Guys, How do you handle rejection as a guy/men?

[Ousaf1]

Guys/men are always expected to make the first moves and with that getting rejected comes along with it. I wonder how you can handle rejection the best way possible. If you are dating someone, you gain an emotional connection and after you get rejected you are just supposed to forget about it which is hard. You also can't just say "there are too many women in this world so you don't have to worry". That doesn't help the issue at all 🤔.

[HiveBee]

By flirting with every girl you think is cute and telling them you like them.

By asking out lots of girls. You dont have to know who she is or have a crush on her to ask her out. You're not a bad person for being attracted to how a girl looks.

You handle being rejected because any guy, even the most desirable guy, pimp playa, ladies man, is out there flirting and getting rejected all the time.

But you're afraid. Because you dont flirt. You dont ask girls out. You're not playful with it. You dont let girls know you're attracted to them on a regular basis.

Instead, you avoid all of that. So when you DO ask a girl out, you do itall scared and timid and afriad and unfortunately, even if you're an amazing guy and potential boyfriend/lover/husband, it doesn't matter. Being afraid dries up her pussy right quick!

Women spend time looking good. They lie and say "it's only for me not you Male pigs!" it's a god damn lie. These females are out here maximizing their attractiveness, spending hella money, doing everything they can to attract a man.

You have to do the same and maximize YOUR attractiveness, by learning to flirt and be confident and learning to let girls know you like them.

Sucks you practically have to become a pimp playa to do it. But it's not too bad. Real players and fuck boys are manipulators.

You can simply learn to tell the truth. And be attracted to girls and enjoy being around girlsand flirting and being honest that you want this girl to be your girlfriend or to have sex with her.

It's just society tells us it's bad, because the manipulative players have ruined the game.

[CallmeTheKnight]

There are too many women in the world. The reason you're expected to make the first move is because you always put yourself in that position. I only approach women giving men choosing signals or allow women to approach men. It's 2021, women work and sleep like we do, so they can approach us if they're that into us. If she can't speak up, then that tells you that she's not gonna speak on necessary things right away when the time comes. Confidence and bravery are key on both sides

As far as rejection, just keep moving bro. You got no business getting involved with a woman who doesn't want to be involved with you. I always let a woman know how things gonna be if I just wanna sleep with her, friend zone her, or cut ties with her. You're wasting time building a friendship, because"emotional connections" are for loving relationships, not friendships.

You get rejected by a job, you apply to the next and build yourself up in the long run.

[Curmudgeon]

At 20, it is hard not to take it personally. I get that.

After getting middle aged and having to eat enough of life's "turd sandwiches" and enough sucking on life's bitter lemons, it stops mattering. With each one, it matters less and less. I know that is not much consolation, but it is what it is.

[Ousaf1]

Experience is really the teacher I guess. I can act like I don't care but that's not gonna solve anything. Thanks 💯

[TurboKid]

I tried not to get too attached to girls before I asked them out and I asked them out in a fun way, never too serious. As a result, I actually still have friends (they're married now) even though I'm married who turned me down. I always figured I'm doing pretty well if a girl can turn me down with a smile and a laugh. It's pretty easy to keep things light and easy that way and not take rejection too badly. You have fun with it.

[TurboKid]

On the notion of there's plenty of fish in the sea, there really are. But that's tough if you're prone to get attached first and ask girls out later. I think it helps to try to reverse that. Ask girls out first and get attached later.

[Ousaf1]

I'll take the not getting attached 👍🏼thanks

[Ousaf1]

Is it better to start off as friends with a girl or do you need to make your intentions clear at the start?

[TurboKid]

Cheers. I think if you're inclined though to get attached first -- and I did that when I was much younger -- it might seem counter-intuitive and maybe unromantic, almost like a player, to ask a girl out just because she's pretty, seems interesting, fun, and you don't know her so well. But girls can behave totally differently as lovers over when they're just being friendly. I found that out the hard way. They can act totally one way when you two are just friends and totally another way when you're dating. So I think it's even wise to try not to get too attached to a girl before you ask her out, and ask her out sooner if you are starting to get attached so that you can either get the good or bad news before you become too invested without a single date. Then if you get attached to her over the dating process, chances are that the interest will be mutually and also based on what you know about her as a lover, and not just as a friend, which can be worlds apart.

I think it's okay to ask girls out very aggressively even if you are a committed and serious relationship type. It's like a beginner to Call of Duty is probably better off with a machine gun. Just aim in the general direction of the pretty girls: TATATATATA! Bullet spray and you might hit. You can switch to sniper rifle later on when you get the hang of being able to target more specific girls and miss far less often.

