Do you think after being in a serious long term relationship you should stay single for a good while after the relationship has ended?

[Anonymous]

The guy I’m talking to, he had a 10 year relationship that recently ended but with me, he is saying that I seem perfect for him and he actually sees himself settling down with me and marrying me. I know his intentions are good.
but after 10 YEARS (they started dating at age 15-25 now), I think he’s going to want to date and sleep around and figure out what he’s missing. He’s in his prime!
how do I tell him I don’t think it’s best in the long run?
I don’t want to hop in a relationship with him and then have him resent me for taking away his prime years. help

You should stay single after a long term relationship

If you want to get into another serious relationship right after, go ahead

People who are always in relationships tend to cheat on their partners

[AmandaYVR]

Yes I think your thinking is sound. It's a lot to go from that long and serious a relationship, right into another. You're right to question his judgment.

But maybe he really feels that strongly about you, and that you are an exception.

It's a tough call. Maybe you could suggest he come back to you in a few months, and see how he feels then?

[Screenwriter]

I did this with someone and he was just fishing and didn't want to be serious.

The fact that this guy is talking about BEING SERIOUS so quickly sounds like that old saw, REBOUND.

Steer clear. Talk to him in a year or two.

[horatiohornblower]

Sometimes it's a rebound sometimes it's more.

One of my friends was in a relationship with a girl and lived with her for several years. They broke up. Another one of my friends swooped in and asked her out the next day. They're now married for over ten years and have a couple children. So, rebounds can work out.

[Stevefiveo]

I feel you and I think he should explore also but hey if that is what he wants and you want to then go for it.

[Prettygurl12]

According to Marshall Erikson from How I Met Your Mother... one week for every month you were together.

My husband and I have been together for 10 years so... that'd be a long time 😂