What is texting your partner like when you have depression?

[Anonymous]

Been with my boyfriend for over 2 years, we are both 19.

he is very loving in person, practically a dream boyfriend, but since this whole thing happened I haven’t seen him in 2 months and it’s been hard. He opened up to me In February about having depression, but that I was the only person he ever told and he was happy he did.

Anyways, during this quarantine there has been a few times where he just totally ignored my texts and apologized the next day or next 10 hours saying he was feeling down.

like the other day we were texting and then he suddenly left the conversation and didn’t text back for almost 24 hours and he said he loved me very much and he’s sorry about yesterday but he just literally couldn’t bring himself to do anything. This seems like it’s becoming more common because quarantine is really affecting his mental health.

what is texting actually like with depression? Is it THAT hard to reply to your SO or tell them what’s going on?

[Cherokeehp]

Talking to your partner when you have depression is actually incredibly hard. I was diagnosed with depression as a child and it’s just always been something I’ve struggled with. My boyfriend has been kind of depressed since all this coronavirus stuff started. It’s mostly because I’m his girlfriend, and his best friend, and his main emotional support and we have to be long distance rn so he’s struggling to be without me. It can be really hard for us to have conversations through text or on the phone. Just give your boyfriend a chance to process his feelings and he’ll contact you when he’s ready.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Let him have his space when he needs it and don't take it personally. Allow him to talk about his feelings if he wants to but don't force it.
Yes, it is hard to text your SO if you're depressed for some. And it is hard to get up and do things because everything seems meaningless.
But you need to encourage him to build some habits that would help him find motivation, and he should also seek help if he hasn't yet

[Asker]

Thank you this is very helpful! I always send him pictures and websites of stuff he can make since he’s a rookie blacksmith and a few days ago he was doing good with that and working in his shop a lot but then I guess he fell right back into depression and started playing video games a lot, I always told him I was proud he found his motivation during this time and he thanked me, yesterday I even let him be while he played video games and he said he loved me so much so maybe it confirmed he needed space and I never usually double text or hound him if he doesn’t answerz

[potatoiswhoiam]

Great. You're doing a good job and hopefully he will feel better soon and not allow himself to get into a deeper depression

[Anonymous]

Haven. It is like having medicine which doesn't make you a zombie

[Opinion Owner]

But I preferred to hear her voice

[1stranger]

You both look very cute. Talking and texting will be good for both of you. So, this is my guess😄

[Anonymous]

Yeah. It is that hard. Believe me.

[BMWE46M3]

Call him don’t text