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Marriage & Weddings

How do marriages survive affairs?

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  • D_Bone_Steak
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    They usually don't and when they do there's sort of a wound on the relationship, especially if the monogamy was a very important part of the set boundaries. I think it's the broken trust that does the damage. They agree to only be with one another, and one-half of that agreement sacrificed other options only to find their other half just couldn't bother keeping to their agreement... and that's like a huge spit in the face.

    For me I revenge cheated way more times back. Eventually, I had to mentally reduce her to just a stupid attention whore cum dumpster that I put up with for the sake of my kids. That feeling of her being special to me is dead. I don't bother cheating some more only because I've moved to the United States and these women are mostly trash and/or require too much work to bother with. So I've resigned to using my cum dumpster for my needs and going back to my beer and video games once I had my fun. The cost of her playing me to get played by another dude has left her, the one that begged for me to stay with her, being nothing but the person that pays the bills and I use for sex. I purposely make sure I don't work because if divorce pops up... I'm taking half of her shit and expect alimony. Fuck being a sucker like so many other guys have been. They work their ass off for a chick, then get cheated on, dumped, and half their shit taken, which probably explains a lot of the reasons she begged me to stay and has to accept me cheating (if she catches me) as my royal fucking right. ... I know my story sounds pretty shitty and it is... but myself and my wife are a great example of how it can turn out. Cheating really fucks the dynamics of a relationship. Before she pulled that stunt I was your average blue pilled SIMP, that worshiped her. Now she's just a cum dumpster and my opinion of women has changed..."No woman is ever yours, it was just your turn."

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  • ohshee
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    Master Age: 49 , mho 42%
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    I I would say they don't but some people are strong enough and are willing to take that chance to start all over Trust and Believe in each other and let the past be the past now that's awfully big words right there and some very big hearts if it can be done but it has to be committed there has to be a commitment for me personally I would walk away because the person that add the affair would not have been me and that person would have come home every single night look into my eyes as if everything was okay and play the big game with me lying and cheating play me as a fool I would walk away forever

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  • Aerissa_Jade
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    Guru Age: 22 , mho 58%
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    It's about destroying trust, it has to be earned.

    The question should be, how does one rebuild trust after they destroyed it? is it even possible... cause one does not just 'give' trust. If someone is hurt so bad from it, how can the other person ever hope to build that trust back up again?

    Sometimes it may depend on what kind of affair, emotional, physical or both.

    If it was just a hook up for some fun, a hall pass might balance things out so trust can start to be rebuilt up again.

    If it was strictly emotional and nothing happened, need to address that differently. If it was both, then those seem like it could the hardest. Ofc if kids are involved, a whole new dynamic.

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  • TrueConfection
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    My friend's husband had an affair. He ended up moving in with his mistress. He's an immature dirtbag and told his wife he just didn't want the responsibility of being a husband and father.

    To make a long story short, she took him back. She's so much better than he is, but she lives in this fantasy where she believes he's so wonderful and that he knows he made a mistake.

    Personally, I would never trust him again. No one knows what she sees in him (and no it is not money, she's the breadwinner).

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    • lilyanony1
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      If they have kids, perhaps 'stability'. Maybe he's good in bed!

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    • lilyanony1
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      He's had enough extra practice

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    • TrueConfection
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      🤢😱🤢

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    • lilyanony1
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      I know...

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  • Prettygurl12
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    Typically they don't.

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  • Sun_Kim-Ai
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    Yoda Age: 26 , mho 40%
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    Usually, they don't.
    But when they do, the situation has two possible ramifications:
    - it takes a lot of time, but the marriage survives and the cheater genuinely regrets their actions, while the person who got cheated on is willing to move on and forgive.
    - the damage can not be repaired permanently, and the affair becomes something that runs the marriage into a slow, dragged out death.
    Perhaps both spouses start cheating on each other (my parents did); or the cheater does not amend their ways; or the person cheated on uses this as a leverage to abuse them.

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  • Kusz76
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    Xper 2 Age: 47
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    I can’t see how they can. I’m going through this just now, my wife gets drunk and gropes and tries to kiss other random men, even my friends, right in front of me and starts on me the next day when I bring it up making me out to be the bad one! Lies about her behaviour when she’s out with her friend at the pubs even though I find out she’s been trying it on with every guy in the place, she’s a liar and a cheat and we’ve only been married 2 years! She won’t admit she’s in the wrong at all. I left her 8 months ago and since then she’s done nothing to try and save our marriage and family. Still getting drunk with her friends. I won't be going back to her. The next thing she’s getting from me is a divorce. If they do it once they’ll do it again

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    • lilyanony1
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      I'm so sorry to hear this... You're better off out of it. She needs to grow up...
      Best of luck to you in your future. Fight hard for your self preservation.

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  • Danielle93
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    Yoda Age: 30 , mho 53%
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    They don't survive affairs. After an affair happens and it's discovered, there will never be 100% trust; things will never be the same as they were before. If there is no 100% (even if they do forgive you and want to work it out) trust, then the marriage has forever changed.

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  • Whatever2929292
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    Someone cheats on me... It's over... Now I say that but maybe if I really thought that things would work then maybe I would not but just making things work... Isn't good enough for me and it should not be good enough for you..

