Are side chicks essential to keep marriages alive?

[coachTanthony]

Do side chicks deserve a thank you... hmmmm

[AlienParasite]

I don't believe so, because most marriages I know don't need that to keep alive. So that makes side women automatically non essential, from my POV at least.

Side women are more a sign of problems inside the marriage, and the potential source for more problems.

The stereotype would be a woman who's unwilling or unable to satisfy his man, a man who is not strong enaugh to work on the marriage and too coward to end it, and a side woman who has poor self love and it's oblivious enaugh to faithfully believe he's going to leave everything for her.

The only close person I know that has been through this, is the mother of a girl my age. She was the side woman, was madly in love, got pregnant and then the man stopped seeing her. The girl my age seemed quite unbalanced mentally, and sometimes I believe knowing his father didn't want her or her mother could trumatize her. A side relationship can create very damaging dramas. For the marriage, for the person cheated on, for the side person. Now we are talking about women on the cheated and side person role, but if it's a man is equally terrible and psychologically harmful.

[Futron]

Is this a joke?
Why get in a committed relationship in order to... be uncommitted? If someone is consciously making the choice to cheat, just find someone who will be in an open or poly marraige. It is because one wife isn't enough, after all, right?
There's never a good reason to cheat. It doesn't save a marriage, because a marriage is a relationship built on trust. If something is lacking in your marraige, talk about it. For example, if your wife stopped having sex regularly- tell her it's important for a strong and healthy marraige. Give her a chance.
Aside from the wife, being a side chick can be mentally draining- I watched my friend try to be a side chick. She began to hate being, "the other woman," but she stayed with him until he finally split with his wife. He finally made her his main... but then he got another side chick.

[zoeadams3]

But then he got another side chick.
Scum.

[coachTanthony]

No joke just throwing it out there and see where every one comes out on this! Thanks for the comment!

[Futron]

Sometimes I ask questions like this to see people's reactions too. Its pretty fun

[Reaperbot666]

• a man who cheats on his partner. tend to do so when being denied by his partner regularly. because his partner is not available or in the mood.
• a woman who cheat on her partner. tend to do so when she gets bored of her partner. because her partner can't seem to pleasure her regularly.

https://www.youtube.com/embed/LVgzOyHVcj4https://www.youtube.com/embed/KkXpKF4b5yA

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

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[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Side chicks are more to blame/thank for the END of marriages not keeping them together.. as are any men/women that would have a side chick/guy or anyone that would treat) view someone as a side piece instead of a person with real feelings... And then people wonder/get on me for not wanting to date or be in a relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ Why would I tho.. What's become of people that it's okay to view people/ treat people as a side.. This ain't McDonald's now, this is LIFE..

[coachTanthony]

Yeah but that burger just is not the same without those SIDE of FRIES! Ha

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

People aren't fries tho... I order fries, I ain't hurting anyone other than myself and my waistline, but using people as a side piece without caring about how that affects them, their feelings, their life as well as your wife/ husband and their feelings and their life is really SELFISH fucked up shit right there.. If someone don't believe in monogamy, staying faithful.. Simple, DON'T GET MARRIED then, and don't make promises you know have no intention of keeping... It'll never be okay in my book to lie, cheat, or use people... For what, sex? To make yourself feel better? If people can only think of themselves and noone else, again those people have no business getting in a relationship with anyone PERIOD. .

[coachTanthony]

I don't disagree. I am just here to give the people what they want. Controversy. LOL

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Sad tho what people want... Since when did controversy become better, more important than peace and happiness... A works where rudeness is respected and honesty/ niceness is ridiculed and viewed as weakness... Funny some the people on here that call people "snowflakes" would do way more than just melt if faced with some of the real life hardships others face and overcome every day in real life.. But these days... "When I grow up, I wanna be an internet keyboard warrior" 🤣🤣smh🤷🏼‍♀️

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

*world not works I'd kill the dude that created autocorrect if he wasn't already dead 🤣🤣

[coachTanthony]

Ha Ha Ha take some baby aspirin... I am worried about you :+)-

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

Me? No worries here... It's others that need your worry not me

[MzAsh]

Not if you’re a guy like Chris Watts. Not even the wife and kids stay alive, let alone the marriage.

