Infidelity is a decision.
The person who takes that decision is responsible for it.
Seldom is infidelity one spur-of-the-moment decision. It is usually a planned event that becomes a regular feature of the lives of those who are involved.
Unlike other men, I am not the sort of man who thinks that the world (and the relationship) must end if his woman samples a different cock or 10.
I understand that people have libidos, kinks and can have some weird and wonderful fetishes as a result of (usually abusive) experiences.
For example, I have been with more than one woman who could not cum unless she was able to imagine that she was being raped; or tied up and raped; or tied up, tortured and raped.
I ask four things of a woman: tell me about it; exercise some quality control; do not become pregnant; and do not bring home a disease.00 Reply
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+1 ygood question, I was interested to see how many true simps there are lmao. Cheating's never acceptable; if you need to, break it off and get with the other person. If that's unsafe, get the police or some protection agency involved.
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Asker+1 yI hate seeing cheaters try to defend their actions. I 100% agree that if you wanna see someone else, just break up with your partner
It's completely their responsibility since girls aren't supposed to be brainless bodies and neither drunk as hell 24/7 at the point to not be conscious of what they are deciding to do. But this is the same for males anyway. We don't want to assume that one gender is so extremely underdeveloped that it can't even get basic reasoning abilities right?
I can understand that some women are so exaggerately lacking of individuality that reach the point to be "driven" by a guy to have something with them just because they have some charm, but still I find this to be her responsibility anyway, 100%.
While if we talk about an aggression, and rape, or threatening situations, well this is not cheating because she wasn't attracted to the aggressor, and if she could decide she wouldn't do it. So it doesn't count as cheating in my opinion.40 Reply
+1 yI think it depends on the situation. What if a partner can no longer perform in bed but there is still love between them and they want to stay together? What if one is in coma? Some people would have a problem not having sex for the rest of their life. If someone cheated in a position like that, I wouldn't blame them, would you?
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@KeepMeFromBoreddom I wouldn't cheat but I wouldn't blame someone that did. Sex is a human need and I wouldn't blame someone for 'cheating' in a situation and neither should the partner and you certainly shouldn't because it's none of your damn business!
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@KeepMeFromBoreddom Hey f off. I've never cheated in my life. Never even kissed another guy while in a relationship. You can go f off now loser.
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4.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Nothing justifies cheating , so it’s the cheaters fault 100 percent , My thing is if you are going
To cheat then end your relationship with your partner , don’t go back to your partner like nothing happened , the cheater is just living a lie if they go back to their partner , the cheater doesn’t love their partner if they can go screw someone else , so if you cheat on a partner that should be your answer to leave your partner and let them find someone that won’t cheat on them , Most cheaters can’t admit they are pieces of shit and will go back to their partner like nothing happened and live the rest of their life as a liar10 ReplyYou just said the answer to your question... and the ones who contradict it are still at fault no matter what. Ones still at fault for thinking of cheating. There are no excuses to be made. Unfaithfulness in any capacity is still unfaithfulness that will not be excusable—one who decides to do that will need to live with the consequences.
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Asker+1 yIt's not that i don't know the answer, i just wanted to hear the opinion of others
+1 yThe saying "It takes two to tango" is a perfect example for this question. Cheating takes consent on both sides for it to happen. When you are in a monogamist relationship with someone, you are agreeing to be exclusive to each other for the duration of the relationship. If while in that relationship you become emotionally or physically intimate with another, you are making a conscious choice to cheat. If you know what you are doing is betraying the trust of your significant other and you still do it, you are making an aware choice to do it and you are liable for your action.
In short, if she knows very well she shouldn't be cheating and does it anyway, then it is 100% her fault. And don't think the same doesn't apply for men, because it dang well does!00 Reply
+1 yWtf that's so sexist. I don't care what gender or species you belong to if you've consentfully gotten sexual with anyone while in a commited relationship it's your fault
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Asker+1 y100% agreed but it's annoying to hear someome try to defend their actions 🙄 cheating is wrong no matter what
504 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Pretty sure the 7 people who voted its not her fault and the 2 unsure ones have either cheated or are trying to forgive a cheater.
