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My player did commit ;)
But it didn't happen overnight. We got to know each other little by little.
When you know he's a player, it's better to keep your defenses up every step of the way until you know for sure that his intentions are good.
It took him seven months to tell me he loved me, but when he did it was amazing :) because no girl before me had that chance. He had flowers, gifts and macarons in hand (sometimes when players commit they can become incredibly romantic).
But okay just to be clear, this doesn't happen all the time. I wanted nothing to do with him at first because of that. The best chance you've got is: be yourself, stand up for yourself, point out what you won't tolerate when it's needed, keep your distances until you're sure he's not playing with you, and DON'T dive head first into a relationship with him.
And and most importantly, be ready to leave without looking back if he's not 100% honest with you.
Players are used to having girls following them around, be the exception.
ain't nobody got time for that! I wanted commitment and so I looked for someone else who did too I haven't got the patience for "players" or "bad boys" and I refuse to try to change anyone because I know it's not worth my time and effort. Took me until I was 18 to get my first boyfriend because I knew what I wanted and wasn't willing to put up with any games, I wanted someone mature, who also shares my morals and values (mainly feminism) and I found him 8 months ago and it's been conflict free bliss ever since! I doubt most players will be players forever but they need to come to that realization on their own, so let them make their mistakes without dragging you along for the ride! If you run into them sometimes down the road and they have changed on their own then go for it just be cautious.
I've had it happen to me but i'm not sure if it he just wanted what he couldn't have. This guy who was known to be a player tried dating me and I kept rejecting him and ignoring him and not acknowledging his presence. He chased after me for 3 years before he finally finished college. My friends who were really good friends with his friends told me he was completely depressed that i wouldn't date him and that he was in love with me.
Who knows man. He was a huge player before me that's for sure.
Just because a person is "very attractive" and lots of girls like him doesn't make him a player. Players are mainly the guys who are messing with the girls emotions, leading them on, hooking up with them and then going off with other girls.
In your situation, simply being attractive and having lots of girls after him still leave you with a chance, but you'll have to be worth it.
If he's an actual player and you try to change him, prepare to get used. That's all. Trying to change him just puts you in a position to get hurt and if you're the type of girl that is into changing a guy, you'll just get bored of him if he does change. But what mostly happens is you just get used for sex and left disappointed.
Some people do actually change however I would hazard a guess and so most don't. I usually just make it a rule of thumb not to date people like that
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I've (unfortunately) been called or implied to be a player more than a few times so maybe I can offer a little insight. In my case I'm not ready for a long term marriage-like relationship yet. I'm still learning and experimenting until I figure things out. I don't hide this from people I'm with. That isn't to say that something couldn't develop from that it just isn't the right timing.
I think it depends more on the people involved and the timing rather than them necessarily being a player, assuming of course I'm even one.
Having oeople after you doesn't mean you're playing them. You probably have had more thsn one guy after you without even kniwing it. Also being nice diesnt Jean you click with him.
If you guys get along and are attracted to each other and he's intersted in a rekationship there's a possibility whether others are after him ir not.
However if he's chasing them bc he likes to chase then he'll get bored even if he agreed to committing. Some oeopke just like running they don't want to sit down and watch the scenery. Others dont get off the couch unkess they have to.
The ones you don't want are the ones who pretend to be what they are not just to get what they want.
Nothing wrong with wanting a commitment or not wanting a commitment... It's when you lie about what you want to the other person IS. given false information and is therefore making uninformed decisions... That's when it's wring. Everything else is just different strokes.
You probably need a fair bit to bring to the table.
I know of this guy in real life who is super good looking and survives doing modeling and extras for TV work. He has no qualifications. This bloke has lawyers, doctors, heirs of top businessmen etc running after him. The woman who bagged him was a doctor from a very wealthy family who was 2 years older than him. I know her personally - she's slightly average in looks, very intelligent, kind, and well off. Prior to them getting serious, I know of several really hot women who dated him and were expecting something serious, even though he ade it clear to them that they're just friends (FWB) and didn't want anything serious.
