Are side chicks essential to keep marriages alive?

Question

Do side chicks deserve a thank you... hmmmm

AlienParasite · Accepted Answer

I don't believe so, because most marriages I know don't need that to keep alive. So that makes side women automatically non essential, from my POV at least.

Side women are more a sign of problems inside the marriage, and the potential source for more problems.

The stereotype would be a woman who's unwilling or unable to satisfy his man, a man who is not strong enaugh to work on the marriage and too coward to end it, and a side woman who has poor self love and it's oblivious enaugh to faithfully believe he's going to leave everything for her.

The only close person I know that has been through this, is the mother of a girl my age. She was the side woman, was madly in love, got pregnant and then the man stopped seeing her. The girl my age seemed quite unbalanced mentally, and sometimes I believe knowing his father didn't want her or her mother could trumatize her. A side relationship can create very damaging dramas. For the marriage, for the person cheated on, for the side person. Now we are talking about women on the cheated and side person role, but if it's a man is equally terrible and psychologically harmful.

Futron · Accepted Answer

Is this a joke?
Why get in a committed relationship in order to... be uncommitted? If someone is consciously making the choice to cheat, just find someone who will be in an open or poly marraige. It is because one wife isn't enough, after all, right?
There's never a good reason to cheat. It doesn't save a marriage, because a marriage is a relationship built on trust. If something is lacking in your marraige, talk about it. For example, if your wife stopped having sex regularly- tell her it's important for a strong and healthy marraige. Give her a chance.
Aside from the wife, being a side chick can be mentally draining- I watched my friend try to be a side chick. She began to hate being, "the other woman," but she stayed with him until he finally split with his wife. He finally made her his main... but then he got another side chick.

Reaperbot666 · Accepted Answer

a man who cheats on his partner. tend to do so when being denied by his partner regularly. because his partner is not available or in the mood. a woman who cheat on her partner. tend to do so when she gets bored of her partner. because her partner can't seem to pleasure her regularly.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Side chicks are more to blame/thank for the END of marriages not keeping them together.. as are any men/women that would have a side chick/guy or anyone that would treat) view someone as a side piece instead of a person with real feelings... And then people wonder/get on me for not wanting to date or be in a relationship 🤷🏼‍♀️ Why would I tho.. What's become of people that it's okay to view people/ treat people as a side.. This ain't McDonald's now, this is LIFE..

MzAsh · Answer

Not if you’re a guy like Chris Watts. Not even the wife and kids stay alive, let alone the marriage.

Chikky · Answer

Well they destroyed my mom's marriage so no thank you

Apple1996 · Answer

Wtf? No just no. We all know cheating ruins relationships. Unless y'all agreed to have side people then sure its alright but still not healthy for a realtionship.

Jjpayne · Answer

No. Sexual urges are not a key to marriage. They are a part of marriage but they are not essential.

What is key is your love, faithfulness and commitment to each other.

Trust in a relationship is vital. It is one of those pieces that once it's lost a strong relationship can literally die within minutes.

It's playful to think that sexual urges would be allowed within a marriage, to have accepted partners allowed for each.

But in practice. It's about your love and commitment to each other.

And studies have shown that sexual urges can be distracted and put away rather than entertained.

Overall, it's best to preserve your commitment to each other.

Because it's one thing to lose a sex partner and quite another to lose your life partner

el_Te_de_la_Rosa · Answer

Have we mentioned about the kids in the marriages with a side piece... ahem side chick yet?

I have never found any children, teens or adults who are happier to have another mommy.

Sickness for All.
Esp. the men who have a Harem mentality. Pathetic.

nerdybutlazy · Answer

if that's what you think then either have an open marriage or just don't get married

MonkeyInADress · Answer

Lmao. Pretty sure most people the answer to this.

