What is the biggest reason why people cheat?

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zeitgeist057 · Accepted Answer

The species is not biologically monogamous. So "the biggest reason" is that it is not in their nature. "Cheating" is breaking artificial rules that have been put in place by popular culture, but it's not natural law that is being broken.

Homo sapiens evolved over generations based on the fairly simple laws of nature. Those traits that proved "successful" (were passed down generation after generation) include the inclination to be horny, have unprotected sex, and create more children.

The truth is, when humans attempt to be monogamous, they are in fact fighting their natural inclinations in order to create a more secure situation for themselves where they are "guaranteed" a stable future. But surprise, there are no real guarantees in life. That's why around half of marriages end in divorce, and of the remaining half, many of them are unhappily married, and either one or both partners are cheating on each other. If you do the simple math, that means the vast majority of monogamous relationships are defunct. Failures. Of course there is the public face and "social media" illusion where everything looks like it works from the outside (much like the millions of instagram and Facebook posters who make their lives look so amazing, when actually they aren't doing much or feeling fulfilled).

A lot of people will answer "they got bored", or "their partner isn't satisfying" type answers. This is just more of the illusion of monogamy, trying to blame the partner for "not being enough", but that's a bunch of BS. No one person should be expected to fulfill a person's every want and desire. It has nothing to do with some failing of the cheater or their partner. It's the system that's rotten, not the people.

gotc147 · Accepted Answer

Dissatisfaction with their partner.

In the fall of 2019 a girl cheated on her boyfriend and later fiance with me. He found out and broke up, then took her back and now they're married. I was not the first time she cheated on him either.

The guy is the definition of a whipped beta male who is wrapped around her little finger. He has no self respect, is a narcissist, abusive mentally and physically and is just overall weak. Which is what she wants, she is extremely controlling and he will bow to her every whim. But with him being so submissive that leaves other more base level desires unfilled, hence her cheating on him multiple times.

Assuming you or whoever you're talking about isn't a controlling psychopath, if you're cheating it means you're with the wrong person, break it off.

hannahjo022 · Accepted Answer

There are many reasons why a person would cheat. it could be they are not satisfied with their sex life with their partner, lost interest in their partner no more, not attractive to their partner anymore, there is no spark in the relationship, and other things. I've been cheated on with previous relationships due to them lost in interest in me. They ended up being with that person. They should have man up to break up with me.

Coulis · Accepted Answer

The single biggest reason is a lack of satisfaction. Whether this is emotional, recreational, physical or a mixture of all three depends on the person and their circumstances.

But, I believe the base is that there is some need or desire that isn't being met.

Cheating is obviously the wrong way to go about it but it doesn't invalidate the fact that a person is missing something that they want or need.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

People cheat because of their character defect.

rounddablock · Answer

Usually it’s shitty personal values. In some very rare cases it might be “semi” justifiable. That is you are in miserable marriage and your partner treats you like pond scum. You want a divorce but that’s financially and/or relationally (kids) difficult. Still it’s not right. But in some very rare circumstances I somewhat understand.

But what’s the worse is when the cheater gaslights and/or tríes to justify their bullshit. Even if their partner wronged them, two wrongs don’t make a right.

LazarusTheRisen · Answer

Some people cheat because they are just scumbag people who have no remorse or empathy. A lot of people cheat because they feel inadequate, and one person showing even fake desire towards then is enough to cheat.. people need to feel desired and safe. If you can't offer that people will go elsewhere to find it. Unfortunately most people are to stupid or codependent to leave before cheating.

oddwaffle · Answer

A guy goes home and find his family a mess. The wide only sticks around because of the children. No more love or passion between them... Yeah that's how the story goes.

So he headed out for a drink. To forget about the mess he has to live with. Found a young girl wishing for her life to be different.

"I can't fix my life but I guess I can help you change yours" - thought the guy. So he did. Sparks flied, passion ignited...

Gespenster_division · Answer

With men it seems generally to be that they can and various women are willing to let them screw them.
With women a general theme is monkey branching, they are looking for someone better so when some other guy shows up and flatters their narcissistic ego with and agrees with all her opinions. " your beautiful", " he doesn't deserve you" " if you were my woman I'd treat you so much better".

thimmslicc · Answer

Not happy with themselves.
Need reassurance from the next.
Constant cycle of ego boosting so he/she feel better about their self****
They want their cake and eat it too and be told happy birthday as well.

JayLiche · Answer

I’ll explain it the best way I can.

Its like Apples IPhones.
This year you want the IPhone 10.
Then the IPhone 11 Comes out.

Yeah the 10 Was the big thing when it was new
Yeah the 10 Has done a lot of you,
But damn look at that 11.

