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My player did commit ;)
But it didn't happen overnight. We got to know each other little by little.
When you know he's a player, it's better to keep your defenses up every step of the way until you know for sure that his intentions are good.
It took him seven months to tell me he loved me, but when he did it was amazing :) because no girl before me had that chance. He had flowers, gifts and macarons in hand (sometimes when players commit they can become incredibly romantic).
But okay just to be clear, this doesn't happen all the time. I wanted nothing to do with him at first because of that. The best chance you've got is: be yourself, stand up for yourself, point out what you won't tolerate when it's needed, keep your distances until you're sure he's not playing with you, and DON'T dive head first into a relationship with him.
And and most importantly, be ready to leave without looking back if he's not 100% honest with you.
Players are used to having girls following them around, be the exception.
ain't nobody got time for that! I wanted commitment and so I looked for someone else who did too I haven't got the patience for "players" or "bad boys" and I refuse to try to change anyone because I know it's not worth my time and effort. Took me until I was 18 to get my first boyfriend because I knew what I wanted and wasn't willing to put up with any games, I wanted someone mature, who also shares my morals and values (mainly feminism) and I found him 8 months ago and it's been conflict free bliss ever since! I doubt most players will be players forever but they need to come to that realization on their own, so let them make their mistakes without dragging you along for the ride! If you run into them sometimes down the road and they have changed on their own then go for it just be cautious.
I've had it happen to me but i'm not sure if it he just wanted what he couldn't have. This guy who was known to be a player tried dating me and I kept rejecting him and ignoring him and not acknowledging his presence. He chased after me for 3 years before he finally finished college. My friends who were really good friends with his friends told me he was completely depressed that i wouldn't date him and that he was in love with me.
Who knows man. He was a huge player before me that's for sure.
Basically the only way i have found to get a player to fall for you is if you act uninterested or ARE uninterested. So basically you guys can never be together... once he has you he won't want you.
Great opinion. Thank You.
Did you too like finally end up together and start fucking?
Nope we never got together i never would
Just because a person is "very attractive" and lots of girls like him doesn't make him a player. Players are mainly the guys who are messing with the girls emotions, leading them on, hooking up with them and then going off with other girls.
In your situation, simply being attractive and having lots of girls after him still leave you with a chance, but you'll have to be worth it.
If he's an actual player and you try to change him, prepare to get used. That's all. Trying to change him just puts you in a position to get hurt and if you're the type of girl that is into changing a guy, you'll just get bored of him if he does change. But what mostly happens is you just get used for sex and left disappointed.
Some people do actually change however I would hazard a guess and so most don't. I usually just make it a rule of thumb not to date people like that
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I've (unfortunately) been called or implied to be a player more than a few times so maybe I can offer a little insight. In my case I'm not ready for a long term marriage-like relationship yet. I'm still learning and experimenting until I figure things out. I don't hide this from people I'm with. That isn't to say that something couldn't develop from that it just isn't the right timing.
I think it depends more on the people involved and the timing rather than them necessarily being a player, assuming of course I'm even one.
Having oeople after you doesn't mean you're playing them. You probably have had more thsn one guy after you without even kniwing it. Also being nice diesnt Jean you click with him.
If you guys get along and are attracted to each other and he's intersted in a rekationship there's a possibility whether others are after him ir not.
However if he's chasing them bc he likes to chase then he'll get bored even if he agreed to committing. Some oeopke just like running they don't want to sit down and watch the scenery. Others dont get off the couch unkess they have to.
The ones you don't want are the ones who pretend to be what they are not just to get what they want.
Nothing wrong with wanting a commitment or not wanting a commitment... It's when you lie about what you want to the other person IS. given false information and is therefore making uninformed decisions... That's when it's wring. Everything else is just different strokes.
You probably need a fair bit to bring to the table.
I know of this guy in real life who is super good looking and survives doing modeling and extras for TV work. He has no qualifications. This bloke has lawyers, doctors, heirs of top businessmen etc running after him. The woman who bagged him was a doctor from a very wealthy family who was 2 years older than him. I know her personally - she's slightly average in looks, very intelligent, kind, and well off. Prior to them getting serious, I know of several really hot women who dated him and were expecting something serious, even though he ade it clear to them that they're just friends (FWB) and didn't want anything serious.
It actually depends how the person wants in the long run. Some players will just want to hook up with many women but eventually when they meet the right person, they' commit. And some will not. If you're looking for a long term relationship or even a future in general with them, and they're still wanting to only hook up, then you should just move. I don't know your exact situation though. If you're not sure, you can always talk them and hear them out. Just don't try and convince them or pursuance them if they're not looking to commit. Only they can make that change
Look at it this way: how many players do you see out there in their 50s? Fewer than players in their 40s? And are they fewer than the number of players in their 30s or 20s? If so, either it means that players are eventually committing, or they're all dying in tragic bus accidents!
