I personally believe that it's the man's fault when the woman in the relationship cheats. What are your thoughts?

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Whenever a woman cheats on a man, she's doing it because he's neglecting her in some sort of way. He's neglecting her financially, not providing the proper support that she needs. Or, he could be neglecting her sexually, not providing enough in bed. He's leaving something to be desired, and given that humans will always eventually cave into their desires, the woman in the relationship will seek to help herself. It's selfish for a man to think that he's the only person entitled to his wife's attention.

Sugar100 · Accepted Answer

I now notice women throw themselves at men. When I’m with my boyfriend women don’t care and respect me and they try flirt with him but he ignores them. I don't know y women are mentally I’ll in the head and don’t understand they cannot steal a girls boyfriend. I notice men only stare at me from afar when I’m with my boyfriend and men respect you. So I think the reason men cheat is because of women. Women are easy and vulgar, throw themselves to taken men like whores. Women don’t find single men and think they can steal a womens boyfriend without getting a bloody face. 😡 also when you go out or to a bar, men are not attractive. They are all fat ugly while there are many beautiful women walking around showing off legs stomach in crop top or boobs in heels. I rarely see handsome men everywhere , only girls are attractive. 😥that’s why it’s easy for men cheat as there’s million of sexy girls to choose from and no options for women, no sexy men at all. Men don’t get pregnant so it’s another reason why they can cheat easily, a guy will never come home with a huge belly growing 😔it’s easy for men to run and hide

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

There's only  one  person at fault when cheating happens and that's the  PERSON CHEATING ... If a person feels like there's something lacking in their partner or relationship, that's when they should communicate that with their partner and try to work through the relationship, not use that as some bs excuse to cheat.. That won't fix any problems in the relationship, that will cause more of not just end that relationship.. So why not, end it first, and then sleep with someone else 🤷🏼‍♀️

Itsok2behapp-e · Accepted Answer

First off, go seek a nutritionist. Why would one open a can of worms and not eat them?

What a waste! Only open those cans you can eat and digest. Let me explain.

After reading YOUR question and YOUR post, if that's what YOU believe then using the YOUR same logic and mindset, YOU also have another opinion.

Seen as though you forgot to share it, I'll do it for you! This other opinion of YOURS is as follows:

'Personally I believe that it's the woman's fault when the man in the relationship cheats.'

'Whenever a man cheats on a woman, he's doing it because she's neglecting him in some sort of way. She's neglecting him financially, not providing the proper support that he needs. Or, she could be neglecting him sexually, not providing enough in bed. She's leaving something to be desired, and given that humans will always eventually cave into their desires, the man in the relationship will seek to help himself. It's selfish for a woman to think that she's the only person entitled to his husband''s attention.'

BullShark · Accepted Answer

Cheating on your partner is petty and disgusting, and you can't justify it in my eyes no matter what you say. The way you worded your question, by that logic, you can justify any other crime as well. Like it's not my fault I robbed that family of four and stole their car. If you have to blame someone, blame God for making me financially unstable and poor.

Even if your partner is abusive, doesn't satisfy you, doesn't give you attention or whatever, that still does not justify cheating. It all comes down to YOUR character in the end because in the end, it's YOU who did the deed. And besides, people who cheat almost always do it to use the other person they cheat on to satisfy their own needs. Majority of the time, they don't even love the other person and they're just playing with their feelings.

If you feel like your partner's terrible, break up with the guy, plain and simple, and go date someone you really like the right and ethically correct way. That's what really makes you the winner.

jeffreylowe · Answer

So when two respectable adults enter a binded and agreed bf-gf relationship they are agreeing to give their fullest love and support to eachother with the prospect of testing the grounds for marriage and family typically. So with that said if one disregards their partners trust and feelings by cheating behind their lovers back they are 100% the cause of the cheating because they alone knew the seriousness of their desire to fuck like a rabid dog and acted on it alone not in conjunction or with consent from their partner. The communication aspect is a non-issue at this point due to the impulsive actions of the cheater when is all it would of took was a Honey I am sorry I don't love you good bye I need to get laid goodbye. Integrity is everything once you strip yourself of being able to look yourself in the mirror it's gameover so I would make amends try to heal the person and move on with your life without destroying another's. That is a honest opinion coming from someone who at one time was just as immature and induced hordes of anguish through cheating and what follows. You are only human but you have a little growing up to do cause your partner is not your property to be used and abused in this fashion apologize and move on to a open relationship with someone else toxic.