And obviously cheaters are at fault! Sex aside it's a betrail of trust and loyalty and that alone is big issue.
Personally there are two kinds of people I can't stomach: disloyal ones and hypocrites.10 Reply
+1 yIt’s her fault. Cheating is inexcusable. The other person may have done something wrong but it doesn’t justify cheating.
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Well said miss yads
+1 yAlrighty. To cheat on a partner is a choice. However, are reasons WHY a person cheats.
Maybe her current partner doesn't give her enough attention, or maybe the female is simply promiscuous. Like I said there are different reasons, but cheating is still cheating regardless.00 Reply- 1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
+1 yMan, woman, unicorn, platypus, kermit, alien, cereal box, helicopter, or whatever the fuck you are, if you cheat you are 100% responsible for it.
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You can't just make excuses for Kermit like that 🥺
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Asker+1 y#freethefroggy 😭😭😭
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Y'all really defending Kermit, what a shame.
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+1 yEvery relationship I've ever had I've been cheated on. 3 of them had the audacity to blame me for it. The worst was the one who claimed that I worked too much ( to support her non-working lazy ass) and wasn't around enough to give her the attention she needed, so therefore I DROVE HER INTO HIS ARMS. Her words.
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@19magic Can't say she had that luxury. When we met, I was in a different career and after we had moved in together, I had opportunities to switch careers and make a lot more money than either of us combined ever had before. I ended up having to travel to cities all across the continent for overnights 1-2 nights a week. She didn't mind the money when it started rolling in, she just up and quit her job, got lazy and sat around all day bored, then got bitter towards me while at the same time denying me romantically, so she got online and met a guy. He knew she lived with me, and pretended to be a friend, all the while behind my back... both of them were scum.
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@19magic Yes, but I do blame myself in some ways - I allowed the situation to happen and generally avoided conflicts until the red flags started piling up. A good example was that I didn't want to fight over her unemployment status - she was a pita to fight with, so I just avoided that topic, and so many others. I've learned to reflect and see where I fueled the fires that led to these behaviors from many women in my past. Yes, they were trash, but I attracted that type of woman and much of that was related to my own shortcomings. I did eventually realize and accept my mistakes, many of which simply boiled down to allowing shitty people into my life. I've corrected my behaviors since then. Things are better now.
Nope. The Cheaters are always at fault for being little cowards
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Asker+1 yAgreed!
Asker+1 yHaha it would seem so
+1 yThe ones who say girls are not responsable if they cheat... are GUYS! WOW!
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Asker+1 yLMAO ikr, fucking simps
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They are propably the side dudes of taken women or maybe they accidentally vote the first one lol
+1 yWhat kind of weird question is this? Cheater are always at fault for cheatin
60 ReplyANYONE who cheats knows it is wrong and inexcusable. If you are not satisfied in a relationship then leave.
10 ReplyIf you cheat, YOU are responsible. Does someone who cheat have a reason? Of course, and those reasons vary, but unless someone is pointing a gun at your head or divine intervention takes over your body and makes you do it, then you are at fault.
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+1 yStop reading comments in social media of mentally limited retards and trolls, who cheat on their partners because it's their partner's fault.
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+1 yYou’re the blue anon who said it isn’t the guy’s fault when he cheats. So I guess on your toxic thoughts, it isn’t her fault if she cheats either. How awful.
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Asker+1 yUmm no 😅 bro did you even read my post? I said ALL cheaters are at fault. Try to read before you go pointing fingers genius
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No you are the guy who said that. I’m not a bro either.
Asker+1 yRead. My. Post. I said ALL cheaters are at fault, literally just scroll up and read what i said before you go accusing me of being another one of the thousands of blue anons on GaG, alsocehy tf wod i said All cheaters are at fault here, then make a separate post arguing that men aren't at fault for cheating?