They do but you have to pay a price. You have to be beautiful not like the most beautiful but standard beauty not ashaming to be with in public. Dress super nice and be a good conversationalist.. not a ball-buster but a sweet funny and low-voice toned girl.. Players are not looking for the best but someone to settle down with with no stress.. Presidents are the most powerful people in a country but they don't have the prettiest wives do they? Cheating and looking elsewhere has a lot to do with than the guy. Its in the nature of all male animals to be polygamous but humans being humans differ in that they can manipulate nature based on circumstances. So its your job to create the circumstences
So many good responses here because this can probably go so many different ways, even though a player is a player every person isn't the same. If we know a player wants to play with your emotions and get into your pants, the best way to avoid that is make him prove he's done playing. Dont have sex with someone you have these doubts about. If he's worth it, he will stick around, and not just long enough to get some. a player wants conquests. If he (or she!) can't conquer you, they will either leave, prove that they can't be trusted, or prove that theyre in it for the long haul. Anything less proves they dont deserve you. And yes, being attractive, single, and not ready to settle down, is different than just being a player. Its about your honesty with people in my opinion
I know some that settle down and those that want to settle down in their late 30's. It's their plan. The irony is that they are so good with women by then, they can get the girl they want and settle. I suggest every man take a few years to be a player.
Nah. Player's don't even have to be super attractive, may just be charming. But it's not really a matter of any of that. It's honestly just a matter of preference. I personally don't like commitment, it's boring to me. But my mind may change when I'm older or if I met the "right" person (though I doubt it). everyone is different!
1. If I'm a player I'm going to continue being a player just saying.
2. a player is always going to be a player.
3. player never falls in love because he's a player he only thinks like a player would think meaning he would get in all your feelings and then as soon as you give them the chance to get in your pants he's going to give you some good sex with all that good sex that he's going to give you he's going to break your heart later on.
4. Do not get yourself in that situation.
Although I don't think I got that description
But I do date a lot or used to anyways lol this is my last week to date around.
I don't see my self committing or becoming exclusive? Tied down? I did have committed relationships before. And it just wasn't right to me.
But I'm pretty sure, if and when I do come across that one girl, that unicorn. I may end up settling
Sometimes. Crappy answer I guess, but I've seen it happen both ways. Sometimes they just end up growing up and wanting what the rest of us wanted in the first place. Takes them years longer to get there, or maybe it's the right person finally helps change their tune. I've also seen it where that hasn't happened and doesn't look likely to.
i think 2 factors will influence him the most. how hot she is and if he wants a relatinoship/settle down. girls will always like players and men who aren't good for them, they value men who can get othe women or they just like the challege and makes them go all saviour complex on them
When they want to settle down and have kids they start looking for a wife. They often look for different qualities in a wife than what they dated. They are very pragmatic about it.
Do you think they stop dating the types they used to date after they marry the type they didn't date... I mean maybe there's dating type and marriage type and they just don't mix them but continue to have both... I don't know if someine who's used to playing around ever gets over it even if they get to a point where they want to marry... That's just kind of like a security thing. Doesn't mean they wouldn't continue to want the rest. I don't know. I don't players Irl - only player plagiarists :p- so it's all conjecture. But I wonder:-)
@Azara Some do. Probably quite a few. I think that most (not all) marry with the intent of being faithful.
But a lot of people are tempted to cheat, and when they -know- they can cheat easily...
Note they don't marry for security. They marry to raise a family. They feel more secure having a line up of friends with benefits on call, and less secure in a relationship.
@Lustylucy to marry? Absolutely not. Abusive guys with low self esteem might.
I've read what players look for in a wife and high on the list is good relationship with her father, good self esteem, good sex drive but low count, often religious, traditional, probably a 'good girl'.
The insecure girls they pump and dump.
@Lustylucy Well, I think some of the guys who do what I'm talking about are good, some aren't, some are narcissists, some aren't. Significantly though, they're not looking for someone to -abuse-. They're also not looking to get married to have someone to control, because the key of being a player is they exert control primarily by creating competition. They don't commit because that gives the woman control over their sex life, if they have multiple girls, then none of them have power over them. So for players, marriage is a massive risk. The only real reason most are doing it is to raise a family. So they are basically selecting partner based on A) how good a mother she'll be, B) that she's an appealing long term sex partner and C) that her own ethics mean she's likely to provide what he wants without great control, because its the lifestyle she's grown up looking forward to.
yeaah that's what always heard but trust me it's not always the case
this guy i met lately was a total player and he is realy looking for commitement and so i gived him a chance and all but guess what he wants a commited relationship but in the same way that he has been doing it before , you know sex then friends then if it works out why not
and the truth is that it could never work out which would leave me in a very weak position
and so i realised that ones you are player you'll always be
Only if he's tired of the game... you may be a nice girl but he's thinking about the next 10 nice girls
The only way I can think of it happening is if he's getting too old and just wants to settle after having all the fun.
I won’t care enough to stay around and find out. Fortunately, I’ve never been involved with a player but that’s because I’m smart enough to recognize a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Players are disgusting and they deserve sleazy, disloyal whores: not good women. You can’t change a man: he has to want to change himself. If you try to change him, you’ll probably just hurt yourself in the process.
I am not attractive, But In my younger days I was a bit of flirt you call it a PLAYER I had that charm not my looks some girls went nuts over?