MrOracle · Answer

That's the biggest load of bullshit I've ever read. YOUR (not you, specifically, but everyone) behavior is YOUR responsibility - ALWAYS. YOUR choices are YOUR responsibility, always.

If your man is neglecting you, etc., then you BREAK UP WITH THEM. That's the proper, moral, adult thing to do. Trying to rationalize cheating, no matter what the circumstances, is WRONG - ALWAYS.

"It's selfish for a man to think that he's the only person entitled to his wife's attention."

Unless you are up-front with a partner about wanting an open relationship, and they agree, then this is also bullshit. The default expectation in relationships is MONOGAMY, and if you want anything else, then you need to be up-front with that from the beginning, and let the other person CHOOSE to accept that or move on. You don't get to change the rules later on. That's what it means to be in a COMMITMENT.

youngmix · Answer

I think that not holding a woman responsible for her actions is tantamount to calling her a child. She is an adult who decided to cheat, and most likely deceive her significant other. She could very easily be honest, and end the relationship if she cannot maintain fidelity.

Don't try to pull some sly shit, creep on the side, and suddenly leave because it makes your life easier. Just because something is easier for you, does not make it right. That just proves that you are a sociopath. I say that a woman should try to have some self respect, and be an honest person, even when it is hard.

If a guy is aggressive, or she is feels like she should be afraid of him, then fuck all that. Just get out ASAP.

Subarugirl · Answer

That is complete bull fucking shit...… people are responsible for their own actions. If your needs aren't being met in a relationship it is YOUR responsibility to try and fix that or end the relationship, not be a piece of shit with no integrity and violate your partners consent by cheating...

idkwhatsreal · Answer

If you think cheating is okay that’s a you problem. If you feel neglected You can leave the man then go do whatever you want… cheating is selfish and narcissistic. You could also tell the man your feel your needs aren’t being met. If he doesn’t change, or at least try. then leave. Communication isn't going to be the end of the world. If you just go cheat you’re an awful person. Maybe tell him where you clit is. If you dont tell a man what you want or like, he’s not going to change. He thinks he’s doing it right for you already.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

Nah, cheating on your partner is a choice and the cheater is always at fault. It is not the person's fault if their lover cheats on them. If their lover didn't like what their lover was doing or didn't love the ways of their lover, then it's their lover's lost; they should have known what they were getting into. If their lover didn't like things about them or what they do, then break up with them and stop the petty cheating. It is not that hard to tell someone you are breaking up with them when you lose interest in them. Cheating is the pettiest thing a lover can do, all because they can't say, "Hey, I have lost interest in you, so we should break up." Before cheating. So no, it is not the partner's fault, it's the cheater's, and cheating has no excuses.

EtherealGuy · Answer

Blaming your own weakness on someone else is just being childlish and abdicating responsibility for your own actions.

What next? Is it the guy's achievement if the girl gets a promotion? Is it the guy's fault if she goes out and commits a crime? Is her pregnancy his struggle?

Unironically, this line of thinking is anti-feminist. It's saying that everything the girl does is because of the guy. That she cheated because of him because she has no agency herself.

You need to choose one lane, which one is it?

Also, it's both people's fault for not sitting down like adults before it happened. So, there's no scenario in which it's not at least partially the girl's fault.

Nkyshemera · Answer

Cheating is not normalized for any gender. Cheating according to science; low self-esteem is a sign of complexity, lack of will and low intelligence. Colloquially, it is called characterlessness. It's hypocrisy to cheat when you have the option to break up if you're not happy with a relationship. Also, if we look at it in a sexist way; It normalizes the cheating of women in terms of not being beautiful enough, not being a housewife, not being as skilled in sex as the man would like. The thoughts such as the fact that the man's partner has to meet financial needs or that the woman has to be very beautiful are very old now, everyone is equal. It is absurd to point these out as a reason for cheating, it is ignorant to blame the other side when it is necessary to treat the personality problem.

DaveJord · Answer

Honestly when anyone cheats its because their not in a good or healthy relationship. I can not disagree with you honestly. I often feel when a man cheats its because his wife or SO doesn't make him happy or satisfied. But don't assume that just because a person cheats that it's their partners fault. I mean there's is equal blame or at least enough blame to go around for everyone in these situations.

