What Compliments Turn You Off?

[fonduegirl]

here's an example😂 :
"hey! you look pretty with make up on."

well c'mon, gimme some good examples, peeps!😤😤

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+1 y

my friend's crush once said to her,"your friend (me) is really curvy for a nerd." and I overheard and felt like"wtf is he even getting at?"😂😂😂

[markscott]

I can't think of any at the moment. It's surprising how insensitive some people can be when making comments. Some people are so into how right their opinion is to them, that they simply can't see how it can hurt. Something like, you look nice today, I like this dress much better than that ugly one you wore yesterday. Or, you look good with makeup, you so need to hide your wrinkles/blemishes.

[mehuljain10]

You are very innocent looking guy. Are you really innocent or just show off?

[Mini-Mina]

People don’t compliment me... but once my aunt told my sister “wow you have great eyelashes! They are so pretty!” Then she looks and me and says “oh yeah I guess you too” what the fuck man? If that’s what your gonna tell me then don’t even bother.

[desidoll]

How much did you pay for your implants?
You don't look like your ethnicity.
I like short girl like you.

[Grond21]

I understand the first two, but why the last one?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 I view short as the sign weakness. Like a flaw. He doesn't need to emphasize that I am short because obviously I know I am.

[Grond21]

Oh, so you feel like it is rubbing salt in the wound. Like he's condescendingly calling out your faults

But why do you view it has a weakness?
Do you view the other two as a sign of weakness also?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 The first one is more like telling me that I am fake. The second one is kind of offensive because I am aware that my ethnicity it viewed as one of the least attractive one so him saying that is like making me as an exception.

[Grond21]

That makes sense, because he is assuming that you are not real. It makes you wonder if he can appreciate you at all.

The second one is a backhanded insult, because it is criticizing your heritage. And it is also saying you barely passed the ethnic test or something.

Is that a good summary?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 Yes you are right 😊

[Grond21]

I am glad I understand. And I'm very sorry that you have to deal with those negative comments

[desidoll]

@Grond21 yea insensitive people are everywhere.

[desidoll]

Thanks for the MHO 😊

[Grond21]

Yeah, unfortunately they are.

If you don't mind me asking, what nationality are you?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 Malaysian, but from Indian heritage.

[Grond21]

Oh, that is cool! Why in the would someone not like that?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 Trust me haha people can have odd reasons why they say this and that just to justify their ignorance.

[Grond21]

True, but it seems silly to me. You are very pretty, and that doesn't need a qualifier. It's too bad some idiots can't see that

[desidoll]

@Grond21 thank you 😊 I think they meant it to be a compliment but it turned out to be a backhanded one. To them it is not offensive and I should be flattered instead of offended lol. Anyway I avoid negative people. There are still some awesome people like you outside there.

[Grond21]

Yeah, dictating your feelings to you? That is definitely toxic behavior.
Thanks! You awesome yourself.

[Grond21]

Would you like to connect on PM?

[desidoll]

@Grond21 Sure 😊

[Cynicaldreamer]

You look so good now that you've lost weight! - people that knew me when I used to be fat say that to me a lot. Like damn, so I guess I looked like a monster before when I was fat... smh

You look cute wearing (something simple). - when I'm wearing some old or regular clothes, I get more compliments than when I actually put effort into dressing up or wearing something nice.

[shimmeryns]

You look too young, are you sure you are? You don't look like you are.

[Factshurt90]

Compliments that degrade fellow queens. Compliment my petite figure. Don’t praise me because I’m not fat and sloppy. I don’t like being called down to earth as opposed to stuck up like light skinned women. Insulting others is not a compliment. Just shows how judgmental he is

[fonduegirl]

ugh, I should have MHOed this

[Hamsteroids]

“I love your hair down all frizzy and curly!”

I have very curly hair. I hate it but most people love it and one time (bless his heart) my boyfriend had said that about my hair. He loves my hair and was complimenting it, but when he said “frizzy” I was like “dude! How dare you! Do you have any idea how much work I put into this hair? Don’t call it frizzy!” Lmao 😂

[ShadowofRegret]

Anything implying that I fit the rugged, macho type, I look very youthful and people often mistake me for being younger than I actually am, so trying to make me out to be like Dwayne Johnson is an obvious lie.

Kind of ironic since I train to try to protect others, yet I seem to trigger the protective fatherly/motherly instincts in men and women respectively...😅

[Hurlyburly]

I think I have a good example here. I was upset because one of my school test results didn't turned out as good as I expected and my boyfriend was like "no need to worry, you're still pretty". 🙄 Yeah... thanks for nothing xD
Or "wow, you're so tall" 🙄😩😩

[ChiTown33]

I had a woman come on to me and she made the mistake of saying "i didn't used to find you attractive". I mean i know in her mind she was telling me she was into me. But she might as well have said "i used to think you were ugly". That's not a compliment.

[foriWish]

I'm sorry being called "cute". People are always calling me that! I understand I look like I'm a high school student even though I'm much older but come on it sucks.

It is better than being called unattractive though...

[JDavid25]

"You look like you have a big dick".. Somebody once told me that.. 😂

[fonduegirl]

I asked my friend that about our Prof😜😝😝

[JDavid25]

Whoa... How would yo friend have that info unless they was wit yo prof.. 😂😂..

[JDavid25]

Oh wait.. You asked does yo prof look like he got a big dick.. 😂😂.. Well, hat wasn't no compliment to me.. Cause then they could be expected some porn sized Johnson..

