The problem is that I have this anxious desire to be alone, but my boyfriend is always with me, especially on weekends. I'm just introverted, and need to be alone sometimes. How to tell him?
It's normal to need some alone time, especially if you're more on the introverted side. It doesn't mean you love your boyfriend any less.
You could start the conversation by expressing how much you value and love him, making it clear that your need for alone time is just a part of who you are and not a reflection on your feelings for him. Maybe say something like, "I love spending time with you and our weekends together mean a lot to me.
Let him know that your desire for alone time is not about him doing anything wrong or you wanting to be away from him specifically.
Suggesting specific ways to balance together time and alone time might help too. Maybe plan certain weekends or parts of the weekend for just yourself, and then other times exclusively for doing things together.
Just make sure he understands that this is about making sure you're at your happiest and healthiest, which in turn, benefits your relationship.
Just tell him and explain to him why you want to be alone , he might not handle it well but that’s something he will figure out on his own and decide , if he truly loves you he will understand. But If he chooses to walk away? That’s his choice as well. Understand your decision to have space can open doors for disaster in your relationship, So really consider if you really need space from him , Sadly space isn’t for relationships Space if for Astronauts , so understand your boyfriend has a choice on whether he wants to continue seeing you or not. Most people in relationships have a hard time accepting space especially these days with how social media brain washes people to believe their partner is up to no good when one of them decides they need space , Most people assume the worst case scenario’s that their partner is falling out of love with them or plotting to cheat on them. So remember there could be consequences to your actions. Me personally doesn’t handle space to well in relationships, mainly because I been burned to many times by girls’ saying they need space to find out they were cheating on me and investing their time into someone else , while I was thinking they still loved me , not realizing I had Sucker written on my head. So really ask yourself why you need space from him before you talk to him. Put yourself in his shoes and think how would you feel if he told you he needed space from you?
Tell him exactly that. "I'm an introvert. And while I can go out and be with people, it drains my mental batteries, and sometimes I need to be alone recharge. It has nothing to do with you. You're great, and I always want to be around you. BUT even while that's the case, I still just need to be alone sometimes to recharge. Can we set up a system where I can communicate to you the times I need to be alone? Is there something I can do to be sure that you understand that it's not you, and that it's just me needing time to myself for an hour or two? Can I hug and kiss you, and tell you "I need recharge time" and go off to have some time to myself? How can we make this work so I don't feel overly-drained, after which I come back to be with you once I'm recharged?"
Just tell him that you need some “me time” to recharge. Tell him that you need some space to be alone with your thoughts for a bit but it had nothing to do with him. You just need to recharge so that you’ll be more energized to spend some quality time with him. Be clear about how long you’ll need and set boundaries on the amount/type or contact that you’re okay with. Don’t go ghost on him, still keep him updated via text at least
Tell him you need some me time. All of us need some time alone once in a while. If you feel the urge to be on your own tell him a specific day of the week that you'd like to have just for yourself. Nothing wrong with that.
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Play him a song by Madness called My Girl (it sounds like you are in EXACTLY the reverse position of this song) But it will at least get the point across without upsetting him!
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Just tell him that you need some personal space. As long as you don't say it super aggressively and/or patronizing, or just generally get unpleasant about it; his most likely response will be to shrug and tell you to have fun doing whatever you're doing.
I also need time for myself, time alone.
just tell him how you feel and make it clear it's not related to him... some people make everything about themselves...
Help him find his own way to give you space. if he had a hobby he could pursue on his own he would be less worried when you come up with something you want to do on your own.
Explain to him that you're not joined at the hip, and that you need and require to have your own free time to enjoy whatever you choose to do.
You might tell Him even the Savior in the Bible went off by Himself sometimes to pray to the One who sustains us all.
Tell him directly, confidently, and bluntly. If he can't handle that or refuses to try and understand... He may not be a good fit for you.
Not much differently than you just told us. Just be honest with him. I for one fully understand how you feel. I too like my alone time.
People keep asking this same exact Q. First time out of anon.
Tell him you need your personal space in a nice way.
As humans we all need our personal space and freedom to regain our energy etc and he should understand that.
why is he so clingy? That's a problem for both of you
Just tell him and explain to him why you want to be alone. That way his feelings won't get hurt. There is nothing wrong with having some me time
Learn the art of conversation.
u tell him just the way it is
Tell him all of what you just said
Say something like "I want to be alone sometimes"
You break up with him. He deserves better
Just be honest with him.
Just do it.
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