Its easy to blame the other person and take no responsibility for you're own actions. But if you're in a relationship and you're not happy and then cheat, you're a coward if you think you're blameless.

I have been cheated on and the relationship was miserable honestly. But she made it just as miserable for me as apparently it was for her. So she cheated, but she was a real bitch for many reasons and it was draining and unfulfilling relationship.

DenizLikesTennis · Answer

I wouldn't agree in this one because it could be a dozens of reasons. Also, the way it is described sounds sexist. Cheating indicates insecurity, trust issues and fears. I have never heard a case, where a woman cheated on his husband because he neglected not only himself but also the relationship by not providing. In such cases communication is the key!

Cheating because of that means this person is immature, well basically, a terrible girlfriend material and needs lots of self-improvement.

You can solve every problem by communicating as it is the backbone of a relationship and no matter what that is. We must respect each other and keep a peaceful environment

Lionman95 · Answer

And if he cheats she's the problem? That way there's always innocent victim while the other partner is to blame.
You can clear argue that way but I think it's too easy because it takes two to have a relationship. I think both are the problem because they have a bad communication style.
I see a problem that she takes for granted that he knows what she likes and wants but that is more than often not the case because guys and girls communicate differently.
He may know all her needs but chances are that he doesn't as long as she hasn't told him with words.
It may be selfish for a guy thinking that only he should have her attention but it's equally selfish if she excepts him to ignore other girls either offline or online.
It's equally selfish if she wants to know where he goes and wants to have access to his phone.
Therefore both are part of the solution but also of the problem.

Blackcosmo · Answer

No it just means she's a bad person. She could have just left the relationship if she doesn't like it anymore instead of betraying her lover. Cheating is cheap and immature. And no it's not selfish of them because when you get into a monogamous relationship you agree to be loyal to them. This is also applies to men who cheat on women.

JSmuve · Answer

Whenever a man cheats on a woman, he's doing it because she's neglecting him in some sort of way. She's neglecting him financially, not providing the proper support that he needs. Or, she could be neglecting him sexually, not providing enough in bed. She's leaving something to be desired, and given that humans will always eventually cave into their desires, the man in the relationship will seek to help himself. It's selfish for a woman to think that she's the only person entitled to her husband's attention.

Fixed it for you!!! 👍🙄

Bee-Hatch · Answer

So to simplify this:

You blame the man when a woman cheats, and presumably blame the man if he cheats or you would have mentioned the other side of things?
You're level 1 so new on here. And you've been posting some really mundane low level questions.

How's that trolling working out for you?

AviatorTom · Answer

A woman cheats for the same reason a man cheats... because they can, and have the opportunity to cheat. Don't go blaming the partner... the fault in cheating is with the cheater. If something is missing in the relationship, work with your partner to fix it.

MartinGoulet · Answer

In my opinion, both are at fault. Both should do every thing possible to keep the relationship.

How can a man be tempted to give a good sexual experience to his woman, when she is looking very drab and negleted and answer him with "I have headache."?

As for financially, being a man does not mean being very rich and able to pay every thing the woman want. He could have enough for a descent way of life.

Also, I would like to point out that there is always a difference between the expectatives of a man or woman and the reality.

VanessaValentine · Answer

First of all in both women and men there are people that just like to cheat no matter what. Secondly I've never heard of a women asking a guy to do a certain fetish with her or sexual position or change something up in the bedroom and him say no. We are always the ones that say no.

LilyoftheLake · Answer

Wow, I agree with almost nothing in this statement.

She should break up, not cheat. Not to mention, men, who are NOTORIOUS for having an incredibly high libido, would be just as, if not more so, exempt from responsibility for cheating.

I also find it a bold statement to insist that ANY time a woman cheats, it's because she's being neglected. No, I've known a few women who have cheated out of spite, in the moment lust, or for attention.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

You’re not alone. People who believe men cheat for exactly the same reasons as men are among a TINY minority. People who believe women cheat for the same reasons as men are part of an even smaller minority. This is the reason females destroy men in divorce 99% of the time. Women are apparently incapable of doing any wrong, while men are incapable of doing any right.

Phoenix98 · Answer

There's no excuse to cheat period.

If your unhappy in your relationship and it's not getting resolved then leave him and go find someone else. Or communicate to him what you need or want in the relationship and make an effort to set things on the right track.

If your cheat man or woman your piece of shit and you deserve whatever comes your way.

