How to get a "player" to commit? for the fellas :)

[Anonymous]

Hey fellas,

I was wondering on what makes a guy seriously commit to a girl? I'm talking about a guy who has "commitment issues" and the "greener pastures" mentality. I'm talking about a guy in his early 20s...what makes you forget about all the other girls and just think about that one? and want to be with that one girl instead of all the others? What sort of things do you look for in a girl that would make you think that way about her...

what sort of girl would you look for to help change your playa ways ;)

just wondering and thank you!

[Anonymous]

Probably tough to change a player but I wouldn't say it is impossible. It's pretty simple really. Be fun to be around and don't stress him out about stuff. Also, treat him like he's the best thing since dark chocolate frozen yogurt and I think he'd be down to settle down at least for a short while... while you make him want to settle down for longer...

[Anonymous]

You cannot change a person they have to decide for themselves. A lot of girls try, and they invest so much time and effort that they throw years away trying to change the one they want.

Honestly, there isn't all that much you can do. If you try to do stuff, you'll just appear clingy/needy. Just live your life, if it is meant to be it'll happen.

[TheFireman]

First off you can't "put out" too fast and you can't let stuff get to you like jealousy too fast in the relationship. If its things you can stand you have to speak up and talk to it about him. Also find out where you are with him by talking to him. If your looking for something serious and he is stuck in the player mode little is going to change him. Change takes time so you need to date him a while if you expect change.