No. It will destroy your relationship in a heartbeat. Why? Cuz you're obviously not satisfied with whoever you're married to (even if y'all didn't marry for love) so you go lookin' for 'it' someone else. 'It' means the thing you aren't getting in your relationship. If you've gotten to a point in your marriage/ relationship where you're considering adding someone else in the mix, maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship. It's fine. No shame in a failing relationship. Just end it before you do something you'll regret. 🙏

dandiecandie · Answer

There is no such thing as a side chick. It's called cheating. If someone cheats they don't love their current partner and therefore they don't care if cheating hurts their feelings cause they don't care about their feelings. In this case its best to end it. No such thing as a side chick, just someone he or she would rather be with as opposed to you.

Anonymous · Answer

I think it seems more exciting if you do it in secret.. better to be honest and open about it in my opinion. I have trust issues anyway so I guess I’ll have to resort to an open relationship and just not give my whole heart away if I decide to settle down one day.

Anonymous · Answer

Marriage implies a commitment between two people towards each other or at the very least an agreement between the two that they intend to have an open marriage. If one party is not privy to the fact that "sanctioned" cheating is happening as in, in an open marriage, how can it be essential to keeping a marriage alive. If anything, if found out that is likely the end of the marriage because it was filled with lies and deceit and I doubt you'll find many sane and rational women thanking the side chick.

Unit1 · Answer

You must be joking.

on the other hand i really love women so much, that if I'm "allowed to" i would be "married" to several women at the same time. My need for love is insatiably and one woman may not be enough but that really depends. 😀

still, I'm not gonna hurt the woman i love. Not her and not random women either. Ain't gonna happen. No cheating. Good women deserve love and loyalty as do i.

Lena84 · Answer

Not at all. People just wanna justify having multiple women.

pleasestopthis · Answer

No, I don't think so. If there's a need for a side chick then the marriage is already dying. What do you think about this, coach?

Finchie40 · Answer

If you need a side chick then that should be your answer not to be married anymore , what would be the point staying married to someone that doesn’t fulfill you? And yes I know it happens a lot nowadays but really think about your partner , how would you feel if she was going out getting side sick?

wingattebaby16 · Answer

side chick = mistress = affair = cheating... right? I think this is kinda a deal breaker for marriage and even a steady dating relationship. side chicks = friends with benefits basically...

Anonymous · Answer

i find it hilarious when the side chicks are mostly average looking bitches at best and the wives are often hotter. what's going on men? are most of you blind when you cheat or the cock wants what it wants?

Anonymous · Answer

I initially thought this was a joke. Then I saw the name of the asker "Coach Anthony" is back again with his inane questions! Huzzah

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

Most happy, healthy, and loving marriages don't need another person in their relationship. For some that do it's either because they're open or poly or they're actually cheating behind their partner's back. For the last one that would end in divorce. But the other two could work if that's what they want in their marriage. It's not a guarantee though since there are still risks to doing it.

Luv2BRealExotic13 · Answer

No. It’s insulting because the side chick usually a bum compared to the main woman. If that’s this is the case then I guess a guy shouldn’t be mad if I have multiple boyfriends.

Anonymous · Answer

I think yes if your in a good marriage where it's all good. But lacks "spark" then seeking it else where just for the passion and excitement. Can definitely help you stay happy within your family life. As long as you don't get caught. I know ill get criticism for what I just wrote. But I can assure you they are young. Or only fresh in there current relationship.

Nawlins34 · Answer

No.  What's essential in keeping marriages alive is picking better partners. Unfortunately, people use short-term variables to make long-term decisions these days.

captain_voidwalker · Answer

They're only neccessary when a wife is not keeping up here end of the bargain. Ladies step up your game.

douride2 · Answer

Side chicks essential to keep a marriage alive. They deserve a thankyou. I fucking doubt it. Side chicks/guys deserve all the abuse they get when found out. As for the cheating partner they should get kicked to the curb.

sheikalana · Answer

My parents have been married for the past 30 years. No side chicks involved and they are still very happy and in love even though their relationship is not perfect.

havingfun101 · Answer

70% of Americans (rich countries) are overweight or obese and marriage, cohabitation and childbirth are at all time lows. Why would you get married unless you want to get divorced? Women file 75% of divorces and the rate goes up by 50% when she makes more money, while only white men don't receive Affirmative Action. I mean... I hope that this is a joke question! 🤣

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

I would dumb his ass. No tolerance for this shit. If you are going to cheat, then dont marry or break up

Billlewis · Answer

I don't think so, but side guys often are, in my experience.