NewgodX · Answer

Ofcourse it's always the man's fault

How can a women be ever wrong. That would be just impossible

God won't allow it

The universe will self collapse and destroy if a women if ever wrong

It's always a man's fault

KelleyNice · Answer

No! Of course not. During the Stone Age and we still have our Stone Age brains, the most successful strategy for most women was to mate with a dependable and good provider, and then when ovulating, if the risk of discovery was low, to seek the best available genes for her eggs. Typically, that was the Alpha males.

Oigit · Answer

No there is no excuse for cheating. If you feel the relationship can't be fixed. You need to break it off and leave before cheating. If anything not doing so and cheating makes a person even more selfish then the person they cheated on. No matter how they choose to justify their cheating.

Vnsyu · Answer

Whatever it is, when one in a relationship cheats may it be the man or the woman, they are both at fault. In my opinion (it's just mine), a man or a woman don't lack something, from the very beginning that's all they can offer. Sometimes we misunderstood "lacking" with our increasing expectations that we failed to communicate (with our partners). It's not that I'm taking sides. I just wanna debunked the idea that everytime a man , or a woman cheats there should be the one who will be blamed. It's irritating

Never been in a relationship but, this is an honest opinion from a bystander 😅

Weasly · Answer

That is a delusional entitled fiction you have created for your self, but we'll done for gathering the attention on your post.

If a person cheats, there can be many reasons, some of them can be due to their partner. More of them are due to the person cheating. Communication is great to help prevent issues.

RavVid · Answer

The basic guy/girl relationship deal is sexual fidelity. The last sentence seems to be saying that it is selfish of a man to expect that.

Really would you expect anyone to sign up to the deal you are outlining? How much jewelry do I need to buy each week?

What you are saying might be the case. For both guys and girls. In which case we are better off stopping pretending.

Anonymous · Answer

I think that is a good explanation why she feels like cheating. But there is also a reason for why they are in a relationship because there needs to be communication. If nothing is solved and her desires are not met, simply leave the relationship. Cheating is such a cheap act and absolutely disgusting in my opinion.

Literalbillionaire17 · Answer

In most personal cases like my female friends or family members, they have cheated bc they were unhappy in the relationship bc of something or another that the man did.

Either he didn’t make enough money or he was lazy or he cheated or he payed more attention to this and not that.

I don’t think it’s all cases bc sometimes women act the same way men do when it’s a pump and dump situation 😂 but I can agree that in a lot of cases that is why.

Kreneman · Answer

There's many reasons why people Cheat and when a woman cheat, it's not always the man's fault plus there's always two sides to a story. Regardless what the reason may be, the cheater doesn't have an upper hand especially if she made an unwise choice or if she already had that issues of being unfaithful to begin with and two wrongs doesn't make it right.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Thats a load of horse shit it is, and you sound like an entitled brat/gold digger.

Anyone who cheats because they can't be bothered to pay for their own stuff and half the bills, doesn't deserve to be with anyone.

Have fun being alone forever (or catching stds and single parenthood from low standard men).

shortster · Answer

If you can't take responsibility for your actions then you are a narcissist. If you are having problems with your relationship it is incumbent upon you to address these things with your partner. If they then fail to live up to their end of the agreement; it is justified to leave them. Finding someone new before doing these two things is on you; and you're a dispicable person for doing it that way.

ChooChooHaha · Answer

Same shit, different smell. No double standard bullshit. Woman cheating man's fault? Bullshit.
It's woman's fault if she cheats. How the fuck is the problem supposed to be fixed unless she at least tells him there's a problem?

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I hate how people get away with or at least try to get away with complete bullshit by using their race, gender, or something like being fat.  Liars are just liars and cheaters are going to cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

My thoughts are you should be and stay single if this is your mind set. Cheating is the cheaters fault. Period. If they wanted more attention, more sex, what ever. It’s up to them to communicate that. People aren’t mind readers and can’t improve with out being told where they are making the mistakes. A cheater putting the blame on the one they cheated on is straight up abusive. SMH.

Anonymous · Answer

I’ve been cheated on, and it was my fault. Definitely.

Most cheating women show obvious red flags which guys ignore. The girls who cheated on me got drunk a lot, had high numbers of sexual partners, had a lot of male friends.

Those types of women, once there’s any kind of hiccup, their first instinct is to jump on a new dick. But guys still try to wife them up.

