Do you guys ever wanted to get into a relationship but you're traumatized by previous ones or maybe by family?

[Emptynen]

[caring__1]

Trauma leads us to be more cautious... "once burned, twice shy." This doesn't prevent people from getting into quality relationships; it just slows them down a bit. They will be more observant and shy away from red flags from their past.

If you're interested in someone who has been traumatized in the past, be very patient and prioritize making sure that person always feels safe with you. Never assume, accuse, blame, criticize, overreact on, or tell them what they should or shouldn't do. Show you believe in their ability rather than rescuing, nagging, talking down to or talking at. Seek clarification and show your caring and curiosity.

If you've been traumatized and want a relationship, trust your gut. Be observant and respect your red flags. Never assume people will change. What you see is what you get. Look for compatibility. That doesn't mean you have everything in common; it means neither feel threatened by the differences. Make sure there are some commonalities the two of you can plan together, work on together, measure your progress together and enjoy the fruits of your labor together. Unilateral decisions will not work for someone who experienced trauma. Make all significant decisions joint decisions.

[boggboss]

Luckily no if I was tho I would have to wait till I had for over my trauma

[Emptynen]

Glad you're not!
Sometimes a trauma can live with your whole life, even if you get into a relationship you'd always have thoughts about your trauma and stuff

[boggboss]

Then if its that bad I'm sorry to hear that I dont see how a relationship can work in that situation

[Emptynen]

Ikr!

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty much over the whole relationship thing. People don't believe in honesty anymore. No one respects themselves. I'm good by myself.

[Emptynen]

Totally agree!

[vald9inches]

Yup its the arab curse i believe

[Emptynen]

Lmao, do you think so?

[vald9inches]

I believe it with all my heart! We arabs and our families love to gossip about each other too much and stick our nose in their children's personally love life too much

[vald9inches]

You know it's true

[Emptynen]

Well that's totally true! Too much pressure

[vald9inches]

I don't know why arabs love gossip so much especially about relatives and family lol

[vald9inches]

Its like in our dna 😂

[Emptynen]

It is in everybody's DNA but arabs are leading the game 😂

[vald9inches]

Yup exactly!! Haha

[vald9inches]

😂🤣🤣🤣

[Emptynen]

😂😂😂

[In_Trance]

Never

[Emptynen]

Never been traumatized or never wanted to be in a relationship?

[In_Trance]

Never traumatized by past relationships

[Emptynen]

That's great!

[Jmmmfi4]

Most definitely

[Emptynen]

True..

[apimpnamedslickback]

yeah