What do you think of someone who has no friends?

Question

Red flag? There must be something wrong with them?

AmandaYVR · Accepted Answer

It could mean something. But it could also mean nothing.
If there's one thing people seem to all agree on nowadays, it's that 'good friends are hard to come by.' People wonder why those who were their friends suddenly turned on them, or faded away, or seemed to stop caring about them.
And less face-to-face communication (which was happening as a trend looong before covid hit) is depersonalizing relationships, making people feel more awkward irl, and it's making people act harsher towards each other. Also, even when the two people mean well and have no ill will, misinterpretations can happen in the text-only form.
So there's lots of reasons, legitimate and human reasons, why people may not have a lot of people in their life.
Also, sometimes you only need one. Or two, to really make a different, to have a huge impact on your quality of life, or contentment. And those situations can come and go. They can't be predicted.
People should judge others less, and be kinder, instead of looking for 'red flags' and 'dealbreakers' and all that shit. Acceptance and compassion mitigate many things.

Cherry234 · Accepted Answer

No but it depends on why. If he doesn't have friends because he's a toxic or a mean person who can't get along with other people then I'd stay away from him. But if it's because he's introverted, he has trouble making friends, he doesn't make it a priority because he has other goals, or if he has had bad experiences with people who were bad friends then I would see no reason not to give him a chance. in my opinion if someone you're interested in judges you harshly for that then that person is not worth it. Don't waste your time trying to win approval from people who aren't interested in you

Dragonpurple · Answer

I don't see it as a Red Flag at all though, not even sure why anyone would? Some people are introverts and find it draining to be around others. I am an ambivert so large crowds drain me, but a small group of close friends or family is perfect for me.

A lot of people have no friends these days, they think they do... but they really don't. Social media friends are not usually real friends.

If you wouldn't meet up in person, or talk on the phone... only communicate by electronic method... then they are probably not real friends.

That said, many friends can do all the above, which is great... text, phone, online, etc...

InspecturGajit · Answer

I've moved around a lot. I've definitely become more distant with friends because of this. I just started going back to grad school in addition to working full time. I have very little time to socialize and meet new friends. I'm really good at making friends so this doesn't bother me. Also at our age (around 30) a lot of people lose friends because they get married and have kids. I don't think you should judge someone because they may not have friends at the moment.

Blackcupcake · Answer

no not necessarily a red flag, but I would like to know why… is it because he can’t get along with people? if that’s the case then that hints to me that he could be problematic so it’s definitely a warning. but if it’s because he just enjoys being alone, his own space then I’m completely fine with that. that’s his preference and I can get tired of people and socialising too so I get it

tatianamay · Answer

Nothing. I don't think anything. Some people, such as myself may have anxiety. Some are just too shy and socially-awkward. Or I'd just assume that they do not want any friends-- they're a lonewolf or something like that. I have like 3 friends lmao, who am I to judge someone? Also, I think books are way better than humans

DizzyDesii · Answer

My type as long as theyre lonewolf by choice. Same goes for virgins. I like those who are virgins by choice. I dont want anyone whos desperately wanting friends or desperately looking to lose their virginity

Anonymous · Answer

I moved to different states a lot ever since high school, grew distant with all the friends that I made. I just keep in contact with two of them but they both live in different states so I don’t technically have friends in my current city, my boyfriend is my best friend so that’s all that matters to me. I do get insecure sometimes worrying that my boyfriend might think I’m a freak esp since he’s very extroverted and has tons of friends but turns out I don’t really care deep down lol

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Nothing. There's actually no such thing as friends. You will be extremely lucky to have one good dependant friend. Most people are just associates pretending to be your friend.

When the going get seriously rough, you're on your own.

My grandma taught me the only friend you have is the dollar in your pocket.

Kaneki05 · Answer

It's either there genius or mean tho i would say mean people tend to do just fine at blending in and been the popular one.
So there usually just a genius.

And yes in a roundabout way i called myself a genius sorry not sorry.

serious · Answer

Okay that might be strange, weird but there is nothing wrong there either. It is fine if someone has no friends or don't want any friends either. I don't see it as something being wrong with them.

Ninani · Answer

I previously had bad luck with friendships and don't have any current friends that I've known for more than a year.

Moimaris · Answer

I don’t have friends except one that I don’t speak in real life much. She is an colleague. If a man would judge me for that it would be very superficial

Azura_88 · Answer

Nothing wrong with them if they're honest, loyal and prefer meaningful relationships rather than mindlessly hanging out with bunch of people.

Ironic_Method · Answer

Eh. People suck too much to judge someone for that.

JosyJosy · Answer

No, I'd just wonder what happened to get to that point. It can be a red flag, or it can be a case of fucked up people who were never really friends

exitseven · Answer

They don't like people very much.

Aurora1010 · Answer

Not always

EaterPeter · Answer

@Justintimberlegs 🙂

Twalli · Answer

Depends on why.

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