Why do some people believe money is better than love?

Question

I don't understand

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

Good question. But I hated reading the answers. I don't like this side of men and people. It's ugly. And I'm not interested in debating anyone about this, or supporting this. However...

I don't think it's a good idea to make this a binary choice between a person choosing money or love. Once upon a time, humans (in earlier forms than homo sapien, etc.) survived not on a monetary system at all. They worked with the land and they survived in other ways; although a hell of a lot of people just died.

Gene Roddenberry, who created the OG Star Trek (by far and away the best Star Treks) had some great philosophies, was far ahead of his time, and maybe even this time now. They never seem to deal in currency either. But anyway... the reality is that we do need money to survive. Whether we need love is, I guess, debatable. So there's a necessity with the former that cannot be denied.

But that doesn't take into account all the gross and lame justifications for why love is meaningless, over-rated, bunk, etc etc. And don't let them fool you believing their smokescreens - it comes from selfishness. IT comes from not wanting to put someone else first, or equal to them. Some have been burned and are bitter. Some are bitter because they never never been given the chance, never been appreciated by a lover and partner. Many have decided not to be vulnerable again. Some immaturely and stupidly believe that the beginning stages of heady infatuation and love, and that massive dump of hormones that people get in the beginning, is bitterly taken away from them and they're pissed that it isn't about living in that state forever. And that is just naive.

People rarely feel the same in their 20s as they do at the end of their life. Priorities change, attitudes change. Lying alone, dying alone, is not comforted by piles of money. It is comforted by the love of those in your life, who will care that you're gone. That is love. And there is no replacement for that.

FlyGirl95 · Accepted Answer

A man once told me that he purchased hookers in Thailand for a week or two at a time. He said it was cheaper to do this because it would cost the same if not more to be with a girl here and he may or may not get laid. Whereas in Thailand he was getting laid no matter what. The first thought that came to my mind is this person has been hurt enough somewhere in his life to make it so he does not want to work for love anymore. I have wondered what and why this is. I wonder if some men feel love is too much work in their gender roles as the pursuer. Perhaps love is less becoming of the heart if you are not receiving it. The deepest love of course comes without work. But it rarely lasts beyond its moment. I have loved many times over and life does have a wicked tendency to get in the way. Money is logic and the heart is emotion. People need layers of insurance to avoid pain and suffering when love doesn’t work out. Money is not always easy to come by. For some love comes and goes like the wind. True love exists of course. Money may or may not. We are all vulnerable to our looks to the character or our hearts and to the brilliance of our minds. Attraction is not always there for many. Sometimes Money is all that is available in a world at times challenged with rejection and capitalism.

fortunechips · Accepted Answer

First of all, the word BETTER is very relative in this context.

I think the reason they say that is because in essence, deep down what they really mean is that "Money is better FOR ME than love".

The difference between money and love in this case is that money is a means to an end. In this person's mind MONEY= HAPPINESS while LOVE= RESTRICTIONS TO MY HAPPINESS.

The difference comes from a more self-centered mindset. I don't mean to make people sound bad, but the reality of the two is that money can buy you anything, while love means giving commitment. Love requires you to give up yourself, to be more selfless and to think of the other person's needs before your own. Some people would just much rather please themselves in life than sacrifice their happiness for someone else.

This is not to say that you can't love and be happy, or that love sacrifices happiness, but the nature of true love is that one person esteems the other as higher than themselves. These people realize this and acknowledge that "love prioritizes attention to someone else", and a more self-centered person would rather keep that attention on fulfilling their own desires instead of putting their needs second, or even last.

Skankhunt · Accepted Answer

Because having money makes you life so much easier. Losing all your money sucks, but you won't fel miserable and heartbroken just like with love.

Love feels amazing while it last. Then you will be heartbroken. Getting over the pain and start living again can take years. Love is amazing, but it comes with a huge price, which is losing love, happiness and joy (due to cheating, divorce etc). Is it worth it to pay a huge price while you don't know if it will last? For some people it is worth it, for some it's not worth it. Also, men like their freedom and are afraid they will lose their freedom if tehy are in a relationship.

