I just feel like he does not value me and care for me anymore.
He disregards me completely. Some days, he does things that shows me he cares, but other times, it's like he doesn't even care how I'm feeling or what I'm going through.
He doesn't wanna talk about our relationship issues. Let alone, talk about our relationship and future at all.
He has told me that if I ever got sick, he would take care of me, but one month, I got sick and couldn't do very much and he just left me alone in the bedroom. He checked in every now and then to see if I was ok, but he never really did much. When I said I was gonna take a shower to relieve some pain, he just said ok and kept being on his phone. I asked if he could help me get it ready for me and he said yeah, but continued being on his phone only. I waited by him for half an hour and then decided to just go do it myself, he comes in and was asking me why I didn't ask him for help and that I didn't need to be doing anything and that he would take care of me for me. But of course, he barely took care of me at all.
I need some tips on how to leave. I have tried talking to him for 3 years and each time, he says he's gonna do better. He says stuff but his actions don't match. When I express to him how it's affecting me, he turns things around on me or say that he isn't perfect and for me to go find someone perfect. He gets so mad that he ends up drinking and behaving irrational and destructive.
The relationship feels one-sided now and I can't tolerate his bs anymore. I've tried to leave before but he ended up drinking so much that he ended up in the hospital... And I went back to take care of him.:(
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do you want to continue living in this pain? i certainly wouldn't. you are doing yourself a disservice. please leave, for your future self. this dude doesn't care about you. sure he can SAY he does, but he obviously is not showing that he cares about you. also, his drinking problem is on him once you leave him for good. none of this will ever be your problem again and you can go find someone who values you and will do all of those things that you needed and more, that he just didn't appreciate and took for granted.
It is really hard to do You need to picture what your life will be like without this relationship. You are doing this for a reason and it will allow you to move forward with your life. I know it is s are and I know that afterwards you may think you made a mistake.