Have you ever had "ONEITUS"?

[coachTanthony]

ONEITUS is: An unhealthy romantic obsession or fixation for/on one person. This mental disease will often interfere with your ability to attract said person, due to your clingyness.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That sounds like an infectious disease🤣🤣 but, no! Unless you count still not being over the loss of my husband, cuz that's the last man I was in love with..

[coachTanthony]

No that would be completely different.

[es20490446e]

Ohh...

[Nik1hil]

He was a really lucky man!. To have an amazing wife like you.. Your love story must have been epic!..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Nik1hil no it was nothing perfect, we fought, had our ups and downs, but when I had my back surgery he was there and when he couldn't care for himself anymore, I was there...

[Nik1hil]

"we fought, had our ups and downs"

Are you kidding..
Being able to fight.. And having ups and down.. This definition of a real relationship...

Some night I dream of having someone to fight and argue with.. Loneliness kills me..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Nik1hil "Do you have to leave your socks on the floor"🙄 "And the toilet seat up"😤
There, do you feel less lonely🤣
Seriously tho, I hear you!!

[Nik1hil]

Haha.. I do wish a girl would nag at me.. Then I would grab her and kiss her and shut her mouth for a little while..

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

@Nik1hil 🤣🤣 that's a good way to shut someone up👍😄

[alleon]

Loneliness is a killer

[MrBadd]

No I've never been able to understand it. Unless I'm already dating a girl seriously why would I get my feelings involved?

This is what guys do when they're too afraid to do something about it. You ask them why they haven't done anything yet and they always have some lame excuse because they're waiting for "the right time".

If I like the girl I let her know pretty quick, and if she doesn't like me back that's it, time to move on. I get the "yes" or "no" early so there's none of that bullshit.

[NathanDavis]

Not this one, but I definitely was quite stupideitus with my first crush in middle-school.

I was just blinded entirely by my crush that I never saw, or didn't want to notice the four girls that had a crush on me. As soon as changed to a new high-school, I said to myself never again, gotta stop idealizing people and getting fixated within yourself... lol.

[lilyanony1]

Maybe that's what it was. Of all my relationships even though we were together he was the only guy I really fancied. He took the piss out of me I think to see just how much I loved him and was prepared to take just to keep him.
Even if I complained.

What a sad loser I am!

[PaynefulPleasures]

Very interesting I just read through some of this no I've never suffered through this , thank you for sharing

[BUNroaster]

One it is

[420Rachel]

Hahaha yesss. 🤣 I was obsessed with this boy back in high school and he thought I was a straight up weirdo. Oh Lord Jesus help me. I cringe every time I think about it. 😭😭😭

[electromagnetic]

Sounds horrible!
I used to fantasize about getting with my ex after we broke up but not to the point of clinging. Then I got over it.

[exitseven]

I have had this. It was during my "I never want to be in love with anyone." phase. I was being pulled in two different directions.

[exitseven]

Or- I had oneitus once but the doctor fixed me up with some penicillin.

[Anonymous]

Yes tbh, last year I had a big crush on this guy and I’ve never been so infatuated with someone before (unless it was a boyfriend.) I would hold out from getting with other guys just because I worried what he would think about me. I would think about him all the time even though we weren’t dating 🥴 how sad. Never again.

[Jamie05rhs]

Damn. And he never found out?

[have_a_good_day]

Oneitis... One it is...
Sounds pretty damn romantic right about now

[bwggns01]

I did for the first 10 years of my mostly sexless marriage. Once I stopped fixating that she was the “one” and started accepting that I should probably move on she suddenly became hyper sexual and “in love” with me... go figure

[kevyhanma]

Yes to Tara strong I wanna do her while she does her Timmy turner voice

[virusbkk]

Yup, just recently as a matter of fact, but under unfavorable circumstances.

I developed limerence for my affair partner,
although the actual affair only lasted 1.5 months.

Not exactly ONEITUS, but quite similar - especially the unhealthy obsession.

It is the worst kind of curse, constantly wondering about what could have been and why they didn't like you as much as you liked them.

[es20490446e]

I think that becoming obsessed with the person you like is natural and, in the right circumstances, good.

As long as that person feels the same back, and that allows you to love them in such a way they feel free.

[Wiredone]

No, I can't say that I have. I'm not clingy and I don't date clingy

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes. I am especially susceptible to this, being a monogamist. That's just how I'm wired. But I think I'm getting better. The older I get, the more cynical I get. So that's always helpful in combating annoying little feelings like love.

[pokerbot]

haha yeah. What was I thinking? That's a rhetorical question. Obviously I wasn't thinking at all.

[kyleelyn199723]

No. I don’t typically show I like someone unless if they show signs that they like me.

[Jamie05rhs]

That's a catch-22, though.

[kyleelyn199723]

Oh it is. Lol that’s why it took months for me and my boyfriend to figure out we even liked each other. It’s a defense though because I’ve been hurt in the past

[Anonymous]

No, but I had a nasty case of onegina for a number of years.

[Juxtapose]

I like to get really emotionally close & intimate but I wouldn't say it's unhealthy.

[GoldenTulip]

No thanks. I am not a Fan girl. Sounds like those groupies who are hyper fans of pop idols. 😂

[AzzaBlue]

No but I do have Zerofucksgivenitus.

[Jjpayne]

Nope... At least not yet anyway 😬

[dpy87]

If you haven't hade oneitis you aren't normal. Everyone has that one person they fixate on.