How mean is destroying's someone innocence for your own pleasure?

[Anonymous]

Scenerio:
You've lied and used someone; making them believe they're the one. You even go as far making false promises about the future, making them live with you, etc. You were their first, they trusted you and fell in love with you; with the false you, false hopes.

By the time that former virgin girl/guy finds out; you've already accomplished your goal. You've drained years (their best years) of their lives, years they'll never get back. It's a horrible experience they can't undo. You knew they were naive. You got no remorse either.

On a 1-10 scale, how mean is destroying someone's kind nature and innocence?

1-3 mild, no big deal

4-6 moderate

7-8 very bad; almost evil

9-10 you're pure evil for doing that

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+1 y

So basically you created a horrible love experience for them. Thanks to you, they'll never be the same again with someone else. Rate it on a 1-10 scale.

[Samoht_Sirrom1]

Unfortunately that is only One Side of the three sided story. That being the case it's hard to say if it was "cruelty" or just "fantasy".

Let's look at it a different way
You meet someone you get to know them fall in love with them. They inform you that they are a virgin, you aren't but for them you wish you had waited... You want a good life with them, you ask them to move in (maybe splitting the bills maybe paying them all yourself) you end up taking their virginity and in that moment it hits you that if they had known you weren't one that they probably would have never done anything with you "Trying to save themselves for The One" and the guilt hits you... What have you done? There is no way to go back and change what has happened, you feel like you betrayed them and decided that they are better off without you (maybe you're even a bit suicidal having realized just how horrible you've been to them) so you push them away... Telling them that you used them and hurt them so that they could have what they wanted, when honestly you hope and pray they know you well enough to see past the lies and to embrace you and forgive you, but knowing that more likely they will just end up hating you which is what you feel you deserve so when they storm out you say nothing make no move to stop them and don't contact them again all because you never want to hurt them again the way you already have. Even more so if they looked in your face and saw you crying about it all. Then there is the third story (the truth as seen from an outsider) who knows how they would perceive this story? In short no one truly knows the thoughts or feelings another has and too often a person will lie about both.

[Slartybartfast]

My ex used to say that she destroyed every man she had a relationship with and wanted a man to be so in love with her he never had another relationship and waited for her the rest of his life when she dumped him.

Never thought I'd be that guy but here I am.

[Asker]

Yeah that's a cruel sadist right there. It's sad the world is full of them.

[Slartybartfast]

Best I could hope for these days.

[EnglishEuropean]

To do that you would have to be an emotional sadist. That's a tiny fraction of the population. A lot of men will use you for sex and then lose interest, but that isn't deliberate, you're just collateral damage. Which is also bad, but it's a lesser evil.

[Asker]

Yet it's sad that those tiny fracture of the population exist. I'm assuming they got a bit of sociopathy too if they were able to do that and have no remorse.

[EnglishEuropean]

Yes very likely.

[Titttybear]

Generally girls fall for rich guys and still try to want to marry rich guys they are not naive either

[Asker]

I'm referring to real innocent people that trusted you; the ones that believe in happy endings, in finding love and thought they would even have a family with their first... only to find out they've been used and their years drained.

[jahaims]

I don't feel bad for naive people