How do you know you're in love with someone?

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Alaistair · Accepted Answer

I know I'm in love with someone when all I wanna do is just listen to her, she wouldn't have to be talking about anything deep and meaningful even yapping about her crappy hair day would be interesting to me. Ah yes the butterflies in my tummy everytime I wanna do something with her. If her opinion about things would matter to me.
When she's isn't talking I would be yapping about even the lost random things would probably go on and on... (Don't stop believing - Journey)
I would try to watch her without her noticing to catch her smile you know the one you do when your not awarw that your being watched.
I would actually get off my ass and make something for her with my own two hands.
Her evey move in the bedroom would have my attention stiff and proud (heart boner - ninja sex party)
Every date would be its own awesome adventure (first date - ninja sex party)
Would glady be her emotional sponge whenever required especially during those days of the month
All the Bryan Adams ever on loop while I cook her dinner
Free cuddles anytime
Dress up and have a totally cool girls night out
Dress up and have a totally cool guys night out
One day during the month binge watching Tom and Jerry, Charlie Chaplin, 3 stooges
Already named the unborn kids and their kids too.
Netflix and chill
Chill without netflix
Cartoon Network classics
Tiny muffin cakes if she conscious about her weight
A million tiny muffin cakes coz I don't care if she puts on weight
Braid her hair viking style!

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Hmm well it’s different for everyone and difficult to explain  but for me it was when I felt at home with said person

jerseygal623 · Accepted Answer

For me, it’s several things:

- Doing certain tasks (like cooking, which I used to not even like doing for myself when I was single), is no longer stressful and you’re more than happy to do it for them.

- Putting their needs above your own (and not in a doormat way, but more like you care for them so much that it’s not even a second thought).

- You think about them throughout the day (but not in like an overly obsessive way that could impede on your ability to do things like be productive at work).

- Doing things that are “boring” together with them is SO much fun. (Something like grocery shopping or folding clothes.)

- Moments of silence between you two are peaceful and not awkward. In fact, you can still feel pretty close to them.

- You enjoy being in each other’s vicinity as much as possible, even if you’re not interacting directly with one another. One could be reading and one could be watching TV, but it just feels good to be in the same room.

- You still flirt. Constantly. Daily. No matter how long it’s been. (In my relationship personally, we’re daily corny af with each other. I think if people saw how cheesy we are with each other behind closed doors, with the things we do and say and the jokes we make, they might die a little inside. 😂 Maybe a lot. 🤣)

Not an exhaustive list, there are plenty others, but I also think love manifests differently for each person.

blackrose2019 · Accepted Answer

You start doing things that you never done before and your heart is settled when your around them

AmandaYVR · Answer

I'm goona give an uncharacteristically simple answer on this one - I feel a softening when I see or hear or say their name. Names are very important to me - not that I like their name (cause I don't get to choose, nor do I choose people based on names), but names are personal. A name is one word that attempts to encapsulate all that a person is. (Which is, of course, impossible.) It is a sort of representation of them. And if I love them, I melt a bit, when using or seeing or saying it.

pervertedjester · Answer

After years of dating I've boiled it down to one undeniable clue/tell that I'd recognize no matter what,  I sing . Not just with the music but I sing out loud and off key with no shame. Haven't been able to do that in 8 or so years but you never know.

Itsok2behapp-e · Answer

Think of the person you're in love with.

Do you see him/her? All those wonderful memories you've made?

Can you hear all the plans you've made for the future?

Doesn't it feel great? I thought so.

Keep those memories and cherish them. Never neglect or take for granted the love you have in your life.

You know when you know. However, a time may come when those memories remind you of what you had and it hurts.

So your brain asks:

"Who is he/she?"
"Why does he/she hurt me like this?"

When your heart beats to keep you alive, blood is fed to the brain to keep those memories alive too. However, when the love is gone... The heart feels absolutely nothing.

Numb. Doesn't flinch. Those memories should make you feel something in your heart. Little does the world know you're dead from the inside out.

As long as those memories whether from years ago, yesterday or even today, if they make your heart feel, feel the way it does when you're in love, then my dear you're.

When the heart no longer feels anything for that person, no matter what thoughts/images your mind reminds you of then sadly, it's gone.