It actually depends how the person wants in the long run. Some players will just want to hook up with many women but eventually when they meet the right person, they' commit. And some will not. If you're looking for a long term relationship or even a future in general with them, and they're still wanting to only hook up, then you should just move. I don't know your exact situation though. If you're not sure, you can always talk them and hear them out. Just don't try and convince them or pursuance them if they're not looking to commit. Only they can make that change
Look at it this way: how many players do you see out there in their 50s? Fewer than players in their 40s? And are they fewer than the number of players in their 30s or 20s? If so, either it means that players are eventually committing, or they're all dying in tragic bus accidents!
They do but you have to pay a price. You have to be beautiful not like the most beautiful but standard beauty not ashaming to be with in public. Dress super nice and be a good conversationalist.. not a ball-buster but a sweet funny and low-voice toned girl.. Players are not looking for the best but someone to settle down with with no stress.. Presidents are the most powerful people in a country but they don't have the prettiest wives do they? Cheating and looking elsewhere has a lot to do with than the guy. Its in the nature of all male animals to be polygamous but humans being humans differ in that they can manipulate nature based on circumstances. So its your job to create the circumstences
So many good responses here because this can probably go so many different ways, even though a player is a player every person isn't the same. If we know a player wants to play with your emotions and get into your pants, the best way to avoid that is make him prove he's done playing. Dont have sex with someone you have these doubts about. If he's worth it, he will stick around, and not just long enough to get some. a player wants conquests. If he (or she!) can't conquer you, they will either leave, prove that they can't be trusted, or prove that theyre in it for the long haul. Anything less proves they dont deserve you. And yes, being attractive, single, and not ready to settle down, is different than just being a player. Its about your honesty with people in my opinion
I know some that settle down and those that want to settle down in their late 30's. It's their plan. The irony is that they are so good with women by then, they can get the girl they want and settle. I suggest every man take a few years to be a player.
Nah. Player's don't even have to be super attractive, may just be charming. But it's not really a matter of any of that. It's honestly just a matter of preference. I personally don't like commitment, it's boring to me. But my mind may change when I'm older or if I met the "right" person (though I doubt it). everyone is different!
1. If I'm a player I'm going to continue being a player just saying.
2. a player is always going to be a player.
3. player never falls in love because he's a player he only thinks like a player would think meaning he would get in all your feelings and then as soon as you give them the chance to get in your pants he's going to give you some good sex with all that good sex that he's going to give you he's going to break your heart later on.
4. Do not get yourself in that situation.
Although I don't think I got that description
But I do date a lot or used to anyways lol this is my last week to date around.
I don't see my self committing or becoming exclusive? Tied down? I did have committed relationships before. And it just wasn't right to me.
But I'm pretty sure, if and when I do come across that one girl, that unicorn. I may end up settling
Sometimes. Crappy answer I guess, but I've seen it happen both ways. Sometimes they just end up growing up and wanting what the rest of us wanted in the first place. Takes them years longer to get there, or maybe it's the right person finally helps change their tune. I've also seen it where that hasn't happened and doesn't look likely to.
i think 2 factors will influence him the most. how hot she is and if he wants a relatinoship/settle down. girls will always like players and men who aren't good for them, they value men who can get othe women or they just like the challege and makes them go all saviour complex on them
When they want to settle down and have kids they start looking for a wife. They often look for different qualities in a wife than what they dated. They are very pragmatic about it.
Only if he's tired of the game... you may be a nice girl but he's thinking about the next 10 nice girls
The only way I can think of it happening is if he's getting too old and just wants to settle after having all the fun.
I won’t care enough to stay around and find out. Fortunately, I’ve never been involved with a player but that’s because I’m smart enough to recognize a wolf in sheep’s clothing. Players are disgusting and they deserve sleazy, disloyal whores: not good women. You can’t change a man: he has to want to change himself. If you try to change him, you’ll probably just hurt yourself in the process.
I am not attractive, But In my younger days I was a bit of flirt you call it a PLAYER I had that charm not my looks some girls went nuts over?
Sorry back to your QUESTION yes I did meet that nice girl and I married her and for 26 years we was
together
Sure he will... nearly all of them will committ at some point. They are expected to. It makes them look good in all the 'right' circles. It does not, however, mean that they will be able to stay faithful.
Why would you want to settle down with a player? As a guy, they typically don't settle down. There are always exceptions and some change but most don't. I don't get why you would. That's says a big statement
Yes he will eventually commit but not going to happen because he met an extremely nice girl. Because why not have 3 of those? Its a personality change he has to do himself and for the sake of not being heartbroken dont even try.
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