[coachTanthony]

Well can't argue with that one.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Something similar happened in our country last year, a dad killed his family to be with his lover.
The lover killed herself when the case made news (there's no proof she wanted him to do that and she was horrified by it) and someone shot against the father's car.
He also risked getting lynched in prison.

[Chikky]

Well they destroyed my mom's marriage so no thank you

[SwanHale]

Same...

[VIVANT]

... I think that was your dad who destroyed the marriage. He was the one who cheated.

I am sorry of course but blame is 💯 misplaced.

[Chikky]

@VIVANT that's why there's a "they" in the statement. I resent all of them, but the dad and the womenssssssssssssss 😂😂😂😂😂

[Apple1996]

Wtf? No just no. We all know cheating ruins relationships. Unless y'all agreed to have side people then sure its alright but still not healthy for a realtionship.

[Jjpayne]

No. Sexual urges are not a key to marriage. They are a part of marriage but they are not essential.

What is key is your love, faithfulness and commitment to each other.

Trust in a relationship is vital. It is one of those pieces that once it's lost a strong relationship can literally die within minutes.

It's playful to think that sexual urges would be allowed within a marriage, to have accepted partners allowed for each.

But in practice. It's about your love and commitment to each other.

And studies have shown that sexual urges can be distracted and put away rather than entertained.

Overall, it's best to preserve your commitment to each other.

Because it's one thing to lose a sex partner and quite another to lose your life partner

[el_Te_de_la_Rosa]

Have we mentioned about the kids in the marriages with a side piece... ahem side chick yet?

I have never found any children, teens or adults who are happier to have another mommy.

Sickness for All.
Esp. the men who have a Harem mentality. Pathetic.

[KaylaD24]

I think the majority of children it does hurt them but their is exceptions such as the child's biological mother is abusive to them then yeah i can see why they may be happier have a secound mom but other than that i think its wrong to have a child have to go through it.

[nerdybutlazy]

if that's what you think then either have an open marriage or just don't get married

[Sparda20xx]

Facts

[MonkeyInADress]

Lmao. Pretty sure most people the answer to this.

No. It will destroy your relationship in a heartbeat. Why? Cuz you're obviously not satisfied with whoever you're married to (even if y'all didn't marry for love) so you go lookin' for 'it' someone else. 'It' means the thing you aren't getting in your relationship. If you've gotten to a point in your marriage/ relationship where you're considering adding someone else in the mix, maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship. It's fine. No shame in a failing relationship. Just end it before you do something you'll regret. 🙏

[dandiecandie]

There is no such thing as a side chick. It's called cheating. If someone cheats they don't love their current partner and therefore they don't care if cheating hurts their feelings cause they don't care about their feelings. In this case its best to end it. No such thing as a side chick, just someone he or she would rather be with as opposed to you.

[Anonymous]

I think it seems more exciting if you do it in secret.. better to be honest and open about it in my opinion. I have trust issues anyway so I guess I’ll have to resort to an open relationship and just not give my whole heart away if I decide to settle down one day.

[David92506]

Is it just with men you have trust issues? Or do you have a trust issue with any type of relationship?

[Opinion Owner]

@David92506 committing to someone is more serious than any other type of relationship

[David92506]

I understand what you are saying. You commit to the relationship, which requires a lot of trusts, and the other person agrees. Then he/she violates that trust.

[Opinion Owner]

@David92506 that’s why I secretly don’t give my whole heart away. You can’t be disappointed when you expect the unexpected

[Opinion Owner]

I’ve never even had my heart broken. I just watch other couples, and the fact that guys in relationships have hit on me is not very comforting.

[Anonymous]

Marriage implies a commitment between two people towards each other or at the very least an agreement between the two that they intend to have an open marriage. If one party is not privy to the fact that "sanctioned" cheating is happening as in, in an open marriage, how can it be essential to keeping a marriage alive. If anything, if found out that is likely the end of the marriage because it was filled with lies and deceit and I doubt you'll find many sane and rational women thanking the side chick.

[Unit1]

You must be joking.

on the other hand i really love women so much, that if I'm "allowed to" i would be "married" to several women at the same time. My need for love is insatiably and one woman may not be enough but that really depends. 😀

still, I'm not gonna hurt the woman i love. Not her and not random women either. Ain't gonna happen. No cheating. Good women deserve love and loyalty as do i.

