THE GUY I LIKE WANTS ME TO FINISH MY STUDIES SO I CAN BE HIS GIRLFRIEND?

[6898899]

I (26F) met a guy (35M) online. We're physically attracted to each other. He graduated from a reputable university in our country. He was moving too fast at first and I attempted to block him because I don't want guys who just want to get in my pants. After I blocked him, he created another account, called my phone number and told me that he wants to have a serious relationship. I gave him another chance and I confessed that I don't have a degree yet and now he wants me to finish my thesis this year. He told me that he wants a girlfriend who is a degree holder. He's constantly reminding me to finish my studies. He frequently calls and asks about updates about my studies. He's also constantly reminding me to lose weight. I'm 5'3" and 57 kgs but I still have curves. We both decided to start again as friends. Does he really want something serious or what? I need some advice. I admit that I'm really stupid when it comes to dating. English is not my native language so please excuse my bad grammar. Thank you for the answers.

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+1 y

I dropped out years ago (4th year first semester). He wants me to enroll again and get that diploma. He said that I should do it for myself and for my family. It's true that education is important but I feel like he won't take the relationship to the next level unless I lose weight or get a degree. I'm 37-28-37 and I don't think that I look obese. I don't think my face is ugly either. He's still communicating with me and always initiates convos

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+1 y

I already told him that I'm not the girl for him cause I don't fit his standards but he won't let me go. Whenever I ignore him, he would use another account to contact me and call my number.

[btbc92]

Wait, I am more concerned about you than I am about the guy:

1. " We're physically attracted to each other. He graduated from a reputable university in our country. He was moving too fast at first and I attempted to block him because I don't want guys who just want to get in my pants. " Wait, time out. You are sexually interested yet you don't want a guy who JUST wants to get into your pants? What is the point if you're going to do it anyway? If you want a gentleman don't get guys your lusting after but expect them to not want sex. Just and not doesn't compute to a man. And it causing confusion. A man gets into dating for sex nowadays PERIOD. Like it or not. If you're not going to have sex with him, just tell him that.

This guy needs to be reported. Leave this stalker creep who may try to rape you one day ALONE. Some creep tried similar online months ago. The moment he tried another account you SHOULD HAVE HAD HIM REPORTED. Now he may not leave you alone. Call the police and cut off ALL CONTACT. This guy just wants sex his way either way.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

If someone is putting demands you have to meet in order to be their girlfriend, that's not a good thing. It's one thing to encourage someone, but to make it a requirement is where is crosses the line. If you get your degree, it should be for yourself, not because of someone else treating you like that would be the only way you're good enough for them. Same for the weight loss. Do it for you're own health/well being, not for someone else. If he's being this demanding/controlling from the get go, it will only get worse with time.

[Floppy2112]

Higher education is not as important as it used to be. You have to do it for you, not him. He sounds like he's very controlling and he's made you no promises, so why waste your time on him?
I sense a theme, the more a guy is a douche, the more women try to please them. I am definitely missing out on something. I do really need to be more of a dick, I just don't know how.

[LegendOfTheHairSniff]

He likes you for who you are currently, otherwise he wouldn't be contacting you in this way.
His demands are unreasonable. He knows you're studying, he expects you to finish first?
He makes comments about your weight? Wow.
Forget this idiot. Do not allow anyone to mess with your head especially when you're finishing your studies.

[Siren777]

Wtf. This guy wants you to fit to his liking. You should do things because you want to not because some guy told you too. You won't like yourself if you try to live up to his expectations and nor will people recognize the person who you've become. If he really wanted to be with you, he wouldn't demand anything. You wanted to block him and should have left it at that. He seems like he has mental issues.

[6898899]

He's taking antidepressants

[Twalli]

Wanting you to finish your studies is reasonable, but wanting you to lose weight is less so. If you want to yourself and he reminds you to keep you motivated then it's okay, but if you are comfortable with your weight then you shouldn't have to lose weight because he wants you to. The fact th as t he wants to wait until you finish your studies before dating suggests he's looking for something long term.

[Avicenna]

Seems like he wants you to fit into what he wants rather than what you are

[Anonymous]

He sounds high maintenance and I'm not sure it'll ever end. Maybe he'll just add new goals for you once you achieve some.
Finding your studies is not a bad idea but body weight may or may not be.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, good English, not that bad. Anyway I don't like one thing about you! By now, I bet your boyfriend has noticed this. No hard feelings... Good luck

[6898899]

What is it? Can you please tell me? I'm unaware. I would appreciate your honesty. Thanks for replying.

[Opinion Owner]

Honestly I don't reveal most details to strangers. Anyway there are three things about you. I will only say one that is common but not that important.
1 Do you really love him? Trust follows love.
The other two are very important but I don't think I should tell you. Good luck

[Tomtom9090]

He is more controlling than you see. He can find another girl who has a degree and you keep looking.

[In_Trance]

You lied about your age how do we know if you're lying about anything else?
Troll

[6898899]

New here and I don't know how to update my info

[whitehide]

Call the fcking police

[Mylife411]

He is right