Sorry back to your QUESTION yes I did meet that nice girl and I married her and for 26 years we was
together
Sure he will... nearly all of them will committ at some point. They are expected to. It makes them look good in all the 'right' circles. It does not, however, mean that they will be able to stay faithful.
Why would you want to settle down with a player? As a guy, they typically don't settle down. There are always exceptions and some change but most don't. I don't get why you would. That's says a big statement
Yes he will eventually commit but not going to happen because he met an extremely nice girl. Because why not have 3 of those? Its a personality change he has to do himself and for the sake of not being heartbroken dont even try.
I think there's always that one person that'll make us want to change our ways and be something better than what we've been. So yeah... I think a player can commit. If he wants the girl bad enough then I think it is very possible.
That's like asking if a sailboat can ever take flight.
I suppose, under some bizarre set of weird circumstances, it could happen, but it's not bloody likely.
Girls who crave attention from many guys constantly only settle when their looks begin to fade and at that point I would not want her since she is only "settling" because she can't get the attention she used to get. Because at the first sign of attention from some other guy, she is likely to flake off or cheat.
well. i am a girl, and i hate relationships. i like casual dating, which labels me as a player appearantly. But yes they will/can settle down sooner or later
Why would he? Women make it so easy for him. Its not his fault that women are dazed by looks and/or money. Why would he commit when he knows that if he didn't have looks and/or money women wouldn't give him the time of day and he would be one of those guys that can't get a woman to save their lives?
Depends his mentality. If he went to get some bed time then that's probably all he is looking for. If he is looking for more than he will probably be more shy about the situation.
A guy will give up one nights stands, for the girl he can't stand one night without
I love this response. :)
Nope. That's why they're players. You can't just say, "Oh, I think casual sex and numerous sex partners are some BS now, I just only want to have one girl forever and never sleep with other women."
For the right woman at the right age. All players I know started to commit in their late 20's, usually after knocking somebody up.
It's not impossible. They may. If you do like them, then it's at least worth a shot to try it out. A relationships may well develop!
well eventually the game will end so either the player is going to have to commit or he/she will end up alone.
I was a player. I'm committed to my girl even though she still has a hard time trusting me. Would never betray her.
Keep up the good work! It gives the rest of us hope! Lol
yes. if he REALLY falls in love with some girl, he will
If I am attractive and if several girls are interested no chance i will settle down. I am expert player, girls should avoid guys like me. i just wanna get into girls panties.
Yes when he is 60. Sorry it won't be you though. They might get someone 20 years younger.
Come on now that's harsh. Do guys like that even exist?
@socialbeast That's what all of them do though. They don't manage to settle sometimes.
Jack Nicholson wanted to settle in old age, but no woman would take him seriously. They all saw him as a player and had only intention of either using him, having a fling, or running from him.
@socialbeast i don't think you seen those old fat dudes with young infantile looking girls from Philippines, thailand and china yet
I don't think thats how it works at all. *reads it again*. Nope, thats not it.
Depends on the person. It's best when the player finally decides it's time to commit, it'll mean she/he is serious.
I don't think someone who girs from messing with peoples emotions to marriage necessarily means they changed. committing bc you gave no choice isn't the same as changing. It really depends in why they chose to commit. And of course people can fall in love feel changed then after the hormones die diwn they go back to their old ways. You never really know.
Possibly, but probably not. They may get married, but often cheat. A player is different than someone who simply sleeps around, in my eyes. There's a power/control aspect at work.
Players do tend to commit at some point but they don't stop fucking around, if that's what you meant.
Hahah what's wrong with that?
He will if it's the right girl and he's ready, those two together are really important, sometimes they'll meet a girl they really like but it's bad timing and he's not ready
Yes. If its someone worth the time. If you still want to look around i'd just date and move slow. It all depends on what your seeking out of a relationship
My ex was like that, I can be like that sometimes too. He made his own conscious decision to not be that person. A woman can't change a man from the 'player' frame of mind.
yes, but they are cunts and don't deserve anyone ever.
I think the player can commit. Once he finds the right girl who he believes is enough and makes him happy, he'll never want to become a player again.
There's a possibility but an unlikely one. Don't count on it.
Why would you want the player when you can have guys who don't play girls?
Haha dream on this girl's fantasy of changing the player will never happen a true player never changes.
Yes if she doesn't give it to easily and makes me work for it. Then might be a possibility.
Will a player commit? Yeah he'll commit to you and all the other women he's seeing.
He may but don't expect him to stop being a player. Once a player always a player. He will try to have cake and eat it too. He most certainly will cheat
Maybe, maybe not. Probably not, though. Odds are it'd just be a waste of time and feelings.
When he or she meets the right girl he or she will otherwise no
being player isn't any criteria for being committed...
I'm a player but if thats really you in your profile pic there's a 90% chance I'd commit.
Why would a woman even WANT a player for a long term relationship?
Damn. Well ill be one to tell you, if he doesn't commit, i sure as hell will.
I might some people do go from being a douche to being a nice guy give him a chance.
One day when I'm done playing I will commit. Just don't go for the player
once a bastard always a bastard. don't let your self be fooled. and dont think you can change him...
Yes ! Some girls I don't see a future with maybe too young
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