Have you ever been rejected by a guy? How to get over rejection?

[Anonymous]

I was recently rejected and ghosted by a guy... What really annoyed me is that the guy used to compliment my looks, but suddenly he stopped answering to my messages and ignored me..
I also found out something he had said "I'm not really that attracted to that girl" about me..
Why wasting someone's time if you aren't attracted to them?

I feel incredibly ugly and disposable.. I was probably his fourth, fifth or gazilionth option. I don't think I'll be able to ever trust guys again after this fiasco

[lovelyleo]

Don't let the actions of this one person define how you feel about yourself. I have been rejected as you put it and it sucks. I have also met other guys who didn't reject me. The ones that do always come back. I have never had a guy to not come back. But when they do I don't talk to them. Why would I just for them to do the same thing over again. (Make sure you don't either) The way to get over it is to focus on your goals and improving yourself for you. Be a bit selfish for a while and the right person will come along when you're ready.

[ohshee]

Well I kind of look at it a different way if I was you I'd probably think the guy because nine out of ten guys wouldn't have rejected you they would have got all lovey-dovey got everything they wanted and then did something stupid to break up with you so you really got to thank the guy. And another thing when somebody gets rejected why is it always a negative I look at it like this some higher power did not want me to be involved with that person so somebody might have saved your butt you can't be upset for somebody saying I'm sorry but it's just not going to work I mean I think that's pretty decent of the person to be honest

[williamHD]

He might have gotten hurt by you which is why he rejected you and stopped answering. I remember when a girl hurt me my friends forced me to say those things even though I never felt that way. I recently got ghosted by a girl and then she came back and left me on delivered for hours so I ghosted completely. Could be a million things I’m sorry he made you feel that way but think in both your shoes and his. Never question your worth

[natured]

I lost count on how many times i got rejected when i was single, and not to sound arrogant, but there is nothing physically wrong with me and i think i'm kinda cute - just saying -
but yes, i had many crushes before I ADMIT, and MANY guys rejected me ghosted me or used me. But it never really put me down, because those guys where never my priority, SURE IT HURTS, but as long as you have your priorities figured out, they won't even leave a sign on you... so don't worry, nothing wrong with you, there is something wrong with them ;)
So head up, live love and laugh darling

[kaylaS91]

yeah, I was. He didn't ghost me but basically said a ton of shit like he's not what I'm looking for, he can't give me what I want, blahblahblah. After we'd hooked up.

I was super bummed for like a week or two. Till I met up with a new guy (with no intentions to hookup). Conversation was just so good and naturally, led to more. Not even much more than making out but I can confidently say that the best way to get over rejection/getting ghosted is to find a new guy.

[Still-alive]

Oh your last point is very good. Just finding a new person is enough to get over the previous one

[Loveydove]

Many times 😅 it is inevitably a part of life. How did i deal with it? Honestly depending on the depth of the relationship it hurt. I probably cried though I can't remember now and then moved on. There are so many people in this world. You will find someone else in due time.

[kkirk4442]

You do things that you like to do, and do things that build your confidence. Do things that you do well, and let yourself appreciate your accomplishments. Be around people who are supportive of you, and enjoy their friendships.

[TommyMountainFigure]

Hey come on. We aren't all morons like him. Most guys reading your question probably dislike what he did to you as much as you do..

There are plenty of idiots out there but that doesn't mean you won't find a guy that will treat you right. Besides if you change who you are because of him? He wins. are you really going to let him win?

[Luv2BRealExotic13]

Yup. I just find it’s a them problem and I’ll forget about him and on to the next. If he tries to come back either torture him with your success or block him. He sounds like he was doing the absolute bare minimum to try and hook up and when that didn’t work he’s not attracted to you and ghosted. Honestly some people just like to waste others time. You should take your power back and hype yourself up.

[Anonymous]

Yes I used to get rejected a lot but in a way I feel like being rejected is a blessing and it’s just a part of live. No matter how good looking, awesome, smart you may seem there’s always gonna be people that say no. Just realize that it’s a part of live and move on. Don’t let it define you!

[tatianamay]

Lol, I get ghosted a lot, and it happens to everyone at some point. It just shows how immature the dude was. Don’t give a fuck about him. You’re probably really pretty. Some people are just jerks, pay him no heed

[Anonymous]

An older guy I had fallen in love with told me I was too childish, immature, and stubborn for him, and that “the only reason I’m still talking to you is because we know people in common. Any other girl and I would have ignored”

it hurt like a bitch, but made me introspection a lot.

[scott04sa22]

When people ghosted someone like that it shows immaturely on their part. Not only that it shows their not mature enough to have any relationships. Sad...

[A_Bell]

We've all been there. Usually these outcomes are blessings in disguise. Would you want to be in a relationship with some who wasn't interested in you?

[Rebecka33]

Yes unfortunately I've had guys reject to be my friend or simply say hi yet talk to Al the other girls and guys in front of me. I've had rejected friendships.

[Hotboy_booblover]

Girls always do the same mistake.. look for love or acceptance at wrong places.. the world is too big to be bothered about a couple of rejections

[AlongCameCindy]

I've been ghosted by loads of guys yes, it isn't nice but you need to not let their opinion on you define you, you know you are great thats all that matters.

[TessCasie]

You’ve been ghosted get men with that body ( your profile pic) that’s just unimaginable 🙊

[TessCasie]

Ghosted by men*

[K-I-S-S]

Tess, guys also ghost/reject hot women, we think it's a fake profile or a scam, or etc. We get that a lot.

Or simply because she is too hot, for various reasons. Also every hot one has a boyfriend and a line of boyfriends waiting, a popular idea.

[TessCasie]

@K-I-S-S that’s stupid I believe it’s likely guys loss. We women out lot of effort physically to look hot to find our mate smh

[KrakenAttackin]

OMG, you got rejected? You poor thing! *Sarcasm*

Welcome to the real world.

[LoveIsFake]

Welcome to the world of dating for men this happens very often to us 🤣

[Anonymous]

Let's all help the Girl getting rejected for the first time in her life while us Guys are getting rejected all the time.

[K-I-S-S]

Why so bitter? If it's a comptetition then we are winning, no harm in helping losers right😗

[Opinion Owner]

@K-I-S-S Sorry I'm just sick of seeing Girls questions about dating and relationships on here when they have it easier in dating and relationships than us Guys.

[Sketti2021]

Yes, it's for the best