[TurboKid]

>> Is it better to start off as friends with a girl or do you need to make your intentions clear at the start?

I think it helps if you're kind of flirty so that you can establish (or discover) if you have some chemistry. But you don't have to make it so formal. You just have fun with girls. Fun before serious is my thing and I think it's the easiest and least painful way to go.

[TurboKid]

There's kind of this vibe and it's hard to explain but it's threatening but non-threatening that I think works really well. It's like you're a man and a sexual beast, right? You wanna tear off a pretty girl's clothes and have her no matter how much you care about her. It's okay to communicate that beast subtly with the way you look at her, touch her, talk to her. But you reduce the threat by making it playful, fun, and really giving this impression like you can take "no" for an answer. And that's also the best strategy for asking her out is like you make it so it's as easy for her to reject you as it is for her to accept your offer. You make it fun and light. Because then if she's easy slightly interested, she might entertain the offer because it's so fun and simple. But if she's not, things won't get awkward and she won't feel bad because it's also fun and simple.

[TurboKid]

[...] Because then if she's [even] slightly interested [...]

[Ousaf1]

The thing is, won't you get attracted to a person if you would call that person almost everyday? And even falling asleep together 🤔(while still calling)

[TurboKid]

Meet them more and touch them more and dance with them more. There are moves where, if they work, the girl is probably into you and not just you into her. And there are other moves where she could just be doing it with any guy. Do more of the former moves.

[Ousaf1]

True, I'll try to experiment with that. I know a friend that behaves exactly as you described. He is saying so many "wrong" things like sex straight to a religious girl but he says it in a playful way and that makes it alright.

[TurboKid]

I got a bit more etiquette and respect for people's values (well, at least outside bars) but I think your friend is probably at least well-off with girls even if the girls might not be so well-off with him. He's probably at least doing something right. Even guys who aren't so moral are doing something right if they get some girls. You don't have to copy them entirely and be as lacking in conscience. But there's a lot to learn as long as you keep your basic morals intact from guys who are very successful with girls, even if they're kind of despicable.

[twis7]

I love rejection. Whatvi can't handle is not being refected but placed on a list of alternatives in case her number 1 choice doesn't pan out. I get angry. rejection does me a favor. the other is disrespectful.

[Ousaf1]

A lot of users in this world 😔

[ChiTown33]

I feel ya man easier said than done. Whatever happens don't be a dick to her. It doesn't matter why she rejected you she just did. One advantage I have being 45 is I've got to see a lot of the women that rejected me and how they've turned out relationship wise. You might actually want to thank some women down the road for rejecting you. They saved you a whole lot of heartache and aggravation.

[jerdanro]

If your heart is broken you can do one of three things to get over it. Drink a lot (easy) find someone to have meaningless sex with (moderate) or face your feelings and go through the healing process (expers only, very difficult, time consuming, and possibly not worth the effort)

[REALSTEEL]

i get rejected all the time so it's nothing new to me after everything i survived and I'm still alive im not complaining it is what it is just be happy with yourself and say Hakuna Matata which means no worrys

[slatyb]

I just say thanks, no problem. How hard is that? There's more girls than one.

[Ousaf1]

That's not real love if you can forget about a person in a blink of an eye. Of course there are more girls. When I got rejected I didn't feel very sad but It definitely had/has an impact in the long run. It makes you less likely to commit to a relationship. You are 47 years old right? What did you do in your younger days

[slatyb]

I was pretty clueless. That's why I'm answering questions here -- to maybe help others not make the same mistakes.

[Anonymous]

Just move on and heal. Your always gonna get rejected no matter what unless you get surgery like robert downey jr did on tropic thunder to play a funny black guy

[Ousaf1]

Where did that came from haha

[Ousaf1]

come*

[Opinion Owner]

Let’s just say guys like me gets rejected a lot more then the other guys but if your someone like LeBron James, alex rodriguez and ken jeong you should be fine 👍

[Anonymous]

I don’t put myself out there. Dating is stupid and women don’t deserve me.

[Snakeyes7]

I use the sour grapes method. "Eh, she probably wasn't for me anyway".

[JesseJayNeak]

First, tears and ice-cream and then a walk at the park

[jasco]

I simply try to move on.

[ALoser]

Try really hard not to kms

[scott04sa22]

It gets harder when you hit 30s

[JamieLoves]

Move on..