So I live with my fiance and he constantly rejects me sexually and it hurts what should I do?

[Anonymous]

Here's a bit of background we have only been together a year and sex has always been great. But here lately he had just been rejecting me all the time. But almost never rejects getting head from me so it leaves me feeling empty and stupid for even trying and I try to talk to him but he just said he's not in the mood. And tonight I surprise him in his favorite lingerie ( a maid outfit) and he said oh your cute and hugs and kisses on me. And I rub on him with my body and he completely rejects me and pushes me away and says he's not in the mood. I just felt very unattractive and very dumb for even trying. A little advice would be great.

[oliver4love]

Sure he have some doubts in his heart or mind because a man can't ready for sex if her mind and heart not accept that girl emotionally but it's a natural fact that if you wear some sexy outfit semi nude he attract at you for few time sexually and dear please don't mind I have no mean that you have any fault I feel you a girl with fair heart ♥ and too much emotional girl, the best solution for this situation is time if you love your man and don't want to separate from him , I mean for sometime or for a month try to control your physical feelings or sexual feelings and try to find what running in your man mind but with patience and if matters not solved even with your loyal patience and respectful behavior then dear you know better the future of your relationship may be not run long..

[Petermorgan34]

I would say maybe something is wrong. It is human nature to assume it is you, I know i would if my so did the same. I would try to question him more, perhaps work is killing him, or school is if its his time of life?, something is either 1. Bothering him and keeping you two from sexual bliss, 2. He is legitimately tired (does he work a physically demanding job?) 3. He has lost interest or is finding it elsewhere. Maybe try not giving him head, and know that trying is key. It could he stress but if not… you can find a man to treat you right

[sheikalana]

Honey I'm sorry you're going through all that I'm not an expert but the best advise I can give you is to sit with him and understand what's going on there must be a reason and he has to tell you so you can both overcome the issue. Make him feel comfortable and let him know he has your full support. Is not normal that he's never in the mood.

[MsTaniaUncensored]

It sounds like something is bothering him and it may not be you. You need to talk to him more directly and try to swe if he will discuss it.

[Anonymous]

Why is it automatically assumed that when a woman wants sex, her man is supposed to turn on like a light switch? Imagine if the reverse were happening and the woman didn't want it. You'd have people in here saying the guy has no right to expect her to have sex, but the comments here indicating something is bad with the guy because he doesn't feel like sex. I do think something is wrong here and she should discuss with him what's wrong, but the idea that a man is supposed to be always in the mood because she is is ridiculous and sexist.

[user1111111]

Do you both a want kids? Maybe is asexual and dosent want to do that anymore.

[Anonymous]

More talk. Don't let him just say "not in the mood". Keep questioning him. Let him know it's making you feel unattractive and why isn't he in the mood? But do all this calmly and in a curious, I wanna fix this attitude, not angry or upset. You don't want to start a fight. You love each other and just want to know what's going on with him and to help if you can. But if this is happening already before you're married, maybe give it some more time before you actually get married. Communication needs to improve already, and you're not even married yet.

[Interstate]

It sounds as though he is avoiding a pregnancy. In some cases, a guy will avoid sex to avoid a pregnancy because he plans to skip town, and is avoiding child support. Now that doesn't mean this is the scenario with your other half, but just that there is a possibility that he is planning the worst. Another possibility is he is avoiding Children altogether. That is one reason I am not embarrassed about being single. I don't have to be responsible for a house of Tazmanian devils.

[COL_D]

Well, if this doesn't get better, Im in several groups that are focused on being in loveless/sexless relationships. I would be glad to add you. But only after you exhaust all other options.

[Wise4myage]

Why on earth would you stay with an asshole who treats you like that?

[LegendaryIcon]

Should come here, ill give you good roughhousing ;)

[The_Naughty_Guy]

My advise is to ask him directly what’s wrong with him.

[slatyb]

You should break the engagement and move out.

[jahaims]

Talk to him about it...

[VikingWarLord]

RUN... FAST