I miss my boyfriend a lot but I don’t tell him because I don’t want it to seem excessive?

[Anonymous]

So lately since last week I sometimes find myself crying at night wishing that i could be with my boyfriend and in his arms today was one of those nights and last Sunday I was crying a bit in front of him because I was thinking about how much i had missed him the night before and I wished that we would be married already so that we could just live together already. I don’t know if this is because he got a new job and i can't see him 3 times a week like we used to just two but sometimes when I’m alone in my bed I find myself crying wishing that he was with me. Since he doesn’t say that he misses me I try not to say I miss you a lot either. I do not think that he misses me to the extent that i miss him.

[PatrickFusion]

Wow, two times a week isn't very much. I understand your frustration and I don't think you're being excessive at all.

[Asker]

It sucks I really don’t think that he feels the same way when it comes to this. I had to be the one to ask him the days to hang out since the beginning he told me that that was just his personality (people have to ask him to hang out). I think he’s fine but I’m over here crying because I miss him. On Sunday I asked him “do you ever miss me” and he just said “yeah”. He says I love you a lot every day but he rarely says that he misses me.

[PatrickFusion]

I'm sorry to hear that, I'm a bit different in relationships. I always want to be with that person.
Even during my marriage I had trouble because I didn't see her as much as I wanted.
If it doesn't work out I hope you find someone who wants to spend as much time as possible with you.

[Asker]

We’ve been together for over a year now, he got me a promise ring for our anniversary, and since the beginning he told me that he wants to marry me and have kids with me.

[Asker]

I’m 20 he’s 24. Now I have to see him less though because he has a new job

[PatrickFusion]

I suppose he's very busy with work and he's probably looking at the big picture, the long-term. Us guys do that sometimes and unfortunately we can lose women that way. He needs to find a balance so that your relationship is good now as well.

[Asker]

I texted him this “ I don’t know if you feel the same but when you’re not here with me at night I get really sad sometimes and wish that I could be in your arms ” was tgat too much?

[PatrickFusion]

No that's sweet. He'll probably feel guilty and a bit frustrated because he has to work so much.
I don't know what the solution is for you guys. I hope he feels the same and love can keep the connection going.

[Hangry06]

You're doing the right thing.