If you're in love... Don't be the one to break the other persons heart such that it dies. It's the worst form of torture another human being can inflict on another.

Don't be that person. Be the one to keep their heart feeling for you and long may it remain that way.

How you do this is completely upto you. Everybody has their own way to love. Just do it right, give it your all and never stop working hard at it.

Like I said, when you know you know... You can feel it in your heart.

Lliam · Answer

When, beyond the blazing bonfire of infatuation, you've seen how they are in real life with all their idiosyncrasies, foibles, ways of thinking and behaviors and cherish them anyway. When you are the most important person in their life and know that you can trust them completely.

robvc1 · Answer

Well.

If you don't know it check a little things about yourself. Some things are almost the same for everyone.

Love can't be put in rules. Love are feelings.

You see when you love someone.
You enjoy he's of her company.
You want to be with him or her when you get the chance.
You sometimes wonder what they are doing and send them some messages once in a while.
When you are together you can be you and don't have to worry about what you say you know it will be accepted either way.
Also when that person asks you to do something together even when you do not like the activity you will say yes because you like spending time together.

Yes you can call this friends but the point is. When you feel all this and you still don't feel completely satisfied than you want to start a relationship with him or her.

Well that's how I think about it for now anyway.

godfatherfan · Answer

I got engaged really fast. My best friend asked me "how do you know that you want to spend you life with her, you really just met her". I answered "You will just know". Years later when he called to tell me he got engaged, he said "you were right, you just know".
Love is very much the same. People will list things all day long. But in the end, a lot of things people list I have felt with other women, yet I didn't love them. I have been truly in love with 2 women in my life. I just knew. There was another woman when I was very young that I thought I loved, but it wasn't until I met my wife (now ex) that I realized that first one was not true love.

kemo56 · Answer

That depends on what you define is in love it is my opinion that what people usually start off a relationship with it's not true love but yes they are in love which means they are in lust and they are infatuated with the other person... Then if that is taken into a friendship or blossoms from a friendship then if two people commit to better for worse regardless that they're going to try and if both people will try then that results in a lifetime marriage if one person gives up for a period of time a short period of time even it can completely destroy a perfectly good marriage so I believe love is something that you grow into you may start in love but with commitment you can find true love... Again it's just my opinion

triff · Answer

Your know when Cupid hits you with the arrow Your heart flutters she haunts your mind You miss her when your apart Your primal instincts return Wanting to protect her Show how much you care Keep he away from emotional trauma the best you can So many things tell you your in love

John1972 · Answer

For me it's when she walks into a room and the moment I see her she takes my breath away and my heart skips a beat and then when she walks out of a room I have this sudden emptiness inside and I feel lost without her. That is when I have no doubt I'm in love.

LeoPride93 · Answer

I know whenever I can't stop thinking about them and wanting to spend all of my free time with that one person. You miss them when they're not around and the thought of losing them causes extreme distress.

Love is the most powerful drug in the world and once we get a taste, it can severely fuck you up. My ex-fiance and I broke up in June and the last three months have been hell. It almost makes you question if falling in love with somebody is worth the heartache that might come after.

mk200195 · Answer

When you ask random questions on GAG such as this and convince yourself that you're indeed in love, totally unaware of the fact that these feelings hold the potential of destroying you emotionally when it all comes to an end.

Whodjkdksjdjdj · Answer

The same Way you know if you hate someone, you don’t hate them, you’re choosing to hate them because you really dislike them,

well love is jus the opposite hate,
you jus choose to love someone when you really really like them,
and u can also choose to stop loving them any time u like

well that’s how I see love anyway

djmzes · Answer

Simple

SphynxUK · Answer

I have to break it down, examine every aspect and then assume it must be love (or
not). It’s hard to define what love is for me (because I’m on the spectrum). I have to include that fact in a lot of my responses, so you understand how I think.

Liam_Hayden · Answer

I don't fall "in love." If we are compatible and have fun, I will choose to love. I never base relationships upon emotion, because those can be deceptive.

strkw878 · Answer

Many ways

The most is keep im touch with you always

And most important share his secrets to you because no one can share it with anyone

Buying gifts for you is a start of the beginnings

etc etc etc...

