What is your primary love language?

[Aerissa_Jade]

I have this book and have read it many times, it has been very helpful for me to relate to others who may not be the same as I am.

For more details on this if you aren't sure 5 Love Languages

I am very much physical touch followed by quality time.

My man right now is doing a great job in keeping my love tank full, he is keeping it overflowing. I asked him to read this, let him borrow my copy and he has said that I'm doing great in keeping his love tank full.

I am curious what others are, what is common and not.

Words of affirmation

Quality time

Physical touch

Acts of service

Receiving gifts

Updates

+1 y

Everyone uses all 5 to a extent, but everyone has a primary, there is a quiz here if you are unsure www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

Here are my results.

Physical Touch
37%
Quality Time
33%
Acts of Service
17%
Words of Affirmation
10%
Receiving Gifts
3%

[ohshee]

I live all of them each and every day the physical touch is my number one that's who I am followed by quality time and probably acts of service I'm a pretty deep person and touch is one of the most important things in the world to me because you can melt somebody and just by touching you can become one and for me that's one of the most beautiful Phillies in the world photos by quality time just peaceful quiet relaxing smiles doing something for the person I'm with and my daily routine is acts of service I'm always doing something for somebody anime I would not be happy if I could not have all three of those in my life each and every day I would be miserable

[Dragonpurple]

I remember reading this book 15 years ago

The test says this;

Acts of Service 33%
Quality Time 30%
Physical Touch 23%
Words of Affirmation 13%
Receiving Gifts 0%

I just don't like gifts

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Definitely words of affirmation!
I love to be told how much I mean to someone😊
I heard that your love language is what you least received as a child.. and it kinda makes sense! 😂 I had a couple exes - One who grew up super poor, he loved receiving gifts. Another ex who always got pushed to the sidelines and never invited to anything, he loved quality time. My friend who had verbally abusive parents, loves words of affirmation…

[Aerissa_Jade]

Not sure how that works, I've always had quality time, never not had it with family, friends and loved ones but I did have a 4 year period when men could not touch me, but prior to that I was also pretty touch.

[petitedollbabee]

Physical touch. Nothing reassures me that I’m loved more than having my hair played with or having my skin stroked lovingly.

[Whatthefluff]

I used to think it was quality time, but acts of service is up there for me now. Though I like a mix of all of these. I keep almost all the letters I receive in the mail, for example.

[LightOfTruth]

People send you letters or does that include all your junk mail?

[Whatthefluff]

@lightoftruth
No no not junk mail! More like holiday cards.

[LightOfTruth]

That’s sweet

[Whatthefluff]

Thanks.

[jennifer_bloom]

I scored 5 out of 5 in all 5 categories.

[InventorofWarp]

Physical touch: 37%
Words of affirmation: 27%
Receiving Gifts: 20%
Quality Time: 17%
Acts of Service: 0%

I have a theory for why Acts of Service is so low. When I was a boy I always dreamed of doing everything like laundry, making the bed, washing dishes, vacuuming, etc. so my wife never had to lift a finger and as a result I actively enjoy doing those things so someone taking them away from me or doing them for me to lighten my day up, while appreciated isn't really anywhere near necessary. Also I use a very specific fabric softener so doing my laundry for me would more than likely just piss me off.

[Aerissa_Jade]

Possibly, I know receiving gifts is low for me cause it feels like I'm being bought and they don't care. I really do like some gifts, but it is always secondary to everything else.

[InventorofWarp]

That's fair, I like it 'cause it just shows as a momento of our time together and that they really care.
It doesn't even have to be a bought gift: Make me dinner or breakfast or something one day, write me a poem or a love song, make me a scrapbook of all our funny times together and stupid photos. Creativity is a big plus.

[Satyromaniac]

All of the 5 ... They're all necessary and important, I'm not selfish, I'll be doing all 5 of those to the love of my life, and hence I expect her to Use all 5 of them languages on me as well...

[Beautyforeverybody]

Remembering small details about them, being excited to touch them , giving compliments and buying gifts

[t-8900]

The first three combined. Does that make sense or is that weird? Campfires and lovemaking and sweet words combined. That's the ultimate love-high

[Anonymous]

Whichever one that has to do with communication. Communication is really important to me. I don't know if it’s quality time or words of affirmation, but communication.

[Opinion Owner]

So, I took the test and it said 30% words of affirmation 20% physical touch 20% quality time 20% acts of service 10% gift giving

[nueralien]

As a person with nuerological issues and a hard past i know i thrive on physical touch and kind words. Im very affectionate, so my primary way of expressing love is touch and doing little things.

[Honestguyopen]

[ACR130]

Mines physical touch, the bad thing is I don't let people tuch me.

[zaharuh]

Physical touch forsure lol

[Lovesims3plumbob]

I think i had two love language.

[Aerissa_Jade]

You probably do, we all have bits of all five of them, you may have two that are fairly close. Like my two main ones are both pretty close, being 37% and 33% is pretty close.

[ChrisMaster69]

Physical Touch for me.

It’s more me.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Words of affirmation and physical touch

[melanieeeB]

Quality time and physical touch

[CheeseMonster]

I thought it was "giving and receiving gifts"?

[spartan55]

1) Physical touch
2) Words of affirmation

[Alyssa_11]

Touch and words of affirmation.

[exitseven]

I would say quality time. But I use them all.

[RealMarek]

Physical touch and quality time for me.

[Still-alive]

Witty flirty banter followed by compliments lol

[TheLittleInnocent]

Can never go wrong with good banter

[andy530]

Physical touch and quality time

[Naughtyboy71]

Touching tells you a lot

[Harleigh90]

Phyiscal touch.

[ChrisMaster69]

Where is the erm Emphasis 🙄

[Harleigh90]

@ChrisMaster69 Haven't physically found it yet 🥺

[ChrisMaster69]

@harleigh90 🤗🫖

[Harleigh90]

@ChrisMaster69 🥺🙄

[ChrisMaster69]

@harleigh90 aww hugs

[krin_m]

Combination of physical touch and time together.

[TheLittleInnocent]

Touch for sure

[Agape93]

Acts of service

[Pink2000]

Receiving gifts.

[moonpie89]

Acts of service

[Jamie05rhs]

Quality Time

[emperor90]

Love physical touch

[Zlantur2]

Touch