[Lena84]

Not at all. People just wanna justify having multiple women.

[coachTanthony]

Its possible.

[pleasestopthis]

No, I don't think so. If there's a need for a side chick then the marriage is already dying. What do you think about this, coach?

[coachTanthony]

Most times a side chick comes into play when the marriage is dying. Should they just walk away sure but many times the guy isn't getting what he used to get in the bedroom so... should he leave because of that? Probably but instead he gets a side chick which then satisfies those needs when really everything else is okay in his eyes.

[pleasestopthis]

Yes, I agree with you. I heard some women say they don't care if the husband gets a little something on the side as long as they get to be in peace, I guess I'm too young to understand such point of view.

[wingattebaby16]

side chick = mistress = affair = cheating... right?

I think this is kinda a deal breaker for marriage and even a steady dating relationship.

side chicks = friends with benefits basically...

[Finchie40]

If you need a side chick then that should be your answer not to be married anymore , what would be the point staying married to someone that doesn’t fulfill you? And yes I know it happens a lot nowadays but really think about your partner , how would you feel if she was going out getting side sick?

[coachTanthony]

Most times this happens when the woman chooses to stop having sex in the relationship. Blames work, kids, etc. Man doesn't want to throw away his family over sex so he gets a side chick. Now people can disagree but it happens all the time. A woman getting a side piece usually doesn't happen unless the guy is refusing to give her something that is needed either mentally or physically.

[Finchie40]

I agree that’s pretty accurate to why guys get side chicks , as for the married girls I have slept with that I didn’t know were married until after the fact their main reason was they lost the emotional connection with their husbands , the husbands were selfish and didn’t make them feel values and loved

[Anonymous]

i find it hilarious when the side chicks are mostly average looking bitches at best and the wives are often hotter. what's going on men? are most of you blind when you cheat or the cock wants what it wants?

[Feelicks]

Maybe they treat the guys better than the wives who've grown complacent and take their husbands for granted.

[coachTanthony]

More likely the hotter wife has decided not to engage in sexual activities anymore or at least not as often even finding it a chore. Just spit balling here.. . no pun intended.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

A bit what you said, and a bit because beauty can actually be a turnoff sometimes.
I never cheated but choose another woman over my fiancée at first exactly because she was less beautiful than her - my fiancée appearance while beautiful is also intimiditating.

[SirBearon]

The side piece is just a slut to use to your liking for men who cheat. She's just a fuck hole for personal pleasure. The wife is everything else.

[Dreamgirl97xo]

Looks don’t always make a man cheat. Side chick could be ugly but have an amazing personality which draws the man to them

[coachTanthony]

@Dreamgirl97xo Very true!

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

It isn't just looks and personality. The relationship between them matters, it is less enjoyable to have sex with a woman who is arguing with you days at a time and will argue in the future.

[Opinion Owner]

@Dreamgirl97xo a "side chick" (home wrecker) has an "amazing" personality? sheesh. if she is willing to get with a married guy, how is that guy supposed to trust her? maybe she has a lot of married boyfriends.

[Opinion Owner]

@Jean-Marie_Céline perhaps, but as we don't judge people for being ugly, we also should not judge them for being beautiful. you need to get to know the person. if they are shitty people, then you drop them. personality over looks (whether pretty or ugly).

[BlueEyedBirdWatcher]

Pretty sure we judge ugly people even more than beautiful people. We are happy with average, ugly is a deal breaker normally.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

@opinion_owner, you are perfectly right but sadly appearance is still the first thing that many people look at nowadays. And I know people that like me rejected someone or stalled a relationship exactly because the other person was "too attractive".

[Anonymous]

I initially thought this was a joke.
Then I saw the name of the asker "Coach Anthony" is back again with his inane questions! Huzzah

[coachTanthony]

Oh no I’ve been found out !!

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Most happy, healthy, and loving marriages don't need another person in their relationship. For some that do it's either because they're open or poly or they're actually cheating behind their partner's back. For the last one that would end in divorce. But the other two could work if that's what they want in their marriage. It's not a guarantee though since there are still risks to doing it.

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

No. It’s insulting because the side chick usually a bum compared to the main woman. If that’s this is the case then I guess a guy shouldn’t be mad if I have multiple boyfriends.