Can anyone tell me what a non toxic mother is?

[ARealHonestHuman]

Rn i can't tell what a good mother is but im dealing with a toxic mom. I don't know why she has me on high expectations, and responsibilities with things i can't figure out then gets mad, yells at me for things i dont understand.

[tatianamay]

Well, my mum was not toxic until she was diagnosed with cancer. She's always moody, shouts at me for silly things, sometimes beats me up, constantly compares me with my brother and cousins, calls me names and many more. Before all this, she still use to scold me, but she never hit me. She used to be more calm and composed, she did not call me names. I think that's what non-toxic is. I saw your previous question and you need to move out or at least talk to a trusted adult, preferably a close relative about this

[ARealHonestHuman]

im trying, for now im holding back a lot of anger thats now stress.

[tatianamay]

Yeah, well, I'd say do not stress yourself too much. A person can only handle some amount of stress and after all, you're human. If you wanna talk or rant, you can always DM me, it feels free, trust me. Everyone needs to rant at some point, and I think you need to too. I've been told that I'm a great listener :)

[SamA_nold]

Someone who loves and accepts you for who you are, despite your flaws and struggles. (Assuming you aren't toxic yourself)

[ARealHonestHuman]

Im a mysterious guy, I don't know what to describe myself but that sounds better than the mother i have now. All my mental problems are all "depression" to her.

[SamA_nold]

Yeah, I've had similar problems with my own mother. If you ever need to talk or rant, feel free to message me

[HajiaMariam]

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