My word of advice for the day , If you are in a relationship with someone that can’t give you what you give them , Dump Them and move on?

[Finchie40]

Value your self worth and realize you deserve someone that Values you like you value them , Don’t settle for someone that can’t give you the same in return , if sex is dying in your relationship move on , You aren’t cheating , your partner is the one cheating by denying you sex constantly without any legit excuse , We are not punching bags , We are humans that deserve to be loved and valued like we love and value our partners , you are not wrong If your partner can not prioritize you like you prioritize them, , there is only so much you can give without receiving , they do not deserve you , Let them go play victim after they find out you screwed someone else and tell them you did it and your reasons why because the reality of it is you are the victim of abuse. Social media has destroyed relationships and a majority of people today are selfish and only care about themselves secretly talking to opposite sex people , cuz you are being abused in your relationship , if you were truly in love with your partner you wouldn’t be secretly talking to opposite sex people bottom line , so start caring about yourself , You are not a punching bag , By you denying your own physical needs thinking Love will save the day you are wrong , cuz your partner does not care about you they just like the convenience of you , You are being abused , You are only labeled an asshole to society if you try to hide your actions but if you admit to why you screwed someone else you will be forgiven , that partner that is trying to play victim , denying you love and affection , will have their day coming when they realize how pathetic they were and it will kick them right in the ass , You will be forgiven for your actions cuz you are admitting you were wrong but you are also admitting that you are not a punching bag , it takes 2 for love to grow not just one , If you aren’t receiving what you are giving it’s time for you to wake up and move on. Remember that and Happy Friday

[IMuser]

So... At the sign of any problem in the relationship, run for someone else instead of solving it?

[Juxtapose]

What woman has ever worked with you in actually solving a problem in a relationship?

[Juxtapose]

I know that sounds sexist but think about it, how many women actually try to meet you halfway?

[Finchie40]

If it’s a consistent denial after you expressed your feelings to them over and over and nothing changes move on

[IMuser]

@Juxtapose what are your views regarding the individual roles of partners in the following situations
1 The problem is with the girl (for example her acting distant, openly flirting with guys etc)
2 The problem is with the guy (being distant, being too friendly and flirting with female friends etc)

The point of question is this: if you expect your girl to "solve a problem" with you, how would you think it will look like? (Solving her/your problem)

[IMuser]

@Finchie40 so is it like:
1 tell them once
2 if they don't improve on it, give them a few more chances
3 if yet there is a problem, leave
Is that right?

[Finchie40]

Yes that’s right , if you are trying to compromise and work things out with your partner and it feels like you are the only one that is giving without receiving you are best to value yourself and move on , it’s not your job to fix them a d be a constant punching bag to someone that isn’t making any effort in return , you my as well just talk to a wall waiting for them to make up their mind on what they really want is just hurting yourself , Someone should just love you for you , when a partner tries to find reasons to be upset and angry at you for no reason at all that is a sign that they are done with you and trying to play victim that you are the reason the relationship failed when really they are the reason so you are only hurting yourself if you allow that to happen for a long time , you can still love someone and let them go and value your self worth and realize you deserve someone that will fight to be by your side not attack you and push you away from theirs

[Juxtapose]

I think in both scenarios the couple should talk and be understanding towards one another.

[Finchie40]

I agree 100 percent , you and your partner will never be perfect and agree on things all the time that’s what makes relationships a hard thing , but without compromising and communication all you will do is butt heads , but when someone loves you they will accept your flaws like you accept theirs and work it out , when a partner finds reasons to not like you and push you away they will play victim so everyone takes their side and feel bad for them when really you are the good person and they are the piece of shit , Most people can’t accept the fact that they are a piece of shit so they play victim cuz the reality of it is they are selfish , by trying to find ways to hate you so you are best to just move on when those things start to happen , value yourself worth and realize you deserve better than that , don’t be a sitting duck to someone that is trying to find ways to hate you , realize you deserve someone that values you like you value them , there are a bunch of people out there that would love to have a chance with someone like you and not push you away , my philosophy is speed up the process and don’t wait to get shit on , shot on them first ,

[IMuser]

I see... Thank you for your opinions @Finchie40 @Juxtapose

[jahaims]

That doesn't make sense. A relationship is a partnership and sometimes you give more than you take or take more than you give.

[Finchie40]

If it’s a consistent thing , I am not saying cheat or move on the second something goes bad , but if you are constantly expressing your feelings of concern and nothing changes , time to move on

[jahaims]

Well that is a lack of maturity which I would have recognized prior to being in a serious relationship.

[charlean]

Skimmed through but I think this is supposed to be in the MyTake section