Also, nowadays love feels unreal, it's not unconditional anymore, it's rare to find true unconditional love. People are getting into a relationship for the wrong reasons, that's why a lot of people are hurt in love and don't believe in love anymore. A lot of people don't know what true love is and how it should feel. A lot of people are selfish and superficial, that's why love won't last for you.

Should you choose money or love? That's your call. Love makes you emotionally happy, while money makes your life easier.

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Because unlike love, money doesn't hurt or disappoint you. And contrary to the old saying, "Money can't buy happiness." In most cases? Yes, it can! Hahaha. I am pretty sure the majority of people on here would be happier if they had more money in life!

That's not to say money is always better than love, or will make everyone genuinely happier at the end of the day. Of course finding true love is a wonderful feeling. But the issue is finding said love. And even then you might fall for someone that winds up hurting you. So to some people, money is like a comforting crutch that won't hurt them; it provides things love or other people are sometimes unable to offer.

Kurαȷ · Answer

Because they are being intellectually honest and not misunderstanding the question the way you are.

Of course you choose love if you already ARE financially stable.
But that's not the question, the question is ZERO money vs ZERO love.
Wouldn't you choose money if you already WERE romantically stable- aka had a romantic relationship that already satisfies you?

You can't look at the question from the perspective of someone who already is financially stable, that's completely an unfair equation.

PurSeduction · Answer

If you are hardcore addicted to something (drugs, money, behavior, etc) you will most likely place your addiction higher than anything else.

"Money can buy anything..." Until someone else pays more?

Real love isn't build on money, fame or anything other superficial.

Real friendship isn't either.

So to answer your question. If person A is happier being rich and buying the world. Good for them.

In my opinion they are missing the true experience and feeling.

Kaamraj · Answer

Love is a lot of things; the love you get form your parents is irreplacable and irrelavant to the amount of wealth you have. The love you get from your dog is also irrelavant to the amount of money you make. Besides that there are freinds, lovers, and spouses. Friends can change, desert you when you're bankrupt or even you can attract new people within your sphere of influence if you have money. The divorce rate is over fifty percent, and how much of the remaining is sex-less, romance less love where the spouses are nothing more than roommates.
Money on the other hand, is that money, $5 is five dollars and will pay the bearer the same amount, it's not as unpredictable as love.

oddwaffle · Answer

Because money is like water and love is like spice. Without water you sort of die slowly or really struggle if you don't have enough.

Without love, you life is bland, boring and tasteless. Not going to die without it, not going to struggle with it and some people can move along just fine without it.

Not_Average · Answer

Love makes you feel like you’re on cloud nine for a couple of years, and then it fades into a dynamic of companionship. You enjoy each other’s company, and help each other out. It’s great. But love can also be nasty. Infidelity is becoming more and more common place tagged along with ugly divorces. People are generally selfish these days so the dynamics of relationships have shifted. I can see why some choose career and money over love. I personally value my life experiences, relationships, and girl over my wealth- but that’s my life. A lot of others think differently and are perfectly entitled to that. I try not to judge.

john23232323 · Answer

Well money won't cheat on you, money won't argue with you every day on whether you did or didn't check out that hot waitress, money won't make you buy a crazy ass expensive diamond ring when you just wanted to spend the money on a nice vacation, money won't pressure you into having a big dick and being good in bed, money won't care if you're tall, attractive and the perfect boyfriend, money won't make you insecure but instead will make you confident, money can also get you the hottest girls and you can have sex with them without caring if you have to make them breakfast the other day, money won't pressure you into remembering every fucking important date of hers every year, money won't make a fool out of you because you wouldn't even have to go to her place to apologize... and much more.

DesolateRain · Answer

Because love doesn't:

Pay the bills

Keep you fed

Get you out of debt

Bail you out of jail

Get you a house

Get you a car

and etc...

How the hell is money NOT better than love?

Love ain't going to keep me alive if I need to pay for an expensive, life saving surgery.