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Assumptions are your worst nightmare
Cheating is your own choice unless you were held at gun point and told to do it.
00 Reply6.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Unless her boyfriend doesn't give her his dick, then yes, cheaters are fault. They do the effort and have the intention to cheat.
00 ReplyI cheated once it was mostly my fault though it was just kiss when I discovered I’m a lesbian.
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Asker+1 yI mean, i get the fact that your weren't attracted to your partner, but why not dump him first then kiss all the girls you want lmao?
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Ew. you
+1 yI don't care about the other person I might beat thw shit out of him out of rage but I would leave that slut.
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Asker+1 yWould you beat the guy even if he didn't know that she was with someone?
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If I didn't find out quickly enough I might
+1 yThree SIMPs so far. Hilarious.
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Up to six.
Asker+1 yFucking hate simps lmao
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+1 yI do not; believing this shows naivete of the most extreme sort.
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+1 ya. Its always their fault because they could have said no. I love the "I was drunk" excuse.
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+1 yYes. Men in general treat women horrible. Men cheat just because they can and women cheat because of something the guy did 💯💯
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I'm sure your perfectly happy believing that might shock you to know women cheat out of wanting someone else to get their rocks off while the guy did nothing wrong and was just loving her sincerely e. g she's in a relationship you love each other everything is good she has sex with another man for fun of sex all the while not intending to commit to the other guy she loves you and fully intends to stay with you and Continue to love you because she loves YOU
3.8K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Of course, women (and men) that cheat are at fault. Who else would be?
00 Reply478 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Obviously no. She has agreed to it she didn't lay there just like a fish.
00 Reply7.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. It's the responsibility of both people when this happens
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+1 ySo, it was an accident..😂. Didn't plan it or anything, and most of these sluts planed it out, and whine cause they got caught...
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+1 yPerhaps her boyfriend can't satisfy her because he is too small
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Asker+1 yOkay? So that didn't answer my question dawg 😂
It’s not anybody else’s fault but the one who cheated
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+1 yOf course its not the womens fault women aren't responsible for their own actions
00 Reply490 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Cheaters are at fault.
30 Reply300 opinions shared on Relationships topic. Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yUmmmmm of course they are?
20 ReplyWe are all responsible for our own actions.
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+1 ySituational amd complicated question.
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+1 yIn what universe would it not be her fault?
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yWait why would u think they wouldn't be?
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Asker+1 yI never said i didn't? Did you read what i said lol
Opinion Owner+1 yWhy would you even think to ask this question is what I meant
Asker+1 yA twitch streamer went viral for saying men are wrong for cheating but women are justified, so i wanted to know if other people felt the same
Opinion Owner+1 yHow did he come to that conclusion lmao misogyny?
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Misogyny is you assuming it was a man.
Asker+1 yLmao it was a girl
Opinion Owner+1 y@VanillaSalt No I'm assuming it was a man because of the statement. Why would someone who is the gender they're talking about say that lmao.
But yeah how cringe
Opinion Owner+1 y@VanillaSalt was assuming* I guess
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Read your comment again and understand what you said. It could be a man or woman making them comments...
Opinion Owner+1 y@VanillaSalt yeah have /u read what I said?
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I’ve re-read the OP all the way down with the edits and your the first to put a gender to the Twitch streamer... go read it again
Opinion Owner+1 y@VanillaSalt yeah? Continue reading I guess?
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Whatever can’t teach someone who knows
Opinion Owner+1 y@VanillaSalt hahah
You can't compare that with genders
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Why not?
Asker+1 yThe only reason i asked was because a twitch streamer went viral for aaying if a women cheats, it's not their fault vs. If a man cheats, it is his fault. It was bullshit and i just needed to know how others felt
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Who was she? This streamer?
Asker+1 y@ThisIsMyOpinion AL1N1TY
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Alinity is a stupid bitch don’t believe anything that hoe says... as a matter of fact stop dumping to her by watching.
That is bullshit.
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Anonymous(36-45)+1 yYa sometimes
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