My boyfriend stopped hanging out with his friends?

[taurene]

Not once in our 3 year relationship have I told him he shouldn't hang out with his friends. However as soon as we made it official my boyfriend would take me out with his friends a couple times a month for about 2 months... and then he would just suddenly stop hanging out with them. He spends all of his weekends and nights with me. I don't tell him to, he just decides it. It's more of a silent thing that has become a routine where we practically live together. Sometimes we go out together with my friends or our old friends from the job we met each other.. but I never hear about his friends. I always chat about what's going on in my life with him and my friends, not so much gossip, just things we do. Yet, it seems his friends have fallen off the face of the planet. He seems to avoid them at all costs.

We took a break for four months in the fall and he started hanging out with them again almost every free minute he had going out to clubs and parties and always getting drunk with them. But now that were back together the pattern happened all over again. We went out with those friends for 2 months on weekends and had fun together, but then we just stopped. And so did he, he pushed them away again and I Haven't heard a thing about them since, just like last time. I don't know if this is a problem, something I should worry about? Or is it normal? What does this mean?

[Impex]

He is very flaky to his friends, no this doens't hurt you in the least so long as he doesn't ignore you and you still get all the attention from him that you desire.

However, if this starts to translate to you then start to worry, obviously if he stops talking to you, stops hanging out with you, then something is wrong. BUt his friends are friends and nothing else, you are his girlfriend and what involves you and him is what matters the most.

[Shaun]

Why would it be a problem? You're a couple now, make couple friends.

[taurene]

That's true I guess I never thought about it, he could just be ditching them because he's not single anymore and doesn't need to play the game right? I guess I should be thankful I have a faithful and dedicated boyfriend. I just wondered if it was a behavior thing, since he gave up ALL of his friends and I only gave up one or two in the benefit of the relationship.

[Anonymous]

Do his friends like you? there's a possibility that he stops hanging out with them because they don't so they don't invite him out because you'll be there or they have different views about your relationship with him. Just a thought, this happened to me once. Not saying they don't like you, but just asking! And when I was gone, he spent all of his time with them.

[taurene]

That could be a possibility seeing as I have nothing in common with his friends. Most of his friends he stopped hanging out with are latin men that love to go out, party, and get laid. But two of them were close friends of his for a long time from when he was younger. So it just made me wonder why all of a sudden he would ditch them.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you told him that you don't like them to him? Or has he mentioned they don't like you or have they shown they don't like u? If there is some tension or differences in views then that is more than likely the reason. Like you said, if they are big party guys (much like my ex's friends) then he can't go out with them and do those things anymore since he has you so he stays home where he's safe with you and avoids fighting with you but probably gets a lot of flack from the guys, hence y he parties solo

[taurene]

Ive asked him about it once, the only thing he said to me was that you don't need friends in life. that he doesn't really like wasting the money or going out a lot. but it always confused me because I know when we were apart on our break he was partying every weekend with his boys religiously. I want to say they might not agree with our relationship because were both young in our early 20s, they might see this heavy commitment as weird or too early or just boring. who knows?

[Opinion Owner]

Sounds like he might be sticking up to his friends about your relationship since they might talk negatively about it and therefore, he's talking to you negatively about them. If he's partying a lot with them but says he doesn't agree with them, I would watch his actions, not his words. There seems to be a discrepancy here so I have a feeling there's more going on with his friends that he's telling you. I wouldn't be too worried about it, but maybe encourage him to go uot with them with you.