I hit my boyfriend and he hit me back?

[Anonymous]

So I miss my boyfriend A LOT and i say "i miss you" or "i love you" almost every hour to him. It's just who I am. Yesterday, he came over and i began talking about my feelings, asking him if he missed me, overall just being playful. He, on the other hand, was being a dick about it (teasing me, telling me he didn't miss me, on his phone). I got frustrated and slapped the back of my hand against his stomach. He then smacked me in retaliation, but ON THE BACK OF MY HEAD. I'm okay with him retaliating (AS LONG as it's playful/light) but he full on SMACKED me, and of all places, my head? And it wasn't light either, it was VERY hard and it made my ears ring for a few minutes. Did I deserve this?

[Levin]

That's not a healthy relationship.

What was your intent when slapping him? It sounds like your intentions may have not been good, if you were needy, bored, testing him. But it sounds like it was a soft slap but you really need to work on your neediness and investigate it if it's causing you to behave badly. Bear in mind, each of us need to have an existence and indepedence outside of our partner. It's called codependence, and it's not at all healthy. Also, the more you try and cling onto someone, the more they push back. Even if you like someone, and they're being clingy, it automatically makes you want to push someone away. It's a natural reaction.

On the other hand, your boyfriend shouldn't be hitting you like that, presumably to what, teach you a lesson? This is where communication comes in. He definitely crossed a line by seriously hurting you and it's a very juvenile way to deal with problems. If someone would do that to me then personally it would likely be over for me.

A lot of toxicity and inability to talk about things here, in my opinion.

[kkirk4442]

Joking around is one thing, rally hitting in another. You say nothing about ages or experience. If he is young, and has little experience with girls, he may not understand that you can't slap a girl on the head, like you might slap a guy. (Though even with guys it's not funny if done hard) He may be showing tendencies to be physically abusive, or just clueless when it comes to women. Either way, you need to let him know that he can't hit you hard, just because you innocuously slap his stomach with the back of your hand. Though you also don't say how hard you hit him. Apparently, his mother never told him you don't hit women, or he didn't get the message. Be careful of him, watch for tendencies to by physically abusive. If they show up, get out of the relationship right away.

[Anonymous]

You hit him and he hit you back. He might not have meant to hit you as hard, but you also said he was acting like a jerk. Maybe you were reading him wrong and he just wasn't in the mood for your games.

Also, you sound clingy as shyte. It's one thing to say "I miss you" if you haven't seen him in a few days, it's another to say it ALL THE BLOODY TIME!

[Anonymous]

He might have retaliated as a joke and didn't mean to hit you hard. Anyways you both should stop hitting each other. If he does that again better run.

[Hogwheels]

Absolutely NOT! I don't know if you meant to hit him hard. He obviously felt like it was hard enough to retaliate, but that is never acceptable to hit your girlfriend. There were far more appropriate ways for him to communicate to you that you shouldn't have done that.

[Angelo75]

Maybe it wasn't intentional... maybe it was.
I do NOT agree with him hitting you like this.

That being said... Well if you throw a ball against a wall, why would you be shocked when the ball bounces back?
So if you don't want this to happen again, maybe you better not hit him.

[Unit1]

I understood, that your slap on his stomach was rather playful (and it's not on a critical area to hit. The stomach is cushioned by fat tissues) and that's fine. And then he went to attack mode so much that your ears ring? This is very bad news!
You better call it off and dump him. He is a JERK! It will only get worse.

[Anonymous]

"I barely tapped him, but he hit me REALLY hard!" Sounds like my sister lying her ass off when we were kids. Did you hold the back of your head and squeeze out some fake tears, too?

FYI, it's never ok to hit anybody. So keep your hands to yourself to avoid future problems.

[Anonymous]

Yes you deserved it.

Now learn your lesson - don't hit someone who can literally beat you senseless without breaking a sweat.

[chHaynes]

That is a gray area but if you're play fighting that's one thing but if you're being real and he's actually hitting you in a bad way that would be considered wrong

[locutus9999]

dont put the hand on lions jail... of you go phisical with a stronger one that can happen... hitting is not justifiable... but retaliation is. if he retaliates I doubt you were being playful.

[Fire206]

No it's never okay for the boyfriend to hit you in any situation

[Dinosaursandanime65]

No. This needs help. Pray, there’s a chance. I don’t want the wounds of this fate to end this. For once, it’d be nice to hear Black and White.

[portlandjason]

Moral of the story: don’t hit men, a punch is a punch no matter if you’re a woman or a man.

[HoremoNial]

No, did you tell him he hit you too hard? How would he know? Did he seem serious?

[Avicenna]

No, but I don't think it was intentional

[jahaims]

If someone hits you, you can hit back.

[Anonymous]

so you should both stop hitting each other

[OddBeMe]

Break up with him.