I hope i helped

Ripper_E · Answer

Really hard to explain because it's like it creeps up on you and it feels so casual. I feel like people think about love and look for things that are distinct, very noticeable. It's fact things that you might take for granted.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

When I think of that person all the time and I want to spend more time with them is the way I know I want to be with that certain someone that I have fallen in love with?

_Whatever · Answer

Well, like the Oracle says in The Matrix, "Being the One is just like being in love... nobody can tell you you're in love, you just know it. Through and through, balls to bones."

burlen · Answer

When you are constantly thinking about them in a nice way and wishing to be with them.

scooogy · Answer

When my heart is beating faster around her and my only potential words around her would be "habbeda habbeda".

cinnamoncat · Answer

u feel as though ur life is complete when u think of them. u feel fully comfortable with them. and u wanna do things with and for them 🥰

Koalamate · Answer

You think about them a lot, and don't understand why

hornyafbi69 · Answer

If you have to ask then you're not you'll know if and when you fall in love

jgokgotit · Answer

For me it is when I see my life being worse without them.

Anonymous · Answer

When you’re in love you have intense romantic, emotional, and physical feelings, longings, and preoccupation for another person

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

You will maby wake up afther the brake up and see how big fool you whas. So you will know afther that you whas in love.

IAMNathanael · Answer

I have no idea. I don't think I've ever fallen in love

SCRUMPSHUDILLIOCIOUS · Answer

When you have zero question you are. 😊 Assurance from a higher source.

bklynbadboy1 · Answer

Your in love when you can't live with out them or when the leave it feel like the took a piece of you with them when you feel like that person completes you. That's how you know

Angieeebabieee · Answer

When I no longer have more than a physical interest in anyone else

Jjjjgghhh · Answer

The same way you know when’s you hate someone, you don’t hate them, you choose to Hate them cos you really dislike them,

well love is just the opposite of that, you choose to start loving someone when you really like them, really like them

nodnol32 · Answer

she's on my mind all the time. Being with her is my drug. I guess thats how i know im in love.

Reaperbot666 · Answer

when your willing to put their needs and desires above your own.

redvelvetcx · Answer

I suggest reading something online that is written by an intelligent person by looking the question up. A lot of people in the comments are going to answer this question without truly knowing what love is.

allenwants2 · Answer

When you will stand out in the rain all night because she asked you to

NaughtyFoxy · Answer

When you can't stop thinking about them and accept them as they are

mrgspoter · Answer

It's rare and impossible to describe to anyone who don't kbow

casanova411 · Answer

You chose to love them and accept who they are it’s not because they make you feel a type of way!

RingOfFire · Answer

When they have bad breath but you'll still kiss them?

JimboGB · Answer

When you can overlook that hair cut she is rocking 😆

GreenGold1992 · Answer

My heart beats faster, I smile a lot, I think about her often, and I just feel happy when she's near.

KingJared24 · Answer

Whenever you see her/him and you get butterflies in your stomach and you feel like you’re the luckiest person in the world

venomhbk1313 · Answer

When the feeling is right and you both look into each other's eyes you just know

DevylasArsaukas76 · Answer

you get a weird pit feeling in your stomach all the fucking time, it was the worse, so glad I'm single

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

It just happens. It's less than the feeling of heartbreak..

OddBeMe · Answer

If you want to constantly be around them. Even after sex.

colin77 · Answer

Connection... it must hav a spiritual and physical connection

rapfan107 · Answer

Usually you can't stop thinking about them, you enjoy their company so much and they make you feel somehow better

6suejsjsj · Answer

You know it when you don't have to ask yourself that question.  That's not a metaphoric answer but litterally how it is. You would know it.

Zeesquare · Answer

You can normally feel that U are In love it will feel different to other relationships

JosyJosy · Answer

When I want to take care of him

lilyanony1 · Answer

I just knew avd I'm still in love with him

Cherokeehp · Answer

The thought of them leaving hurts.

goaded · Answer

All the songs make sense. Or so I've heard.

lovelyrose12 · Answer

When you feel pain just thinking about them

jcnum10 · Answer

Probs can't be without em🦄🦋

Iron_Man · Answer

Your heart will tell you

JayLiche · Answer

When the thought of them leaving you hurts

Jack9949 · Answer

When you can’t stop thinking about them.

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