I actually have a problem with this question.
But I love your answer.
You can't have a way to help someone going through a rough patch. You have to talk to them, understand the problem, how they feel about it, where they are coming from, and what they want help with.
Call a towing company, I bet they won't send a truck without asking what you want towed, where it is and why you need the truck in the first place.
And me, I'm picky about that stuff. No way I would let them put my 73 Porsche on a chain or a wheel lift on the highway. Gotta be a flatbed with clearance to save my bumpers, unless of course the back wheel is already bent up underneath the transmission, in which case I guess it had better be a wheel lift with a skilled operator who can do it as fast as possible because my mom is here and I'm right beside my highschool and everybody knows it's me.
And it's not always what you'd expect. Hardest thing to tow is a motorcycle because it takes more skill and it's more likely to get damaged in the process.
You can't help someone else your way. You have to meet them where they are at and ask them what they need.
Whoever's going through a rough patch needs to feel they matter regardless of their current situation.
What I start by doing do is just being available, daily, on a fixed time. I don't suggest doing anything or talking about something specific. I just focus on letting them know that I'm there.
After a few days, they start reciprocating like they were expecting me to arrive at the time that I have been going to them. Then I slowly open up to them about the little problems I'm facing in my daily life. This helps them open up later on, and when they talk, I just listen without any judgments and without thinking of solutions to give for their problems.
Many people are smart enough to figure out how to solve their own problems. In a rough patch, they just aren't able to think clearly. Once they talk it out, they start feeling light and can focus on the problem once again.
If however, the situation is grim and it's something more drastic like depression, I try and convince them to see an expert. Then I just do as the expert tell me to.
This works only for good friends though. For acquaintances, this would be really creepy 😁
There’s two main ways to help someone: to offer a listening ear or give an advice, but it is solely for the purpose of what kind of help the person want.
I usually attentively listen, show empathy, and assess the situation of what the person is dealing with; then, I would provide intervention depending if they want advice or give positive support that they may need. I may also go out of my way and do something thoughtful as my love language is act of service.
I guess depending on the situations.. I’ve picked up a friend’s favorite drink to surprise them to just cheer them up and have talks, personalized a get well care package to a guy I was seriously seeing previously, I wrote cute and positive sticky notes to put on an ex’s car to cheer him up and make his day, surprised an ex with lunch at work since he tend to skip eatting from stress and overworking, or just wanting to be a loving girlfriend, spent a week helping an old friend with his homework he was having troubles with (we went to different colleges too), took a friend out and treated her the whole day to relax, not worry about money, and not stress out, and etc.
I would organize a little cheap weekend trip, changing air and circumstances help, I will not talk about what happened until the person decides to open up. I did this one time for one of my dear friends and it worked fine.
She wasn't 100% healed but very close
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---------------First and foremost find out if they even want your help. Most people just want to know that you are available if they need you.
~Coach T Anthony @thedatecoach IG
Tell them I'm available whenever they need me And actually show up when they do ask for me no matter what I'm doing or what time it is. Heck I even once paid for my friend to last minute fly to the UK to meet me and spend 6 weeks there with me just so she wasn't alone over the holidays. I'd literally do anything for my friends to be happy and safe.
I talk to them very gently and listen very carefully for as long as it takes to help them to calm down, and for me to gain a greater understanding of the problem. This sometimes allows me to suggest things that might be helpful, but not always. Sometimes just sitting and actively listening to a person is the best thing you can do.
I give advice IF they want some, and listen to what they have to say. Sometimes people just need to vent and have someone to listen to them. If they want to be alone I just give them the space they want.
It's always better to aks them if they want you around or if they wanna talk about it.
Pushing oneself into it doesn't help, people usually shut off. Let them know you are available when they need you.
try to give them support and at least let them know that I know things are not good right now and I will help in any way I can.
I've always been open to listening to friends if they needed me. More so now even with online friends. I have more time in my retirement and old age.
Listening, being compassionate and understanding, supporting them, but not letting them have a pity party.
This may sound rude, but I noticed most of my friends want a lot of time alone when they're not wel, so I try to give them space and time.
Stay the hell away from them.
I like to give people their space while they figure things out. I personally hate it when people are butting into my business.
You don't know the situation and I didn't ask for your help.
I try to call, cuddle, and text someone who's stuck in a rut.
I would do anything I can for a friend, but I am sucky at this. I never know what to say and generally say something stupid that makes things worse.
I let them know I'm there to support them and try to help them in any way I can.
In the words of me Luke bryan
One margarita two margaritas three margaritas
SHOT‼️💯😎
Just be there for them. U ok?
She was having a dry spell... so was i. so we become fuck buddies til we both found someone.
Thats a good friend.
Take them out for a drink of coffee (maybe not alcohol)
I actively listen to them and ask if they want me to help them in anyway.
Depends on what’s going on
Talking to them tryna make them feel better
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