I don’t agree with it, don’t blame me
Don’t kill the messenger

NoLookingAtSoleil · Answer

It is squarely an attack on your dignity by invalidating you as a provider (of love).
Why? The 'who' is scum. Why are scum scummy? Whole lot of reasons (mostly because they lie and cheat as a regular occurrence and expect that to be sustainable/go judgement or punishment free, but also for justice to exist).
You could call it 'they cheat out of greed' - to hurt you into giving them more or to punish you for not giving them more (of whatever they are after)

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

I've thought about that long and hard having been on the receiving end once or twice. I think because they are too scared to end the relationship first for fear of being alone.

RougeKage · Answer

Lack of intimacy/ someone else who gives that person interest/ thrill/ not feeling loved by thier significant other/ bad relationships with thier significant other

Anonymous · Answer

This girl I've been sort of seeing has cheated on her boyfriend with me several times.

I'd say the biggest reason is because her interest in her boyfriend is dwindling, she's not 100% satisfied physically and/or emotionally, and she probably felt more attracted to me.

Obviously, I don't know the true reasons, but the above seem to be the major reasons.

aliali8 · Answer

I can say that 90% of the time if someone cheats, it’s usually due to some sort of dissatisfaction in the relationship. Usually their needs aren’t met.

PinkSands04 · Answer

They’re not happy or not getting some of their needs fulfilled in the relationship

genericname85 · Answer

i would say lack of commitment as a result of character weakness or lacking motivation to stay with the partner they aree currently with xD sounds obvious huh?

Screenwriter · Answer

They likely witnessed or knew about their parent or parents cheating and thought this was acceptable because mom or dad did it.

Starwitch23 · Answer

People cheat because they were not happy in the relationship and they are coward to break up

muscularbumblebee · Answer

Because you don't care about who you're seeing so it seems justifiable

TwoowT · Answer

People cheat when they get bored from their usual daily routine with their partner. Or when they can’t find real love or not sexually satisfied

Дерйа · Answer

Because they want to try another relationship, just to figure out if it's better than the current one.

burlen · Answer

The target is attractive or provide some benefits that appeal to the cheater.

SomeGuyCalledTom · Answer

Loose morals + opportunistic decision-making + a secret desire for hedonistic rebellion against the very notion of loyalty to their partner.

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

There is no relevent reason that they could give that would justify cheating it's a chance that they take and face the consequences of it

OutWestBandit · Answer

well there is zero threat of you leaving, why worry?

Anonymous · Answer

The biggest reason is that they don't believe in monogamy.

Nazgol · Answer

Lack of pleasurable sex, lack of love & attention, boredom, lacking excitement in life, desiring to feel wanted & loved again

Becky316 · Answer

I think it is because they are greedy and want something that they don't have

dileep85 · Answer

People cheat because they want same-things from others even though they are getting it from their partner. That’s not good for a relationship

Tonita91996 · Answer

People are childish and selfish that is why so they play mind games to have their cake and eat it too. They are not ready to settle down.

Anonymous · Answer

They are too immature, to not realise how much they can hurt their partner by their stupid actions.

ItsMeItsMe1989 · Answer

To get away with it THATS THE ONLY LEGIT REASON TO CHEAT Everything else, is a sad, pathetic excuse for a sad pathetic life

OddBeMe · Answer

Pathological addiction to lying, grass is greener syndrome, combo.

banice · Answer

Loyalty is a decision and cheating is a choice so those who cheat got their own reasons but i honestly don't agree that cheating is a solution

Anonymous · Answer

For me it would be wanting better but still loving your partner

Anonymous · Answer

No matter how hot a girl is eventually the sex gets boring. You need some new pussy.

shydude1991 · Answer

Cause there's attractive women out there, he wants some of that.

baretone · Answer

cause they experiance what they are lacking at home or from partner

Anonymous · Answer

Lots of reasons. Lack of trust. Lack of self-worth. Lack of appreciation given by one's partner. Simple hedonism. Revenge.

Anonymous · Answer

some people need more love then 1 person can give them

Anonymous · Answer

some men are just greedy. I read a post by a sex worker and she said some men have wives and just are greedy.

RichardCranium6201 · Answer

Their own insecurities

CaptainCuddles · Answer

Their priorities are in the wrong place.

karaspara · Answer

The biggest I would think is unhappiness

Shihab91 · Answer

Lack of self control 👏👏👏👏👏 Thank you

exitseven · Answer

They have a personality defect.

WowwGirl · Answer

Research says a different reason for both genders

Dsg1193 · Answer

The person isn’t happy in their relationship

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Tired of the other person. Desire something new.

Adam_West · Answer

just pure boredom :DDD

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Lack of satisfaction..

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Because the bitch stops putting out.

Anonymous · Answer

Accesss to better pussy or dick

White_Boy_506 · Answer

Because they are sociopathic human beings

Mrbig8787 · Answer

No affection or love giving

Nachowedgie · Answer

They're a piece of shit

Asianguy123 · Answer

losing sexual interest on their partner?

Anonymous · Answer

Bored with the relationship and no sex

Anonymous · Answer

When he/she is not feeling loved.

Anonymous · Answer

Immaturity

Supernormal · Answer

They need Insurance

Johnjireijj · Answer

Boredom

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