Am I (18) being friends with a 24 year old a bad thing?

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I am using an app called bottled. I don't know if I'll be in a romantic relationship with this guy for a few reasons but the main thing is the age gap. Even if we keep the relationship platonic is this wrong? And I know this might be too much to ask from the Internet but when you answer this I'm plea that you not be rude or condescending. I haven't told my parents this personally I probably won't tell either of them they tell each other everything then again I don't know. I would rather not accidentally overhear another conversation about myself while they are talking on the phone. Thank you if you took your time to read all of this.

Screenwriter · Accepted Answer

You are correct. The age gap is enormous at your age. You're just out of high school. This is a grown man with a job or in grad school and with a job. The life experience difference is too wide. It's fine to chat with this person and have a platonic relationship, but to get involved further isn't your best choice.
If you have the need to keep this secret from your parents, that alone tells me they wouldn't approve, and for a logical reason.
Keep that age gap around 3 years on the up side. When you hit 21, a 24 year old is quite fine. When you're 24, 28 and 29 year olds wouldn't be unreasonable, but you'll be in a completely different place by then. Take your time growing up. There's no rush.

SueShe · Accepted Answer

Both of you are adults and there is nothing wrong with the age gap of 6 years.

As a matter of fact, this age gap is close to be ideal because guys tend to be less mature than women by about 2-3 years. That means that the guy's mental maturity at age 24 is about 21. That would only make a mental age difference of 3 years which is pretty normal.

So, you really have nothing to fear since your relation is strictly platonic. Even if you were to interact physically with this guy, it is not a major problem.

ohshee · Accepted Answer

In life we search , we make choices we experiment, experience and we learn we challenge ourselves , I think if you are happy and he respects you and is a true friend first before anything else I say go for it I'm and older guy who have been on date with girls half my age I have had relationships with girls half my age and it's only common sense , that in time , you do want to hold the girl back from being who she wants to be and become , that is something I truly believe in ,, I say there must be a reason why your already friends and doing the things you do with each other so be happy go for it

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I am old so I don't really think finding a relationship on the internet is a good idea. The world is full of creeps and weirdos. Anyway, if you are hiding this from your parents it means that you already think it's not such a good idea. If you straight up met this guy in school or someplace I would see nothing wrong with it but the way this is unfolding I would have a problem with it.

Anonymous · Answer

No, there is not anything with that, legally and morally. You are now an adult, and you may do what you please. If you really like this person, I say if if it right, then go for it. I know it may seem like the 6 year difference is a lot, and you may believe it could be wrong because you are just barely an adult, but honestly I don't see a reason not to talk to him. Make sure you are not talking to someone older, that could be potentially dangerous, because generally there are catfish, and some apps could be dangerous. Meaning don't give your address, or highly personal information. Be aware, and I say go for it. Just do you. Telling your parents everything is not needed, I am not saying you should lie, but there should be no reason for a parent to find out. Something we have to figure out for ourselves so it's not needed. Good luck!

DWornock · Answer

The primary problem is you are affected by what people think and since most people believe he is too young for you, you will not be comfortable with the relationship if you are dating. It is okay to have him as someone to fuck when you need it, just don't date him.

SamKishere · Answer

Kinda depends on if by friends you mean friends with benefits or just friends like you just hang out. If you just hang out it’s cool. Otherwise maybe stop.

Wise4myage · Answer

Its totally fine and there is nothing wrong with this, because you're 18 and legal. So don't let a small age gap deter you. I see no reason for not telling your parents.

Browneye57 · Answer

Dating apps are for losers. He is ONLY on there for some pussy. Are you DTF? Age is completely irrelevant in this case. He wants in your panties.

Waldoe · Answer

you are in the 18-24 age category on here, that's because 18-year-old girls are just as mature as 24-year-old guys when you are 40, he will be 46 the perfect age difference... maturity-wise

EmotionOfFear · Answer

Yes, you two, while both adults, are in totally different ball games, to be honest...

Aurora1010 · Answer

Isn't 18 an adult in your country?

Kaneki05 · Answer

No not really. Kinda normal.

Avicenna · Answer

It's perfectly fine- you're both adults

Twalli · Answer

My dad and mom are 6 years apart

Dinosaursandanime65 · Answer

No, if you both are trustworthy.

JessieBellll · Answer

My son had a 56 year old friend at 23

In_Trance · Answer

it's bad if you both think it's bad

Lostguuy · Answer

I don't think it's a bad thing

throwaway1010 · Answer

Sounds normal to me

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