[avaawolf]

Whenever someone compliments me on my height that I've already heard like 1,000 times.

[Twenty2]

You have a great height, girl!

[ItsTheNephilim]

"This shirt/t-shirt looks really good on you!"
Oh come on you say it for almost every clothing I wear, admit it.

[Lyndsielee666]

“How is your stomach still so flat after two kids, they’re actually your sisters aren’t they”
Like damn go away I know I look like I’m 15 thanks

[wittymilf]

One time a guy told me ‘I was watching you at the gym and you looked really supple’ ew ew ew🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️🏃‍♀️

[Rundown]

"you look good, today"

Uh, why don't I look good every other day?

It's cause I "dressed up" that day, isn't it?

I get it, we're so used to seeing people in casual clothing, ya know, jeans and a t, so, when we see a suit or a dress, we go, "wow, you look good, today".

Some of us will even ask "why"? Why so dressed up for something so casual like a casual workplace. I don't know, maybe I just wanted to dress up, is that so bad?

[Secret6620]

"You're too pretty to be frowning, so smile" eyeroll how about you smile lol😊💜🤙

[bruhskrrrt]

Omg I know, that's so annoying especially when strange men on the street say it to you 😬

[Secret6620]

@bruhskrrrt exactly like I am sorry I don't want to wrinkle prematurely. Resting bitch face stays 😒😒😒

[MrCommodore]

The "Most girls would kill for your eye lashes" compliment makes me paranoid

[Seket]

"You are the nicest guy I've ever met."

It turns me off because it's always a lie.

[hellacray]

Nice haircut.

First few times is ok. But when I hear nice haircut every time I cut my hair I soon realize they're not saying it cause it's nice. They're just pointing out I look different.

[stonecloud]

"wow you look great without your glasses!" like... Ok damn im just trying to see

[NightFlirt]

Heaven must be crying, because I'm looking at an angel.
Sorry I'm no angel, think lower planes

[Visciousbutturchubby]

Im Noangel. And who might i get pleasure out of now!!!

[NightFlirt]

@Visciousbutturchubby A succubus is much more fun than an angel. No angel will do the down and dirty sex that a succubus loves to do.

[Visciousbutturchubby]

6265235579 well see

[Cuppo_Mode]

Dam, you look like you have big pp.
I don't like that, but I never experienced that so erm, yeh. It will never happend so yeh.

[IrishMann]

I find if someone is giving compliments all the time they really mean nothing, Its just that they cannot hold a conversation about anything that is not shallow.

[MusicMayhem]

Fake ones. Don't make a compliment unless it's genuine. People can read bs. Your body language betrays you.

[PrincessLorelei]

“You’re really smart”. Or “you are so nice” Like how do you know? I don’t talk to you ever.

[Daviid_]

So you mean.. What compliments really say what you don't want to hear. Basically you want him to lie to earn false confidence.

[iFarted]

You're attractive... for an Asian guy...

Like.. wtf is that supposed to mean?

[Snakeyes7]

I’d still take it. I’d rather hear that than something like “you are exactly like every other guy I met; a carbon copy”

[StephenCF]

People complimenting my hair on a bad hair day, as if my good hair days are when people don’t care or don’t like 😢

[BatmansWife]

“You’re pretty for a black girl.” Like black females can’t be attractive.

[Dav1ss]

You have nice eyes
Or I'd love to spend my life with you

[Dav1ss]

And other ba done is your very slim

[LowSelfSteem]

@Dav1ss why is "I'd love to spend my life with you" a turn off?

[bruhskrrrt]

"You're so nice," thanks but I'm showing you my fake side. It means you'll never get to see the real me if you compliment me like that :)

[Expecto_patronads]

Any time someone tacks on "for a black guy" to a compliment

[optimistgirl]

If I don’t know the guy super well, any comments on my body

[grega239]

That I have pretty eyes.
Ok I get it

It's repeatetive, and annoying

[naijagurl]

“You’re pretty for a black girl”

[PrinceOfAljazeera]

I don't know how that is turn off, must women do look pretty with makeup on only

[Arrivals_209]

When you are looking at that person or person's Face n u c right through it as not sincere

[Sofia93]

“I love your confidence”

[5_AM_Oracle]

'Not bad for a scrub'

[Babygirl_S]

"Nice boobs! Are they real?"

[Twenty2]

How many times has anyone asked you that?

[Babygirl_S]

I don't remember. It's likely to happen when you have a bigger cup size with a small waist.

[Twenty2]

I can understand tho still I won't say something like that to someone's face smh

[mermaidia_lol]

A compliment is a compliment to me.

[AilsaGourly]

I don't like short girls but you're cute

[licksalot]

You did good for what you got

[cmoney88bags]

Hey i see u finally got new shoes lol

[Agem123]

You don't look your ethnicity.

[fulloflife]

I like big girls.

[thetruth1]

you are a prostitute
and a good for nothing

[shthappens]

You look smaller out of work

[MrHopper]

You look well

[PerryDaBud]

"ur mom gay"

[AilsaGourly]

That kinda turns me on XD

[PerryDaBud]

@AilsaGourly that's what 13 years old like me says :)

[PerryDaBud]

i am an epic gamer boy 😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎😎

[KeniKeni]

"You're cute".

[Twenty2]

You're cute

[jazz_tea]

You look tired!!