My last relationship left me feeling like I was the crazy one, that I had no empathy or sympathy, and that I asked too much of my ex.
I tried communicating with him but he always took me wanting to have a discussion as an attack and he always twisted it around about how it was my problem. He would make bad behavior about how he had to do what was best for himself and I have no right to be upset at him because he had good intentions. As long as he had good intentions for how he treated me, I had no right to be upset at him. Period. He owed me nothing, not even an apology, as he liked to remind me often.
He only treated me well when he felt I deserved it, but I had to be the one to be able to read his mind and know what he wants when he wants at all times, or else he would give an ultimatum.
I literally let him get away with treating me terribly and I would always make excuses for him because of everything he went through in life. Never EVER make excuses for your significant other’s bad behavior. It is not your fault and you do not deserve to be treated terribly no matter what he/she went through before you.
None of what he led me to feel was true and I know this now. My ex was a narcissist and I have come a long way in finding my self worth again, but I still have a ways to go. I am still hesitant in giving someone else a chance although I feel I am ready to. It’s hard, but I know I am on my way.
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I have a couple of times, first time was when the love of my life was killed in a car accident. I never thought I'd find another, so totally gave up for a couple of years.
The next time, actually moved in with the guy but came home one day and he was watching child porn. Not just any child porn though, child porn that my rapist uploaded after he raped me.
That one was so bad, I called the police so they could arrest him for it and they hauled his ass away and I said never again.
I often would quit for awhile, or just give up on men... and think, well maybe women would be better but then I found my current man and he is the best.
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My very last relationship that I had was like that we started out as friends I was just trying to help her get on her feet she had just broken up with her boyfriend at the same time just moved here from Colorado and I gave her some work and would give her a little bit more work and a little bit more when things start happening and other things that are happening next year and I try to explain to her that this really isn't meant to be just because we had great sex doesn't mean anything and I really thought we were two different type of people and I told her it just wasn't going to work I don't think she wanted to try I said what the hell and I should have stuck with my first thought about it because about a year into it it just wasn't working anymore it took me 7 months to get her out of my house because I was still time to be kind but she wasn't hearing anything that I was saying she just thought she could take me for that ride once I finally got her out and on the airplane to go back to Colorado I could actually breathe again but I was so angry so pissed off I didn't want to have anything to do with any girl ever I felt that I had lost myself even my friends were telling me you're just in a bad mood you're not the same guy I said I know that so I just needed my space I knew I'd find myself again but yeah relationships like that take a toll I mean I'm the type of guy if I break up with somebody I'm still their friend forever and they know that and there are a few exes that I have that I mean we're still there for each other we don't have sex or anything and I wouldn't because that would just be leading right back into the same boat we were in I don't believe in that but yes this girl did a number on me I finally got her out of my house right before covid thank God but I've just been getting myself back together doing lots of work and trying to flirt to feel what it feels like again trying to smile it all works itself out in time but I will start listening to myself because I never want to experience that again
Nope never. I have had some seriously terrible relationships. Well seriously just one, but it was a 20 year ordeal involving kids. But in the end, I pride myself on being and excellent judge of people, and strong interpersonal skills. So I always knew my ex wife was not a good person. I mean at 20 years old I got her pregnant thats the only reason why I married her honest. Sure I thought I loved her at 20, and maybe I truly did... but it didn't take long for her to show her true colors. But being a man with a high sense of Inegrity and honor I always tried my best. So in the end whose to really blame, the monster or the one who kept it feed and allowed it to grow and mature into a really man eater. So I am not without blame or fault... and that failure taught me a lot about myself and how to be better, stronger, wise and more confident about myself and in other people.
But No way would I ever give up, or quit trying. I am a very social person with strong interpersonal skills, so I need and want some one special in my life to feel that bond and emotional connection with.
For me to give up on dating or people in general to the degree that I quit trying would mean that I would have to give up on myself. And I would never do that.
Not like your experiences at all. My bad situations were more because of my lack of experience I'd say. I would kinda develop multiple personalities while talking with them. I'd tease like "why you deleting your Tinder for" insinuating I'm not wanting something serious I guess and to me it just sounded kinky so I'd say stuff like that. I was just weird, I was talking like someone else and so when she did start getting Tinder dates after a few months of me being meh, which was prime time for me to ask questions and show my interest. What really happened would be she announces her dates and I'd be like oooh nice that's hot, or on those lines. While then that night after we hang up I'd cry myself to sleep. I created my hell essentially and yeah built up horribly, went insane. And now that girl identifies as male and female... and is married off to a woman. Like from what I hear she's happy and all so that's great. Learned a lot, thought a lot about why she did things. So I gained more than I lossed in the end for sure.
Yep, over the last couple years, I learned that all women are selfish whores that enjoy the pain they make you feel. Funny. I use to be the simp that put women on a pedestal, until they sucked all the joy and hope from my life and tortured me emotionally making me pray for the sweet release of death until I finally cut all my emotions away, the only way I could live is without a heart, now its just cold, ice cold, thats why most guys are cold because we couldn't take the endless tourture, so you have to choose to die on the inside so at least the empty shell of myself can survive. I'm empty I could gather the courage to gather the shattered pieces of my heart, and the remaining slivers of my soul and glue them back together again, but for what so another sadistic woman to tear me apart all over again and get off t the emotional pain they cause me
Everyday I think about every woman that hurt me, I know they never think of me, their too busy killing the hopes, dreams and crushing the hearts of another good guy. I live for nothing
I forgot what your question was but I'm sure I answered it in there somewhereNope. I would break up with the person I had a bad experience with and not look back but I know there are good people in the world. Maybe I’ll be more cautious about getting serious with someone but I’ll talk to people, get to know people and enjoy time with new people. If I feel completely secure around them then maybe we’ll have something serious.
