Is it wrong to text your partner how you’re feeling instead of having a face to face conversation?

[Anonymous]

I’m very uncomfortable voicing how I feel so I put together my thoughts and text it to him. He wants to have face to face conversations but I shut down and texting it easier for me. Once I’m comfortable, I will open up and talk but it’s generally days later. Is what I’m doing wrong?

[provokeesmokee]

No, but your partner might not like it like you do.

That said, telling your partner that you find it easier and more accurate to text first, then finding (and making) time to chat in person about it is ideal.

I had a friend who did this with her husband. They found it much easier, as they could read at their own pace and take breaks to digest information as needed without breaking an in person convo.

But it was a mutual agreement and effort.

This might be your ideal, but it may not be jiving with your boyfriend. That's okay, that's his right. He may be open to trying it, he may hate it and refuse.

The best you can do is explain to him simply, neutrally, and directly - and hope he can understand your needs.

[jahaims]

I have been with my wife for 11 years and we both will choose to text with these kind of things sometimes. It is easier to keep emotions out of it and better articulate thoughts and feelings. Sometimes I will express thought and feelings in my notes app then have her read it even. It has helped our communication and it does make having hard talks in person easier. I would make sure to talk to my partner about it first and explain why I am wanting to do things this way for a bit.

[In_Trance]

you're not a child anymore. if you are unable to have a f2f conversation, what else are you possibly going to do together?