What to do when in Loved with wife's sister?

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ragequeen · Accepted Answer

This is messed up. If you truly loved her you wouldn't put yourself in that situation. Because you have the power in your hands to destroy a family. It doesn't matter if the sister feels the same way. Sometimes we can't get what we want. And if you were raised right, you should already know this. Use your brain dude. Not your dick or heart. In this situation, I would honestly say divorce the wife and move away. I know it could be painful, but with enough dedication we can do anything. If you truly care for your wife and her sister you should respect their relationship. And that they have known each other and grown up with each other far longer than you have been in either of their lives. You DO NOT have the authority to take that away from them. Take responsibility. You should not have allowed yourself to fall in love. It can be stopped.

flamiE · Accepted Answer

The question is how and why did you get so close with your wife’s sister to the point where you fell in love. You either fall easily or y’all were really close.
But either way, it depends how strong the feeling are. If you can ignore them and focus on your wife, perhaps bring the spark back by going somewhere, just the two of you.
If not, then I guess a divorce is the best thing to do but then does the sister feel the same way towards you too? Make sure you’re truly in love and it’s not just because you’re tired of the wife and want something different. Also, if there’re kids involved they should be taken into consideration too.

Hogwheels · Accepted Answer

Put more effort into your relationship with your wife and if possible, spend less time with her sister. If your wife has her sister around a lot and your infatuation with her becomes even a small problem (which I assume it already has), I recommend telling your wife. Preface that you are telling her because you love her and would never cheat on her then say your developing an unhealthy infatuation with her sister and it's hard for you to control. Your wife will likely be hurt by this, but honesty and openness are important in a marriage. Hopefully she'll understand. If she doesn't understand, you've still done the right thing.

dreamstar72 · Accepted Answer

This sound like wife friend’s story.
Ok here is what happen.
My wife friend’s sister was married to some guy. My wife’s friend (16) decided she wanted her sister husband (24). So she flirted with him to get him to cheat the affair listed 4 months until the wife found out. How the (wife) find out about affair because her sister got pregnant by her husband. The wife divorced her husband. The husband married his wife’s sister. He had affairs on his new wife. After about five years they divorced and now my wife’s ex friend was stuck with three kids.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

FYI Polyamorus Perspective Ahead:

I think this makes a lot of sense. Your wife and her sister have a lot in common. They were presumably from the same parents, same genetic pool, same growing up, similar experiences. So it's no wonder you find both of them attractive. They are like... sisters.

I have had this situation with some friends of mine who like my girlfriends, ex-girlfriends, etc, or I like their partners as well. Some people think this is 'terrible", "wrong", "messed up", etc. But to me, it is just logical. If you are in a group of friends who do the same things, have the same values, of course you are going to love the same girls and find them attractive.

Your situation is up to you to resolve. I am polyamorous so it's easy for me. I just be honest with my wife and tell her who I think is attractive, including if it's her sister. We talk about it and I am going to probably reassure her that it doesn't affect my love for her, I love her for who she is and also for loving me and allowing me to be honest with her and understanding my heart is a big space with room for many people. She loves her sister (I assume), so why can't I?

Andres77 · Answer

Grow up and leave it alone.
You could cause so much pain and chaos for that family. Do you have kids already?
This is about as fucked up as you can get short of committing a crime.
You've already committed to one. Accept that, continue to love the woman you've already promised to love.
And you're not "in love" with her sister. You love YOURSELF and you WANT her. Big difference!
If you loved either one of them you'd focus on your wife.
You sound like a cheap loser anyway. The other questions you ask show you're interested in being a player, not a husband.

slatyb · Answer

Probably best to keep that thought to yourself. It’s not necessary for your wife to know this. I can tell my wife when I find another woman attractive, but it would be weird if it were her sister. Only you know whether your wife could handle hearing that,

Whitemeatchicken · Answer

Your wife should leave you then. She deserves better. The sister who is cool with cheating deserves you. Always leads to a dead end.

IveGotNoName · Answer

You ignore the feelings, and if they don't go away, you get a divorce. But NEVER pursue it, that might be one of the most hurtful things.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

If you are married just suppress the feelings. Nothing good will come from acting on this.

Also, you are not really in love, just lust. Your wife has probably just started the "cunt" phase of being a wife, which never ends. If you were able to dump wife/ fuck sister, you would have a few months of fun before she started "cunt" phase.

This is just women.

LivingExample · Answer

I have more questions than answers. How did you get to in loved with wife’s sister? How long have you felt this way? Does that mean you are having sex with her sister? As far as what to do when your wife finds out two relationships will be destroyed. Having an affair with a stranger is one thing, but with a family member that is a totally different ballgame.

PinkSands04 · Answer

You either ignore the feelings and stick with your wife or consider leaving your wife if the sister feels the same way.

errorgoodnameunfound · Answer

Be honest. Figure out why you prefer your wife's sister over your own wife and perhaps talk to them both about it. If you decide that suddenly you want her sister over her, it's time to file for divorce.

Tenma · Answer

Well in first place it is totally messed up and disgusting. You are totally walking on a path of destruction where not only you will destroy your life but two other life as well. C'mon dude you are already married, you just have to be her, love her and you can't even do that. If you want to solve it then either you should cut all your ties with your sister in law and totally focus on your life or just divorce her. In such way both of their will be saved from you.

Ally247 · Answer

are there no loyal men left

Inquisitive3 · Answer

Wow. You get a divorce and move far away from them both.

Dazed0N0Confused · Answer

That's not fair to your wife. You should divorce and get away before you destroy a family.

DWornock · Answer

Don't. If you must love someone other than your wife, throughout the world their are tens of thousands of women that are almost identical to your wife's sister.

not329446 · Answer

It's a dangerous game with out a happy ending. The sex may be great, the ego will glow but sooner or later there is jealousy and hate to deal with. It's not just the sisters you will have to deal with.

yucel_eden · Answer

8 billion people in the world, already got a fish and you decide to shit where you eat? Come on, grow up.

msc545 · Answer

There is not much you can do. The Heart Wants What It Wants. Accept that fact and try to do what you can to mitigate the situation. Do what is best for everyone involved.

Anonymous · Answer

How did you start liking the sister in the first place?

Anonymous · Answer

Bruh thats just Disgusting! The wife deserves better like... wtf?

Waldoe · Answer

NOTHING, be a man, be faithful, be a brother-in-law

jshm2 · Answer

Nothing. She's your sister in law.

Anonymous · Answer

Go for the sister AFTER you divorce your wife. You only live once!

MissDawn7961 · Answer

you R not good enough to have any woman ! thanks

Kelly6 · Answer

You could do threesome

awanti95 · Answer

That is called half wife

CheeseBurgah · Answer

Simple, you go for the sister

psychoticanimallover · Answer

I’d do him too.

gabzz001 · Answer

Get a divorce

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Get therapy.

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No... no. No.

TheFlak38 · Answer

bang them both?

duygusuzkiz · Answer

Kill yourself 😃

Anonymous · Answer

Tell them both

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