When my ex-girlfriend's mother reported to the police that I am a pedophile. I was 13 and her daughter was 12. They moved because of me. I've found out where she is after all of these years.
I am 18 now and hadn't been in a relationship since. Mainly because I see that nobody wants to date me. I have not yet completely given up on love. I hate it when people share their current love story and when people brag about having a lover, and when people show their love to their romantic partners, it makes me lovesick to the point where I want to scream and cry.
In my latest attempt, I spent a year talking to a girl, and got really close. Met her once and this day was probably the best day of my life, even though we didn't kiss or anything else. After that, she stopped talking to me, wouldn't show the same interest in talking to me as before. Tried to meet her again, but she traveled and didn't warn me in time. Right on Christmas I saw her profile picture with someone else. We didn't even get official, but this felt like a heart-smashing breakup. I'm definitely not trying again ever again.
I'm not really someone who gives up easily. Probably more stubborn than I should be, honestly.
But every failed relationship has taught me more and more about love, about myself, and about life.
I don't really care if I have more failed relationships. If I keep growing and overall they're more good than bad by the time they end, I'm happy.
Each relationship has taught me more. Narrrowed my scope, widened my horizons, and enriched my view on life.
Before I started dating, I thought I was a cis straight woman into white boys. None taste.
Now I know I'm a bisexual enby who is cishet white boy free for life. Only queer PoC for me from now on. They're my people.Yeah, for years, every guy I liked thought I wasn't good for anything but sex. I didn't give it to them, so they walked away. Then, I finally met someone who was interested and funny and wanted to be with me. I fell hard and I thought he was falling for me too. But it turned out he lied about almost everything that was important. He was an alcoholic, drug-addicted narcissistic neo-nazi. So, that was traumatizing. And since that ended, I'm back in the same boat where a lot of men love how I look and would love to take me to bed, but no one wants to love me. So, I'm done.
Being raped put me off men for a couple years. Even just looking at a man made me furious at the time, because I was still working through the trauma of being violated. But eventually thanks for therapy and good men in my family, I had help working through it and regained trust for guys after a while.
Not give up. But it has really forced me to take a measured approach. I'm much more practical about relationships now. Everybody loves the rush of feelings they get when they're in love. But there are real life consequences for BOTH OF YOU, when you just chase those feelings.
First two boyfriends where either manipulative or disrespectful or something like that. 3rd boyfriend wasn’t sure of himself and current boyfriend is the most caring person ever.
My first and last relationship was strange.
She said i am sweet and that she loves me and all that. But then she took a vacation to a metropolis city. She even asked me if its okay and i said fine by me. What really happened is she went there and found herself a rich man there and who knows what they did. Only A few months later after the vacation she ghosted me and moved there without telling me. Others have relayed this to me. She threw my heart away and turned into a gold digger.
A natural reaction occurred to me being angry at women but eventually it wore off after repeatedly seeing women unlike her.
I am open for love but i generally dont expect girls to stay for long. Real love is when she can walk away at any time but she doesn't want to.
Ima keep it a bean. Yeah I have, my first real and long term Relationship left me permanently fucked up. It took me 3 years to get over it (or at least get it out of my mind like that). I will admit it wasn't the relationship itself that was bad, it was the breakup and the reasons behind it that left me absolutely mind fucked. But you know, it it is what it is, i am what i am
Yes. I was viciously attacked, berated, accused and kicked out. Twice. It was a side swipe I didn't see it coming and still to this day don't understand how it happened. Because I don't know where it came from I am really gun shy that I might be target practice again.
by the way I love the song “Falling” the lyrics slaps.
I always have my guards up. I’ve had a few bad experiences here and there but I usually catch on to these things before they get worse and end it ASAP. Ofc I still have my guard up but that won’t stop my from trying again.No. That's like giving up on life after trying and failing at some activity.
I give my all, no matter what. If things don't work out, life goes on.
There was one particular girlfriend who I wound up loving with my heart and soul. Even though we had our own places, we lived together for over a year. When the relationship fell apart, I was a wreck. It took me a year to pull myself together. But three years after the breakup, I met my future wife.My current boyfriend and I dated years ago and when he broke up with me I genuinely thought I'd never love again because I couldn't fathom why he would do that but over the years I matured, processed, realized a lot of my mistakes and thankfully we worked things out to a point where we could try again.
I give it at least 2times, if it’s bad or just not right or I feel disrespected, then bye. For me it goes for all types of relationships
I picked E but I had a year where I dated 5 or 6 different girls. Some I probably should not have been with. It was fun at first but I got sick of all the toxic behavior and the lying and deceit. One night I went to a concert with a girl and I just got really sick of her. I was going to give up dating for a while maybe forever. Ironically I met my future wife the very next day.
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