Girls, is it bad that I basically worship my girlfriend, basically doing whatever she wants when she wants?

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Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There needs to be healthy boundaries, and it's very important that any relationships you have in life (not just romantic ones) are not one-sided. There should be compromise to ensure the happiness of both parties involved.

If you stick to only doing whatever she wants at the expense of your own wishes, you will eventually end up miserable. Another thing to remember is that you teach people how to treat you, and right now you're teaching her that you are going to be her doormat. Trust me, as someone who has been way too lenient of a friend and tried to do anything I could to make my friends happy and be the best friend possible, I have a lot of experience in this area, and have been taken advantage of a lot because of my lack of boundaries and willingness to allow everything to be about the other person at the expense of my own happiness. My romantic relationships were also tarnished because of this.

muliebrity · Accepted Answer

only if you never get your own needs fulfilled. Its you and your partners responsibility to find mutually satisfying solutions. I think its great that you know how to give but equally important is growing with the partner. Growing pains entails communicating effectively with each other about individualized needs to couple focused needs. Even if it means that it might create some tension.

Anonymous · Answer

As long as it doesn't escalate from small things, I would deem it acceptable, though I would try to nip this at the bud. If you keep doing things she wants you to do without arguing or discussing the action asked of you, then she could start to change in the future. As demands she makes start to be denied by you, she could start acting out in a way you didn't know she was like. It could also create a dependency that is not healthy, where she Is always looking to you to care for her instead of remaining even slightly more independent and able to take care of herself. This could also work towards you, where you would constantly be going to her about decisions or what to do with your time.

1231prncss · Answer

You're spoiling her. You're also showing her that you always be there for her no matter what this can actually backfire as she may begin to take you for granted and constantly expect you to do everything for her. You obviously are crazy about her but eventually you'll get tired of constantly catering to her needs. relationships should be 50/50.

Lady_Frost · Answer

That's actually good, as long as you do not let yourself being taken advantage of or let yourself be walked over. Essentially this is how relationships should be - make your partner happy.

Worshipping however could be a bit over the top. Just respect her, compliment her, lift her up BUT NEVER put her or yourself on the pedestal. Be both on top of it.

SueAnon84 · Answer

Well what if you hate something that she loved? ! I am sure you two aren't that perfectly matched that there isn't anything that you find annoying (even about her!) or just don't like! No body is perfect! No relationship is perfect! If it is/was then hey you''re pretty lucky! Not a lot of people can find that!

Annie12234 · Answer

Nope, it’s not that bad that you are worship to your girlfriend ❤️

Anonymous · Answer

These types of relationships are fine UNTIL...

1. You are giving everything of yourself to the point where your life is literally all about her all the time
2. You feel like you're being taken advantage of
3. You want someone to do the same for you and you're just not getting that from her at all and she makes no efforts to try

HOAAH · Answer

Having boundaries is healthy for all relationships. Try reading the boundaries series books by Townsend and cloud.

Hamsteroids · Answer

I mean as long as you’re not her slave, I don’t see the problem in wanting to appease your woman and keep her happy

ImSparkly · Answer

No, now lick my leather boots clean. Seriously though, if you feel like your the only one mindful of her needs and she doesn't give a c**p about your, then it may be time to reconsider the dynamics.

Melshmallow046 · Answer

Yes, I couldn't respect a man like that. In fact, there was a guy who claimed he was in love with me who essentially did that, and it weirded me out despite us being friends initially.

TheWaterisFine · Answer

Yes, it's bad. No one needs to be "worshipped" she's gonna get more out of you than you will from her so it's not reciprocal. What will happen to your self worth?

Screenwriter · Answer

Worship? Love, respect, admire, great! Worship and do whatever she wants seems to downplay what your wants and needs are. Sounds a bit troubling.

Neeceeb7 · Answer

so long as she isn't taking advantage of it. it's probably fine for now. but eventually it's probably going to go bad eventually

arabgoddess · Answer

That's a bit of a turn off for most girls.. Be yourself, not a pushover!

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on if you like doing it, and as long as she doesn’t get spoiled and starts taking advantage of you. If you’re happy and she treats you well then there’s no problem.

KacyWatson1991 · Answer

I don't see anything wrong here. Ofcorce worship her. As long as she treats you right. Never takes advantage of you. Everything is right with worshiping your girlfriend as you should. I worship mine.

Warmapplecrumble · Answer

As long as she worships you back ♥

NicolaJ35 · Answer

It's not a bad thing as long as you don't become a complete walkover

GirlFromPlanetEarth · Answer

Yes  this is very bad and I don't think a girl would like a guy that do this guys like this looks like servants to me

DovahKittyLady · Answer

If it's not reciprocated then your relationship is not healthy.

Anonymous · Answer

No that's pretty normal thing among white men to basically worship their women. I have seen so many hot white guys with ugly white girls that I just wanna puke now.

ivysandy · Answer

No, it not bad at all, both parties should participate

Poppykate · Answer

You are young. It’s called puppy love. 🐶 Enjoy.

nerms123 · Answer

It’s ok as long as you don’t resent it

ConfusednClueless · Answer

Depends on if she respects you. 💯

Wowgirl30q · Answer

Good pets come when they are called. Sorry😮

AshleyMadison00 · Answer

No if it works it works

yourfavperson · Answer

as long as its reciprocated

dwiller943 · Answer

Depends...

mermaidia_lol · Answer

Yes.

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