Girlfriend always complain about stupid stuff?

[Anonymous]

It honestly sometimes feels like bullying, we can spend a whole day loving each other, not being able to keep our hands from each other and she will get mad at:

• me when she makes a teasing joke about me, i throw one back and she gets defensive and angry as hell (says i ruined her mood)
• whenever something happens that isn't favorable to her or just enough
• she loses something small or is having trouble (for example: will explode that she lost her earring in the bedroom and blame me for not finding it or helping)

She will argue over something trivial and completely explode over something i supposedly said but she took completely out of context.
She will also involve random things from the past and then turn mad whenever i do so cause im just "bringing shit up to hurt her"...

Even the "rules" are hypocritical.. Im not allowed to talk or see any females (not even work related) while she may meet up with every boy cause she is a "tomboy with more male friends than girlfriends"

She also tends to overreact, when we argue she will either kick me out of her house or just run away in public. Then youd think its over, but when i did indeed leave her, id always get a message that i didn't care about her and she would be waiting for me, all forgiving...

But what i hate most is that she argues over stupid stuff, like really explodes over small stuff... And whenever i put a big problem of mine on the table, she just dismisses it nor offer help...

I love her to death and she loves me too, maybe it is the age difference (20 vs 25) but what should i do about this?

[Anonymous]

You only talk about what she’s doing wrong, let’s see your flaws too. I’m sure you are no saint lmao.


I must say I’ve been in similar situation so I think I can relate to this a bit. Try to reflect on what you do wrong. Remember relationship is about two way work. Both partners need to ADJUST to one another. No relationship works where it all falls in place and everyone is just perfect and accepts everything. You must be fair with yourself and list with her all the things you dislike about each other and MAKE PLANS how you are going to change this, Then finally STICK TO THE PLAN.


My last relationship didn’t work exactly cause it was lacking on that. I hope you aren’t making the same mistakes as it might go down the drain too.


And if you are really perfect and she is just by non sense being angry then she’s crazy (which lets be honest isn’t true, even thought that’s what you expect me to say). Everything has a reason and so does her behaviour. Your job is to find out why and fix it. If you aren’t willing to fix it then just break it off, y'all aren’t meant for each other.

[Asker]

I do and have admitted my wrongs
I know im no saint, i have been vulnerable since the start quite frankly about my issues and emotions. I never hide behind any excuse

But even when i was honest, she still had troubles dealing with the issues. So instead of internalizing it she. Would just tell everyone about how she was left in the dirt cause i was this/that
Basically twisting the story

I have always been the one to say no relationship works without balance ya know

[Opinion Owner]

Then I guess you need to have a sit down and see if you can fix it and if it doesn’t work out then it’s pointless to carry on. I wasted 2 years of my life thinking it will get better.. yeah can never get it back

[pleasestopthis]

I'm a no nonsense kind of person and so I'd break up on the spot. Couples should have fair rules that apply to both of them, not only to someone. She sounds like a spoiled brat.

[Asker]

Exactly what i was thinking too...
She even lives in one of the richest part of our country but ever refuses to (re) pay only when she gets her pocket money, cause she is broke and wouldn't get anything from her mom, meanwhile they buy new horses,1mil house, cars, new mobile phones etc

I'm poor, like really poor, yet i still have to go every length even then when she's mad she'll tell me how boring and stupid everything was
It's like she's bipolar af cause 20min later she's the complete opposite again

[pleasestopthis]

I'm sorry to say that this girl is super immature and you likely will end up sick of her

[CallMeDave]

A lot of what you describe sounds like one of my exes. I spent a long time trying to make things work with her but she wasn't making an effort and the problems kept getting worse until eventually I left. I've never regretted that. I'm in a better relationship now with someone that's usually much more pleasant to be with.

[twis7]

bro, run.

[Asker]

Why man i hate running i love to fight for things, solve it

[twis7]

some people can't be fixed.