My new Girlfriend is mad at me and wants a break how to make her forgive me?

[ik09011]

I started dating this girl for a month and it's a new relationship. We have dated 8 times so far. Last time we met was 4 days ago and I could notice a sharp decline in her interest in talking to me for last 2 days. When I asked her, she mentioned this.

Any advice how to take this further and make her forgive me?

[RagnarRedbeard]

I’d say move on here.

If she isn’t in the mood she isn’t in the mood, and that’s a sign that she’s losing interest anyway. The early stages are supposed to be fun, exciting. It’s supposed to be the honeymoon period, you’re supposed to be at it like rabbits.

When that’s not happening there’s a lack of desire there and you’re wasting your time, especially when you try harder to make it work. What has turned her off is not only your lack of respect for her boundaries but your desperation, and you made it worse by begging her to or give you.

[TruthBringer]

Hate to break it to you pal, but she isn't interested in you. You don't have to push a woman for intimacy when she happens to be interested in you. In fact, if a woman is into you, she will try to get close to YOU. This girl clearly isn't. And when it comes to "taking a break", that's already a clear sign your relationship is over. Take your loses, ditch her and find someone who is genuinely into you.

Also, never try forcing things with a woman. That's a very bad thing on your part. A healthy relationship should go smoothly, not by force.

[ik09011]

Thanks! In this case, our relationship was already casual and not that romantic

[TruthBringer]

@ik09011 GOOD! That's actually a good thing for you. You deserve to receive the same amount of love you give. Just next time, don't repeat the same mistake of trying to force things. If a woman pulls back, so do you. I highly advice you check out the red pill when it comes to female attraction

[ik09011]

Got it. Thanks :)

[Emmerbea_23]

Honestly you really crossed a line so it’s not surprising she wants a break. You have to be respectful of peoples’ boundaries and they say “no” or “stop” they mean it, and you need to respect it.

[sheikalana]

You've been dating her for one month and this type of dramas are already happening? Not good a sign. For me if things don't go well in the first 6 months than it means we are not meant to be.

[TruthBringer]

Precisely, they are in the 'honeymoon phase' and this is already happening. I must say I've dealt with a similar experience with a girl who happens to be just like this to a degree. When the red flags start early on, you know it's going to last during the entire relationship. I parted ways with my ex and got with someone who is far more loving.

[sheikalana]

@TruthBringer exactly, the signs should not be ignored.

[btbc92]

You need to move on. That is harassment and signs of abuse. She told you no. Did you try 8x? I would have left the first time that happened. You apparently aren't changing and this is about lust. This isn't a relationship but you being horny.

[Elsa143]

Yes I think that girl was more into the emotional aspect. Because those who go slowly are actually wanting to know the person and connect with them on a higher level. I HATE THIS TREND OF MAKING OUT AND HAVING SEX. He creeped her out.

[Elsa143]

Plus it's a new relationship so how can someone be so comfortable with making out instantly?

[btbc92]

@Elsa143 Because this isn't the first time he's done it and more and likely targets insecure girls who don't have good boundaries. Notice how quick she was willing to try to work it again and it's 8x. RED FLAG. If the girl doesn't leave, she may God forbid get raped.

[Elsa143]

Trueee

[Soremain]

So she's mad at you because you didn't respect her saying no, but kept pushing. So now when she says she wants break, you want to know how to push it more? Isn't the answer obvious? If you keep pushing you are doing the same original mistake she's mad at you for. The only way to prove it was honest mistake and won't happen again, is not to contact her anymore and let her contact you if she decides to forgive you.

[MountAverage]

It's over. You crossed a line. You just started dating (she's not your "girlfriend") and you already made her feel deeply uncomfortable. She now knows she won't be able to trust you. Time for you to move on and reflect on your shitty behavior. The fact that you're calling her your "girlfriend" after only 8 dates just shows what an obsessive, pushy person you are. You need to change that.

[ItsTheNephilim]

You've asked for it and she agreed. Just wait for a while for her response. Show the change in you next time.

[CocoBatFangs]

So this is an established relationship? you should be able to kiss without any bullshit, saying you're not in the mood for kissing is not accepting affection.

If you're together and can't accept affection you're not a good couple.

[TruthBringer]

I agree, I see not why someone is a couple and wants to distance themselves. True love and romantic interest lets you long to the person and want their affection. Only those who are ingenuine in their feelings want to distance themselves. Unfortunately, often people get with each other while one of the two wishes to be with someone else. But they just want to pass time and it's "better to be with someone than alone".

[Anonymous]

9 times out of 10 I want a break means, I met another guy and I want to fuck him without it being considered cheating.
In your situation she could actually be mad about your behaviour, only you know.

[skeetskeetskeet]

Go fuck her friends... her jealiusy will bring her back quick... besides to her a break means she's going to fuck everyone she can without feeling like a tramp because your "on a break"

[TruthBringer]

FACTS! If a girl ever tells me she wants a "break", I'd give her all the 'break' she needs. In decades that is

[skeetskeetskeet]

Thats no joke

[worldscolide]

dude you all but forced her to make out. Move on, let her find someone that will treat her right. you obviously can't.

[Waldoe]

be patient, send flowers with a note "Sorry, I was excited" do NOT call her, for now

[TruthBringer]

Good sir, unfortunately, the younger generations are not the same as yours. I can only wish it were the case. Sending flowers is often a sign of weakness and in today's generations, it's all about mind-games. I envy your generation.

[uknown789]

talk to her and do something that will make her happy

[Inexpensivefurniture]

Sounds like she's in the right

[okeydoke]

You can’t make her forgive you.

[Anonymous]

fuck her. drop her ass and move on

[Twalli]

Give her time