How can I stop being jealous of my boyfriend's brother's girlfriend?

[jellybellyfishy]

I feel intimidated by my boyfriend's brother's gfs. He has a new girlfriend now and I still feel the same. I can't stop comparing myself to her, but not in the way that I want to be like her, but I somehow want to be better than her. There are other reasons too, for example she has the opportunities that I strive to have, and I'm still working to have them but she already had them in the first place. I don't want my boyfriend to think that his brother has a better relationship than we do. My boyfriend's brother's girlfriend has some work done like boob job, rhinoplasty, lip fillers etc. She looked a bit masculine and not even half as attractive before the surgeries and she is very young yet. I've never gotten any work done and I have a feminine look and a body-face frame like Ariana Grande for example, but she is tall and looks like a model but at the same time before the surgeries she looked masculine. As much as I don't want to feel that way, I just want everyone in the family and outsiders to think that I'm better. What can I do to stop it? Is it normal? I don't want people to value fake beauty more than natural.

[theCobbler]

Well firstly , there is no comparison, I don't know why...( women especially) anyone tries the comparison check game! We are all unique in our own way, she was born with a silver lining , I'd guess, and you were born plain wrapper ,? But take pride in the fact that everything You've achieved has been with hard work and on your own !!!

Secondly,) you e got her beat hands down and dont even know it, ...
Your natural, no high maintenance, no drama... she's gonna be Sorry, all those surgeries are not good for, anyone , and she's young yet..

Wanting everyone to think Your better.. Well , that's conceited if not selfish! " Truth will Out "
Let her dig her own grave, you need to hang back , observe and kill her with kindness! she's new to the scene, ! Dont play the scenario head game either, ask your boyfriend what he thinks of her in a round about way , see if your right ! Your boyfriend is Your boyfriend for a reason !
What people? Who people? the only People who really matter, Is, You ( first) , boyfriend, and immediate family's! the rest of the world could give a shit less...

Real honest to goodness People won't value Fake !

[jellybellyfishy]

thank you for this comment! It really helps.

[theCobbler]

You're very welcome! Stay true to Yourself, and have great weekend!

[jellybellyfishy]

Thank you! Have a great weekend as well.

[TonyMetal_1986]

You should stop looking at her and thinking about her and focus on yourself and accept yourself the way you are and be happy about it.

At least your beauty is natural, keep yourseld busy in love with your boyfriend and think about your future together.

[jellybellyfishy]

Yeah you are right. I do the things you say, but you know only sometimes that feeling comes and takes me over. It's really hard to explain, but maybe it's a bit because she has the opportunities that I strive to have and she has it under her feet, while I still have to wait and be patient till I have those things but not material things, like simple things such as being close to your boyfriend all the time etc. and also I know it sounds silly but I want to be superior, I hope it doesn't make me shallow or anything. But thanks for the advice

[TonyMetal_1986]

Yeah i understand you, we all have such feelings that occurs to us from time to time and it's something natural as long as you control it and knows how to deal with it.

Maybe some of the things you want, she might already have them but who told you that she ain't feeling the same about you, like how about you having things that she doesn't have?

Your already superior to her cause god gave you natural beauty and about being closer to your boyfriend, well you should work on it and one day you might have it.

Nothing and no one is perfect, you just have to adapt and accept things the way they are, if you can make them better, it's good and if you can't, than be happy with what you have 🙂

[jellybellyfishy]

Yeah, that's very accurate. Yeah, who knows maybe she thinks the same about me. I know that she is insecure about herself cos my boyfriend says that she gets overly jealous with her boyfriend (my bf's brother). And as she surgecially altered her physical appearance, maybe she is more insecure than me... Thanks for your comments. I really appreciate them.

[TonyMetal_1986]

Your welcome sweet girl 😊

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You should never worry about if someone is better than you or if you're better than them. Just be the best you can be. And don't compare relationships. And put more importance into what kind of relationship you and your boyfriend have and less about anyone else's relationships. Jealousy is not good, and can consume you if you let it. Life should never be about trying to be where others are or what others have. It should be where do you want to be for yourself, what do you want and because that's what you really want and not just want because others do. The best way to get others to value you as a person is to first value yourself.

[jellybellyfishy]

yeah that's very true... but it's not easy to avoid it at times. I will really work on it more. Thank you so much for your comment.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You just need to love and respect yourself for you. See your differences from someone else as a good thing not a bad thing. Hope it helps. ♥️🤗

[jellybellyfishy]

Yeah it really helps thank you <3 hope you'll have a great week

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

You as well. Stay safe ♥️

[potatoiswhoiam]

You'll surely fuck up your relationship to comparing it to someone else's relationship. People are different. It's not a competition. She's not your rival. All you need to care about is that your boyfriend loves you and only you. If he loved her that's a different story but she's not even close to being his girl, so what's the matter?
Really try to just focus on your relationship and stop caring about what others would think, cuz that's a really unhealthy mindset to have

[Secret6620]

Practice self love and gratitude for what you have to offer. Don't focus on what you don't have. Recipe for disaster
😓✌️☮️

[jellybellyfishy]

Yeah I know that but everytime they post a new picture together, or she posts a picture of herself, I feel like comparing myself and also she gets so many likes like 200-400 likes for one picture, whereas I only get around 20-30, I know it's not something that decides reality but still it's stressful to me. I don't know how to get over it actually. Thanks for your comment!

[Ahme_Alone]

You have to accept yourself , and make sure that you're perfect in your boyfriend's sight
So forget about her and be normal
Complete your life as you have planned don't let that feel of jealous kill your relations

[jellybellyfishy]

I don't make it obvious to anybody but it makes me unhappy inside when I feel that intense jealousy, but it's not like it happens all the time, it happens only occasionally, especially if like they post a new photo together or so, I feel like comparing myself to her unconsciously and even though I know I am a natural beauty, I just don't want people to think she is a natural beauty too you know what i mean? Cos she has many followers and likes on social media, seems popular but she has like boob implants, chin fillers, lip fillers, rhinoplasty and heavy make up.. I hope it doesn't make me sound bad, but you know what I mean. Thank you for yor comment

[Ahme_Alone]

I know what you mean, but this is not war She owns her own life, and you also own your own life So if she betrays someone she is betraying herself You are beautiful as you do not need to prove it, just trust yourself, you're always welcome

[Ahme_Alone]

Sorry, I meant cheating
I missed the expression

[jellybellyfishy]

Yeah you are right. If you cheat others, you also cheat yourself. So as long as we stay true to ourselves we shouldn't feel inferior. Hope you have a great day!

[jellybellyfishy]

I got what you mean haha

[Ahme_Alone]

I hope you have a great life

[Ahme_Alone]

I know that you got it haha

[Laozi]

He who knows that enough is enough will always have enough. Apply this in your life and you'll find peace.

[Chris1690]

A would stop worrying, she obviously has the problems with all the surgery, anyone with sense will see that , natural beauty out classes false

[Avicenna]

You need to see how ridiculous it is to compare yourself to others.

[BBFDancer]

Just go as tell her how you feel. She might be jealous of you for some other reason.