Tips to let go of someone you love?

[Anonymous]

How do you get over someone you love?
Especially when..
A. They’ve hurt you more than once
B. They don’t care about you
C. You have a panic attack when you think of them being gone forever

I’m trying my hardest but it was a long term relationship and I just can’t imagine or bring myself to terms that he’s gone forever, or that he could be so cruel to hurt me like he did and not care anymore. I’m struggling so much.. reading or doing hobbies I still think about him.. I see a building and it reminds me of something we did together.. songs we listened and sang to.. romance movies break me realizing I dont have that anymore.. and so working on myself just doesn’t seem to cut it because the thoughts are so loud anytime I try to concentrate on myself. What can I do besides talk to other people and try to replace him?

[Blue1423]

I've never been to a long term relationship but Id still loke to try if I can help.

A. Theyve hurt you more than once.

I guess getting hurt in a relationship is normal but it will differ on how deep it is. Mentally remember those things or you can list them down on a note. Be brave enough to accept that you are getting hurt and too much is not healthy.

B. They dont care about you
If they are literally do not care about you, first think is does the thing he is busy for is helping his career and health? Check his time maybe he really is busy. If not and he barely have any time for you then you are being taken for granted and that is already a reason to leave.

C. You having a panic attack

tbh this is the hardest part for you. He already became one of the anchors of your life. Well its long term. But please check your other anchors too. Maybe you are giving too much time to your love anchor that you forget them? Try to keep in touch specially in this moments.(Siblings, mother, father, that one friend tou dont talk too much but felt really close everytime you talk. If not make new anchors (hobbies) thats out of your comfort zone. Whats the least sport you want to try? Also try to think about yourself too.

But hey. Communication and understanding is the key.

Have some courage! cheers!

I just want to say that anything done to the extreme is bad even if it started as a good thought. Sorry its lengthy.

-from a useless man

[Asker]

Thank you so much, those are so helpful and you gave a lot of insight. I agree a lot with what you said! And don’t worry about the length you had a lot of good advice to share. And I don’t think you’re a useless man😊

[JakeS00]

You just go through it and practice letting them go.

[Asker]

How do you practice letting them go?

[JakeS00]

Accept that it's time to move on. Going through how you feel and not avoiding or going around it.

[Asker]

Trueee

[JakeS00]

Yeah, you'll get through it, I trust.

[avony12]

I felt the exact same way, but then I thought about the time when we was engaged. He texted me one day saying ‘he was falling out of love’ ‘didn’t see a future with me’ ‘and ’ he didn’t want to marry me’. Worst heart break in my life. and he didn’t care. So I moved on. There was nothing else to do, but let him live that life that he wanted. Eventually he’ll come back after realizing it’s not that great out there…

[In_Trance]

Block all contact. Get rid of everything you shared. Never allow yourself to go back