Some of us learn eventually, many never do.

OnlyOneMe34 · Answer

i would have to disagree that it’s entirely the man’s fault! There is no way one human being can fulfill every need of another person. They will lack in one area or another. That’s what maturity is. Knowing and not expecting or demanding that a significant other meets every need. No excuse to compromise your own personal integrity by cheating. The responsibility rests on the cheater! Be better off discussing and breaking up if need be.

Rania05 · Answer

😲 Wow
Do you know how unfair it's to men when saying this?
It doesn't makes sense.
This is just back when we used blamed married women for their husband cheating on her or raping some girl, it's just gender-reversed.

Smashingdoozy · Answer

No. It's her fault. Making a choice that has consequences is your own fault.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

The only one who should be blamed for it is a cheater.

alice55 · Answer

It's always the fault of the cheater for not being brave enough to leave the relationship and break up. There's no excuse for cheating.

Paul09 · Answer

So if I rob a bank I can blame someone else? You chose to do the crime, deal with it. Your own fault. If you are not happy with a relationship, you communicate about it, you go to couples therapy. If not , break up. Pretty simple mature adult thug to do.

TheCougarHunter · Answer

AviatorTom has given the best possible answer to this question. If there is something missing in the relationship, discussing it with your partner or friends is the best solution. It doesn't give you the right to go on pleasuring yourself by other means.
If you think it does, the fault is with you, not your partner.

YHL6965 · Answer

Every adult is responsible for their actions and feelings so the woman is responsible for cheating. She might have her reasons to do so, but she chose to cheat instead of talking it through with her partner, fixing the situation instead of running away from it and even making it worse by cheating. You being unhappy doesn't give you the right to screw over people.

Jessica405 · Answer

No. She is cheating because she is disloyal. If she has an issue, communicate! Talk it through!

If it can't be resolved, part company. After all, if she gets caught, she will usually get dumped anyway.

Stevepro68 · Answer

Does that mean when a man cheats its never the woman's fault? Is she not leaving something to be desired?  Exclude narcissists and abusers and sociopaths. Cheating is always a dual cause issue.

exitseven · Answer

No, it is always the fault of the cheater. You are just rationalizing doing it.

curiousscorpio89 · Answer

If it's to the point that cheating is on the table than the relationship is usually beyond repair so just end it. Why cheat? Be a decent human being and keep your conscience clear. Just end it. Period.

MDollarBill · Answer

That's your gyno-centric misandry talking. To a feminist, EVERYTHING must always be the man's fault. It's a charge just like the "white privilege" nonsense. There's no point in trying to debate someone who automatically goes to that unless you're Ben Shapiro or Jordan Peterson.

KatherineJ · Answer

Why not leave? I mean if you aren’t getting what you want or need from someone, maybe he isn’t the right one for you? Cheating is never justified.

scarletkaos · Answer

I cheated on my husband because of my urges and lack of self control

Anonymous · Answer

"It's your fault that I cheated on you" is just an excuse, and it isn't a very good one because if someone (male or female) is unhappy in a relationship, if they are the one who has a problem, they have the responsibility to be an adult and address the problem - or you could just end the relationship.

Agape93 · Answer

Bullshit. Only person at fault for cheating, is the cheater themselves.

Splatmate22 · Answer

It depends on how a person cheated. If one person cheated then it may be men but a lot of time that I have experience is always some women always tried to get guys get tempted to cheat. People are going to have different exo experiences.

annabananna · Answer

Most of the time when someone does something wrong they try to justify it in their mind on why it’s ok. If needs are not being met they need to communicate and work through it or break up. It’s doesn’t make it ok to cheat.

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

A guy can give you reasons to cheat but the ultimate choice to actually cheat or not is up to you. You probably would blame the guy if he cheated regardless how the woman was towards him.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I mean... kind of... Couldn't you make the same argument about the wife when the man cheats though? As a general rule, cheating is something you could see a mile away if you're paying attention.

courtney06 · Answer

It's best to end the relationship first if one feels like cheating. Never mind whose fault it is.

EmmaMary · Answer

Congratulations on winning a  Troll  of the day award...@Chrismasters69

slatyb · Answer

That's far too simplistic. Like men, some women will cheat even though their partner is fully participating and supportive.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

I wonder if the woman would be to blame for a man cheating too or do we only makes excuse for shitting female behaviour?

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