My wife changed her hair and I hate it what to do?

[Sammyp1994]

So my wife did a drastic hair colour change when from a nice brown with blonde in it too a read stop sign 🛑 I absolutely hate it I find it disgusting 🤢
my wife asked if I liked it , me with my face in shock said “ wow ours so different ,… it take me a while to get use to it “
don’t think that’s the answer she was looking for.. she knows I don’t like it and that makes me feel bad cause I want her to feel fantastic regardless on what I think. since the colour change she’s had a ton of complerments witch is fantastic and her confidence is up couldn’t be happier. But when I look at her now I feel less attractive to her. I own my own business and since the colour change I have been staying further away with work so I don’t have to be home to see the hair now this is the issue I wanna look ant my wife again and be “holy cow you are beautiful 😻,, not oh hey babe … what do I do?

[Finchie40]

Is it the actual hair that you don’t like or is it the attention she is receiving that you don’t like? It’s hard for people to accept change within their partners sometimes , but if you honestly love them then you should lean toward being happy that they are happy and learn to accept it, But it just depends , Did her personality change towards you? now that she is getting more attention? Sometimes change can effect relationships and make people feel insecure that their partner is up to no good. So you should have a sit down talk to her and tell her how it is making you feel and if she gets defensive about it and doesn’t care about your feelings then you might be dealing with someone that only really cares about themselves and seeking attention from others , but before you assume the worst , talk to her and find out why she really made this change and what her real reason is behind it. Some people seek that gratification from others to make them feel better about themselves and yes it is a selfish trait people carry cuz they are only thinking of themselves and not their partner , Usually when someone seeks that attention they step outside of reality and put themselves in a world that can cause conflict within their relationship cuz it is a selfish move, Selfishness is one of the biggest relationship killers cuz that person is only thinking of themselves , but the thing is we can not force someone to love us we can only guide them , if they choose to walk away , let them go When they realize grass isn’t greener on the other side Karma will kick them right in the ass

[hahahmm]

Your wife has the idea that she shouldn't ask your opinion before she tries a big change... why is that? I guess you never made it clear what your preferences are. My wife knows I'm not interested in retarded/circus clown colors like pink, kool-aid red, green, blue, green or whatever short haired man hating fat feminists are wearing this season.

Guess you better put a sleeping bag at the office. Ha ha. But seriously, tell her you don't like it. Don't pretend to like it if you don't.

[PeacefulRainDrop]

Hair is just hair can be changed let her go through this phase stay by her side faithfully even tho your not as attracted to her physically she's the same woman inside.. thats all that should really matter if you married her for her looks well you are going to have issues along the horizon.

[Siren777]

I think honesty is the best policy - just tell her what you like and if you don't like it, let her know why and show her what suits her best. She might change it or might do what she wants but at least you got to let her know how you feel about it.

[Sammyp1994]

My ex before my wife cheated on me and use to hit me etc , she had red hair so maybe I associate it with that

[MzAsh]

It is really concerning that a hair color change means this much to you in terms of how attracted you are. You don’t have to like it, but damn… your attraction to her seems very shallow and weak.

[JCrockett]

Tell her the truth. No good comes from trying to make people feel fantastic about themselves at all times.

Consider that maybe all those other people giving her compliments don't like it either. Then she's getting no real feedback, and slipping into a world of delusion where everyone around her is getting more used to lying to her and liking her less. That's bad, and it's especially terribly if her husband is supporting it.

[noohair]

A tough spot is where you are at. There must be some reason she went for such a radical change.
Can you get used to it or is it a kind of deal breaker? You seem to really care about her feelings. I gave my girlfriend some money and she went out and got a chest tattoo. I almost died. This is less permanent.
Good luck.

[Moonlovespirit]

I changed my hair color and my husband loved it. Change is always good

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I think you should let her wear the color of hair she likes, come on I think you
have major insecure issues going on

[jasco]

Honestly talking to her is better than ignoring her man. Just talk to her

[Hangry06]

How about learn to love the person inside her?

[Sammyp1994]

I love the person in side other wise I wouldn’t have married her , the red hair tho shit I can’t stand , I asked her if I went blonde would she like it , I have black hair , she was like shit no you would have to change it

[Hangry06]

I guess that's how people are nowadays.

Hey. If she wouldn't allow to to do that, you have all rights to demand her to change back

[ChiPaPa]

The new hair color you chose is disgusting

[In_Trance]

it's hair; get over it

[Iron_Man]

Tell her the truth

[Anonymous]

No can do.