Anonymous · Answer

Money is better because love wastes time and is costly. Money is a necessity, love is overrated. I find it insanely stupid why people chase after someone for "love" only to be rejected, like most job applications. I'd much rather be productive with me time and make money to secure a better career/lifestyle. If you give me a choice to of finding "love" instantly or taking €20, I'll take €20. I don't have time for this bs called love. I don't need to be loved by someone to be happy. I just need money to be happy. Nothing else in life matters more than money. Nothing else in life will ever matter more than money. The sooner people realise this, the better.

errorgoodnameunfound · Answer

I don't know, maybe many of those people are older than 24 and had actual experience to reflect from instead of considering themselves an expert at it while still hovering around high school age?

prettyfacegoodtaste · Answer

Because money is love. When you’re with someone and they have a need, you want to be able to reach into your bank account and make it happen! Money makes love easier and more beautiful, because... “honey, what you need? Cool...” *hands over/ transfer funds* 🥰 see?

NewgodX · Answer

Its the logical choice, people these days need money not love. one can buy everything with money these days love don't matter,
Not for guys and not for girls, no one in this world is actually out for love, just for physical needs or bragging or finance nothing else specially not love,
People who say only love matters themselves are with people who have money

bpking · Answer

People with money are not happier than those without. They may seem happier because their basic needs are not a big worry. However they have the same problems as everyone else. Money doesn’t buy happiness nor does it buy love and respect. They are not immune from having their heart broken by someone they love. They are not immune from divorce.

A person who is honest with themselves and has confidence is generally happier than someone who has a big bank account. Money has a way of building false pride in people. It can also make people arrogant.

WalterBlack · Answer

I'm not sure if is quite as simple as believing that money is BETTER than love. And there are different types of love, but lets talk in terms of romantic love. Some people that feel like acquiring money is a more effective use of their time than searching for love. Sometimes you need get money to have financial security. Feeling financially secure can give a person the confidence they need to go out and look for love.

DizzyDesii · Answer

If i’m already with someone, i wouldn't give them up for money, nor would i use them for money. But if im offered money or love BEFORE that someone comes along, then why not take the money? Love fails all the time so take what you’re guaranteed to get... and in this case, it would be the money

sheezuskist · Answer

Because they believe in materialistic things and in doing so it makes them happy, unfortunately all that they have and care about does not talk back or even care about them, and undoubtedly will disappear if that one person comes down the line looking for love and realizing its not them and takes all there shit away

FatherJack · Answer

I'm a single dad , working FT , so I will take the money , as my 2 teens are my priority , I have zero intention of " dating " , let alone endure another relationship after the marriage I endured & ended , and knew becoming a single dad would mean staying single permanently , single dads cannot compete in the very male heavy sausage fest " dating market " . True unconditional love between woman & man is rare as the genders are poles apart in most respects.

Anonymous · Answer

Because people can buy fake love with money, but you can't get money easily with loving someone. People want to get both of them (love and money), and some people don't see a big difference between love and fake love. That is why they think if they have a lot of money, they also will get someone's love.

Anonymous · Answer

Because it's harder to obtain and easier to lose.

Once you find someone it takes a lot for someone to leave you. But it doesn't take much to lose all your money or businesses.

Majority of jackpot lottery winners can attest to that.

Hell Donald Trump can attest to that.

Angie221994 · Answer

Because it is. Lol. Someone you love can always leave you, cheat on you, die on you, etc.  If you’re smart with your money, it will last a long time.

misanthropistkev · Answer

You need money to live money makes the world go around and it’s the only thing worth loving 💯 not family or friends they’re just people people with flaws who will always fail and disappoint you anyone who thinks money can’t buy happiness has never truly been poor

EaterPeter · Answer

It can fulfill basic needs. Without meeting basic needs I dont know if people can think of love. I know that's not the answer you were looking for. Love means different to every one. Why can't you love me the way I like to be loved. Why women think they know a man very well just in 2 years of relationship.

Bakry123 · Answer

Mostly women i think 😅.. first off all women talk and when they see other girls with money partner they get jealus , second they love it cause it give them power & dream objectives & fame... its kind of sexy thing to them.

MecheD · Answer

It’s simply because money doesn’t hurt you. Although it provokes others to do so. What you got is what you have. With “love” comes a lot of pain 8/10 what’s on the surface isn’t all as it seems truthfully.

SweetTay · Answer

I think it's because with enough money you can have anything lol

Unit1 · Answer

Love hurts but money doesn't.  money doesn't lie, cheat or abuse me.  "love" did all 3 of those. Obviously the wrong ones but the point is, that i literally never met a dollar or a euro i didn't like.