AlwaysBelieving · Answer

No. I'm just trying to understand WHY people have "side anything" to begin with.

JaneDoe377 · Answer

If you need a side chick, why bother with the marriage

BJamin420 · Answer

No only if both parties and involved with the side chick

Dongtai · Answer

Nope. Education on how to build and build healthy relationships is essential to keep a marriage alive.

cc-catlady · Answer

Obviously no, they are housewreckers who damage and can burn the marriage of the person they're seeing. They have to be very insecure to make sure a devious choice to do this

pigoat · Answer

If you choose to leave your husband/wife because they don't have sex with you then you won't leave them because you are satisfying that need somewhere else

Not you two married people don't need to have sex with eachother

Yay

msc545 · Answer

Side chicks help you enjoy your life and act as an insurance policy for when your marriage falls apart

Vide_Noir · Answer

Let's just get this straight, the whole I Do and not cheating thing is bad? Unless it's an OPEN MARRIAGE where both are weird like that, then how is cheating good?

kraken007 · Answer

Why marry in the first place when you have to look outside of it for your needs? Rather just stay unmarried and uncommitted and have as many side chicks as you want. Marriage is a responsibility.

Browneye57 · Answer

You used to have fairly cognizant content, but lately it's just gone from the bizarre to the insane.
The vast majority of men are loyal to their spouse. To espouse otherwise is cheating your own gender.

Malloryrae1134 · Answer

I had a friend who was in an open marriage and they both were seeing other people. Their marriage turned out fun.

Trooper205 · Answer

Exactly the opposite. "Side Chicks", e. g. Friends With Benefits, AKA "Fuck Buddies", are the DESTROYERS of Marriages.

Shiroi_Kokkusuribu · Answer

They would be called a mistress, not side chick, and as someone who doesn't ever plan on getting married, I have no strong feelings one way or the other

es20490446e · Answer

Would you say it's natural to feel unfulfilled with your partner?

FlowerClouds123 · Answer

If you let your man do what ever he wants with you, he dont need a sidechick.

josephinelcajon · Answer

The fact you think people should even consider this!

slatyb · Answer

Not for me. My wife isn’t into open marriage and I hate lying.

VIVANT · Answer

Spouses who cheat should not be married. Side sex wouldn’t exist without cheaters. Obviously.

DeeToPlay · Answer

Not at all. Just move the hell out if you don't want to be with your current partner and do it with some class and dignity.

Espresso-Grande · Answer

Chris Watts' having a side chick didn't help keep his marriage alive.

blutwolfe · Answer

No, if you have a side chick, that marriage means nothing honestly, unless it's an open relationship type marriage then more power to you

ImatureAss · Answer

Wtf kind of question is this? NO! Why would your man cheating on you be essential to keeping a marriage alive? Come on now...

Anonymous · Answer

Probably. I mean lots of women end up cheating on their husbands eventually. If he didn't get a side chick he would just be a cuck.

glock33sig357 · Answer

It can make or break a relationship and with a marriage it can be a bit harder for a married couple but sometimes it works for the better.

zoeadams3 · Answer

Hell no, and my husband knows it as well.

FýrdracaDócincel · Answer

I've been told that competition anxiety is good for women and, based on what I've seen, I agree. So perhaps.

Avicenna · Answer

No, compatibility is essential

LEADFOOTboi · Answer

i doubt it

Kelly6 · Answer

The way I have seen is Yes.

Juxtapose · Answer

If you don't feed the dog, don't be surprised when it goes looking for food elsewhere.

MountAverage · Answer

Side chicks for the husband, side dicks for the wife.

Tiffyk · Answer

If you feel you need one to keep your marriage alive, then you are with the wrong girl. Get a divorce

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