sex and it makes me feel like somebody kicked me in the chest. From what he tells me, she seems like a great person and I think if he hadn't told me that they used to bump uglies, we could be close, but I just can't shake this rotten feeling. I feel bad because I'm friends with a guy I used to fool around with and he is completely okay with it, while I on the other hand don't like for him to do the same. It's so hypocritical. How do I feel better about my boyfriend's friendship with this girl? He is the best boyfriend I could have ever asked for and he goes out of his way to make me smile every single day, so I really don't want to let something like this ruin it.

[cloudyybliss]

Tell him directly to his face what you feel. Tell him that it makes you uncomfortable. They had a past and worst a fuck buddy. Tell him that it isn't good to be in a relationship with him and he still has a communication with his former fuck buddy. But if he tells you its not a big deal, its better to tell him or maybe even ask him who he chooses. it sometimes alright to be selfish to know if he really loves you. Remember, communicating with an ex or fuck buddy or past relationship is already considered as cheating.

[samasky]

you must to leave him because if he love you he will not do that with other

[GingerGuy]

Your good communication needs to continue here, tell him this. That you don't want to hear about her because you picture it in your head and it bothers you. He'll probably say ok, and make a conscious effort not to mention her to you anymore. As long as the trust is there between you still, then problem solved.

[GingerGuy]

And as far as getting it out of your head now... it will just take a bit of time. If he's not bringing her up in conversations then you should forget and move on if there's no other reason it's bothering you (like, you're jealous or insecure or don't trust him fully).

[orphan]

he's not completely ok with you being friends w/ a guy you used to mess around w/... he's just telling you that.

[OrdinaryGentleman]

You deal by understanding that that part of his life was before you.

[youmybaby]

friendship is better. so you know what he values