How do you like to be taken care of?

[SamFromFL]

In your current or past relationships what are a few examples of what your SO did to make you feel safe and secure?

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t say insecure more like fearful?
1: he made fun of my friends infront of them (imagine how he would have talked about my family)
2: he gaslighted me about my feelings a lot and questioned my sanity.
4: disregarded my feelings a lot
5: only cares about himself
6: talked badly about my culture multiple times
7: he would look at other girls infront of me and I mean LOOK
8: only cares about going to the gym and his “bros”
9: didn’t even bother to remember important events
10: overall douche


How would I like to be “taken care of”
From everything I listed above, I want this to be the opposite.


1: is understanding
2: treats me with respect and the people I surround myself with as well.
3: is caring with me and himself (I support self love)
4:treats me like I’m the only girl in the world
5: *RESPECTS* my culture
6: can have hobbies of course but also finds a way to dedicate some time for me as I would for him
7: is thoughtful and attentive
Just want someone to make me feel happy, safe and secure. That’s all. I don’t want to go through another toxic relationship. I’m not a punching bag so you can project your feelings onto me.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think a guy who helps with shovelling the drive way, gardening, cooking, killing insects, making repairs or giving me rides is super attractive, for me that is even better than buying me a meal at a restaurant or cuddling next to me on a sofa. I would also love to spend a weekend shopping at flee markets together while we each pay for ourselves or feeding ducks at a pond or taking a walk by the lake and photographing the icicles.

[Anonymous]

I've never been, so I can only imagine what I would like or how I would like to be treated. Probably it would be a mutual thing. She'd care for me. I'd care for her. And as much as she may have a traditionally male job, she really expects and wants me to be her man. You know.

For all that talk of feminism... she's a sucker for a man with muscles ergo me. Lol. In a perfect world. Oh well. Fun to imagine.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

The best way to take care of me is to not bug or stress me. I need my space and peace at all cost.

[Anonymous]

Lent an ear when I was sad and frustrated and let me cry my feelings out.
Endless hugs.
Nuzzle and head scratches.
Not judging for some of my weirdness
The "I got you girl"
Feeling you're not alone
Massages
That I'm able to be mad without worrying they will leave or get scared off

Those are at the top of my head.. Oh! And snacks

[Opinion Owner]

Oh yeah, and transparency, not keeping secrets

[pickedcrisps]

Don't forget cuddles 🤩

[alleon]

Say what they meant. When they’d say they’ll do something. They actually always did.

[KingofCups]

One of my favorite things was just whenever we were greeting each other and she just ran up to me all excited to say hello.

[dragoblack]

Being shown im loved and cared about. Intimacy, cuddles, compliments, hand holding, and deep intellectual conversations

[pickedcrisps]

And often reminding the other that "genuinely I couldn't stop thinking about you today" you know. In a non creeper way. it's nice when couples cement that bonding after a long day at work to say "I missed you" but at the same time space is healthy too from each other. 😁🙄

[Dinosaursandanime65]

So you say taken care of and being comforted. Which one?

[Raphtaila]

being held told im loved

[serious]

I don't need to be taken care of.

[jimmy2]

I love her more she love me more