    Once someone cheats you can forgive but that does not mean you have to stay with that person

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  • SteveSmith1985
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    Guru Age: 38 , mho 73%
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    Honestly, I have often wondered how they survive. I'm not married, but if I were... my marriage COULDN'T survive an affair. For me that would be the end of my marriage. It's something that I, personally couldn't ever get over. Some things you can't undo. For me, cheating is one of those things.

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  • Espresso-Grande
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    Yoda Age: 33 , mho 61%
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    Only if you can get passed the pain and trust again

    Personally, I would never stay with someone who betrayed me. Once my trust is broken, it can never be rebuilt or regained by the person who broke. I would only move on from the hurt if I cut all contact with him.


    Relationships are built on a foundation of trust. So how can you trust someone again after they've already given you one good reason why they can't be trusted.

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  • Reaper1985
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    Xper 6 Age: 37
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    for the few that do it often takes a lot of therapy and/or talking it out to back track what caused it to happen. often something like to much stress from their marital partner or other sources, their marital sex life became boring for them over time, they kept being deny by their marital partner for verse reasons, their marital partner was hardly available/around or spur of the moment decision. are the most common ones but there are likely more reasons.

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  • wittymilf
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    The effort you’re willing to put into something is the measure of how much you value it. If you both value what you have you’ll survive

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    • lilyanony1
      lilyanony1
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      Feel like this is a double edge sword...

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    • wittymilf
      wittymilf
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      It can be! But if you set aside ego in these situations you can get to the bottom of why infidelity happened.

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    • lilyanony1
      lilyanony1
      1 y

      Thank you. I have been madly in love with someone once and I don't know if I could have dealt with his infidelity. When he started suggesting making our relationship casual and pushing for a threesome, I suddenly started to feel insecure. And it really made me question our relationship.
      It was definitely the process to the breakdown and my in love shifted to just love.

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    • wittymilf
      wittymilf
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      Love is more stable than in love. In love can’t stand the test of time as amazing a feeling as it is.

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    • lilyanony1
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      Unfortunately the love has been better now we're seperated. In love let too much slide.
      Some people just aren't meant to be permanently in your life

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  • Andres77
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    Master Age: 46
    1 y

    I can only Wonder why the affair took place at all.
    I'm not justifying any reason.
    But there are lapses in judgement. There are temptations never faced before, and there are spiteful and petty reasons.
    Again, none are justified.
    But some, with enough patience and maturity and safeguards, are definitely recoverable.

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  • GoodGuyBreakingBad
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    Master Age: 55
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    486 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

    Sometimes marriages never stay the same
    you always worry whether the same pattern
    will happen again it's a gamble one takes and
    a chance that someone will lose in the end.

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    • lilyanony1
      lilyanony1
      1 y

      My parents relationship was riddled with my father's affairs... I don't know if my mother had any. But they definitely had a lot of jealousy between them...
      I often wonder if some, if not all at some point or another have some type of affair whether it is emotional, or physical forms of an affair.

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    • GoodGuyBreakingBad
      GoodGuyBreakingBad
      1 y

      @lilyanony1 Yeah my parents got divorced in 1994, it was a no-fault divorce but my dad married the woman he had an affair with but I think my mom had affair with my dad in her early years, sadly mom passed away on 11/10/2003 ... It's sad when kids are involved when affairs happen.

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    • lilyanony1
      lilyanony1
      1 y

      Sorry to hear of your childhood situation

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    • GoodGuyBreakingBad
      GoodGuyBreakingBad
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      @lilyanony1 Thanks for your kindness !!!

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  • laurieluvsit
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    Master Age: 29 , mho 69%
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    Short answer... They don't

    How do marriages survive affairs?
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    • loveslongnails
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      Sure they do, Laurie, so I believe. However, I don't think there's a lot of honest data on the subject. I'm still fascinated that more than 90% of women who marry. seriously think 100% of husbands will have sex ONLY with them for the rest of their lives!! Statistics have proven throughout history that anywhere from 40-60% of married men have sex outside of marriage, and that's only those willing to admit it!!

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  • Anonymous
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    Both of them should take an honest look at themselves, at their partner, and their relationship and decide if it's worth continuing.
    They then need to look passed the pain, humiliation, and distrust.
    Not everyone can do that.

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  • sheenagwapa
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    the husband cheats, wife keeps forgivinh. that's usually how it oes. ii really don't understand people i mean i cannot pt myself in their show.

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  • motownplayer2000
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    Guru Age: 34
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    Honestly, I don’t know. If my SO cheated on me it would take a shit ton of a lot and probably the universe for me to stay. And since that’s impossible, you know where I stand

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  • dustybiker
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    Two people who won’t speak up, listen or agree to talk to one another.

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    • dustybiker
      dustybiker
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      Whoops miss-read that.
      It’s not healthy when it does survive in my opinion.

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  • Loveisgirthy
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    They realize maybe the fault was in their wavering connection with eachother and rather than playing blame games they found what needed fixing and fixed it.

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  • JustinTheGreat
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    They don’t. Even if they try to get past it, I don’t think things could ever be the same

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  • Crankor
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    They really don't. There will always be forever insecurities from then on if it was to continue that would cause constant fights

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  • Rockstarrrrr
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    Simple... The one who got cheated on give up their self worth

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