I asked for time and space and he got upset?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been talking to this guy for some time (two years ‘friends’). We have our up and downs and I constantly felt stressed and hurt by him. I finally asked him to give me time and space bc he wanted to meet up again (now that the pandemic is dying down) and that I don’t think it’s burnout I’ve been going through (with school) but that it’s been him (I was just being honest with him). He said he would “continue to give me my time and space and to feel free to reach out when I’m ready and that he wishes me the best.” I don’t get what he wrote and why, I don't want to reach out to tbh, I feel better with my life and am focusing on myself though I miss him :’( but it was getting toxic with him. I told him I want to heal from a lot he put me through and he apologized and said it was miscommunication these past 2 years. Shouldn’t he be the one reaching out as I’m going through all this bc of him?

[5150crazyhabitz]

Thats what she said to me. Next thing you know she was married and pregnant. He is thinking the worst right now. He doesn't picture you with other guys.. his first experience?

[Asker]

No he’s 33 and has had other long term relationships lol. He has a lot of experience lol. It’s me who doesn’t have a lot of experience. I told him I was focusing on myself and I’m a full time student and worker so don’t have a lot of time like that lol

[5150crazyhabitz]

No need to lie on how you don't have time. If one of your classmate or co-worker ask you out you'll will say yes right away. Just tell him that your looking for someone better. Thats one of the reasons i don't be taking girls seriously cause my first experience. Is hard to trust girls these days

[Asker]

Every situation is different. Im a pre med student, I really don’t have a lot of time for him or for myself. If a classmate asked me out, Id be weary bc from my experience guys have been a distraction (my experience). I guess it does take the right person, but he’s put me through a lot. Not only that, I ASKED him what we were, and if he saw us progressing (bc we were really more than friends) and he said that he sees me in any relationship but that being with me... he has his CONCERNS. I don’t deserve that either. He would’ve kept stringing me along for another two years if I didn’t ask him and prevent me from really finding someone that doesn’t have his ‘concerns’ over me after 2 years

[Browneye57]

Wow, that's some gobbledy-gook, isn't it?
If you don't want or like him, tell him to fuck off.
The whole "I need space" = I want freedom to fuck other people.

If you two don't have any passion, attraction and desire, it's going nowhere fast.

[Asker]

Nothing like that. I liked him TOO MUCH, I’ve given him chance after chance and his actions never matched his words. We were alittle more than friends, for 2 YEARS. I ASKED HIM WHAT WE WERE recently because I FELT LIKE HE WAS LEADING ME ON. And he tells me that he enjoys my company but that he doesn’t have a lot of time with his jobs etc. He tells me he sees me as a friend and has thought about a relationship but that he has his CONCERNS with me (While I’m the one with concerns. You know a month before we met he had asked my co worker for her # and last month, he also asked my friend for her # too while I was in the bathroom?) He said he wanted to make ‘friends’ with my friends (I don’t believe it ). And for us to live in the moment because that is how he is living his life right now. So after 2 years of him stressing me out, he tells me He’s not sure if he wants to be in a relationship with me. But treated it as more, he has been basically stringing me along. Perhaps I should’ve elaborated my story, but I wanted space for a good reason. I was tired of his ways. And what makes it worse is that he’s trying to make me feel bad for asking for that space and time

[Browneye57]

Ew boy, this one is dead. RElationship, that is. Get out now, while you still have your sanity.
And don't blame your feelings on him, he can't 'make you' anything - YOU get to CHOOSE. So just choose to be happy that you likely dodged a huge bullet, someone that would just drag you down. And move on with your life, find a guy that really IS into you.