Sarahr123 · Answer

I personally don’t. Some people are more practical and others more emotional. I am a bit of an emotional fool at times.

WesBrewer · Answer

Because money is their love, but without money you can't sustain or afford love, so it is really important.

Marioz86 · Answer

Because by end of the day you will still be unhappy in love after a while "because it rarely lasts long" but at least it's easier to cry in a expensive mercedes then on your two wheel bike.

Tomsta · Answer

Speaking for myself. It gave me a sense of security that i am not a slave only to my emotions

I should point out that i am well aware i have issues with emotional connection and am working on dealing with it

InferiorElegy · Answer

For someone like me who's never been shown or ever felt love and never will, what else is there to want in life but money. My only dream these days would be to have enough money that I don't have to work meaningless jobs ever again.

ManHater · Answer

Money is more important because money won't divorce you, money won't give you kids, money won't give you women who complain about how you don't spend time with them. Money won't have to deal with cheating bitches behind your back.

nella965 · Answer

some men think that sex is better than love too. You call them gold diggers and sexual predators.

guesswhoseback · Answer

If they truly believe that then they are usually sociopaths. It has to do with their upbringing combined with genetics.

Omar5881 · Answer

Actually what’s important is family then money , “ love “ is a modern creation and i am talking about romance the idea that you should be in a relationship to be “happy “ is the stupidest thing I’ve heard and the most unrealistic

crazyboy313 · Answer

Some people have had absent parents or lack of love in their life, so they attach to something they know is good and stable: "money".

strawberrylipstick · Answer

probably cause money doesn't hurt.. wow that was emo as fuck

SphynxUK · Answer

Maybe because they’ve never had money to make the proper assumption.

TOTEMPLASTER · Answer

Money can buy love but love can not buy money - not counting prostitution.

FictionalCharacter · Answer

I believe money is better than love when love is not around.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Money buys you happiness up to a point. And love... loves not real.

genericname85 · Answer

well for men it is xD cause try finding a girlfriend, if you're broke af :D

Agape93 · Answer

Love doesn’t provide anything tangible. Money does.

REALSTEEL · Answer

cause rich people think money can buy love can buy anything NOT TRUE many will never buy love money you can run out of but true love is always there

HoneyButterCup525 · Answer

Money, money and money <3 <3 <3... If you have some it will love you back unconditionally :-)

nailsandhair · Answer

its not but it matters as money buys the basic necessities for you to live such as food, shelter, clothes, etc.

CoolKatie · Answer

they are dumb or just looking make some men hate women even more than steal that money since they could be gold digger.

Anonymous · Answer

I mean why would love be better than money?

What makes something more valuable is what people personally value. There’s nothing intrinsically valuable about money or love. People just value these things for their own reasons.

R3DthatDude · Answer

Because they’ve completely given up on love, but money is a nice replacement. For now.

Waldoe · Answer

they have been 'Hurt by Love', that's sad... Money isn't emotional, it's useful

jahaims · Answer

Because they haven't experienced love. Hard to know what you are missing if you never had it.

AFellowWeeb · Answer

You'll understand once you leave your parents house

Anonymous · Answer

Money won’t lie or cheat on you

Snakeyes7 · Answer

You lose money in most cases because you are an idiot and spent or gambled it all. Love can just fade for no reason whatsoever.

Mehzmeh · Answer

Because love is an emotion that is stupid. And money will never let you down. It might go away. But it will come back. Lol

msc545 · Answer

You need money to survive. You can buy love or at least a facsimile of love with money but you certainly can't get much money for loving somebody

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Because it is 🤣🤣. Money won't break your heart, lie , or cheat.

verynicee_ · Answer

Money could would probably help me survive better in life than love

TheAfrikan · Answer

Because they are basically in need if money and are still too arrogant about what life is really about.

Shy_Steve · Answer

I believe Money does not buy happiness so I think it's because of more freedom.

Why do some people believe money is better than love?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Why do people give too much importance to love over money?

Why do some people believe money is better than love?

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Why do people give too much importance to love over money?

We're glad to see you liked this post.