How to not get in the friend zone with a girl?

[Anonymous]

So I’m friends with this girl we talk a bunch and things but we never went as far as a relationship she has too much going on in her life for a relationship. I still like her but I do not want to be friend zoned by her. I’m interested in other girls too so it’s not like I’m waiting around for her. But if she wants to get together later when she doesn’t have things going on I still want to have a chance. I never gave her a chance to use me either. Anything we did or whenever we talked was on my available time not whenever she wanted. I just don’t want lose an opportunity later on. but I’m also thinking about other girls too even though I think about her every day. Just would like her to not just see me as just a friend. Because she is not ready to date anyone right now. Just looking for your opinion on this?

[TonyV]

Of you don't want to be friends just stop talking to her now. It's messed up to hold onto her as a later option so that's bad on you. And if she dosent have time for you now then she dosent deserve you later whenever she gets her shit together.


You are disrespecting her and more inportantly yourself by lurking, sounds like some simp behavior, "maybe she'll date me later" no bro, move on now

[PrettyPriya]

Let me preface this by saying I don’t friend zone people. Just rude in my opinion.

If I’m not interested, I cut ties. That said, maybe back off and make her come to you. That will show if she is interested.

[Asker]

Ok ya she came to me in the first place once I met her she always started conversations with me she got my number from someone and texted me I never made the moves but I did show her I was interested in her.

[PrettyPriya]

Ok! Great. Sounds like you did all the right things.

So, now what do you think? 😉

[Asker]

Ya she asked me to go to a restaurant with her and I said ok when we both have time off as we work different hours at our jobs she said ok and then she kept asking me to go other places with her like the beach and a waterfall and then she told me we should go the next day and I said sure we both had fun and she kept talking about doing something again so we got together days later again had fun again. She met up with me a third time which was my idea. Told me after that she couldn’t wait to see me again and then she texted me days later and told me she has been busy working two jobs and does not have time to see me at the moment and that she really likes me and wants to get to know me because we have a lot in common. But she has never had a boyfriend and doesn’t have time for a relationship right now and at the moment just wants to be friends. I talked to her in person about it and things are cool. I don’t talk to her much now because she is busy but I do still talk to her. I do still want to get to know her more and hopefully a relationship but I’m not going to wait around for that to happen. I’m an amazing person and this is her loss not mine and I guess if things work out later they work out