Me and boyfriend are deeply in love but is this a good enough reason to leave him?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I are deeply in love with each other but he will not go down on me but he is happy to receive head. He has mentioned there’s other ways to please me but oral sex is also important to me especially if he wants to receive it but he isn’t happy to give it? I do think I will break up with him as it’s double standards but I don’t know what to do because I don’t want him or anyone to think that’s a shit reason to leave someone you love. I mean I could stay but it would be shit sex lol for me anyways. Let me know your guy’s opinions :)

[Anonymous]

Definitely a solid reason to leave. If the sex isn't even good like why bother? Sex is important. Especially his double standards 🤬 make me angry like who tf is this guy? I bet he doesn't even respect women. Sorry by the way just getting a little heated that you had to deal with that. Leave him girl and get someone who loves pleasuring you. You deserve it and you are allowed to have preferences. You aren't put on this planet to please men.

[Asker]

Omg this!! Exactly and it’s no fun for me he wants sex and then before it head but then for me it’s just straight sex? Which isn’t fair..
he's like ‘ bad man don’t eat pussy’ I said to Him they do they just lie.. it’s a joke I need to detach myself because whilst I’m explaining it to you I’m thinking to myself wtf

[kerrylouise]

Omg, I saw this and can relate. The guy I was seeing for...10 months! Yes 10 months wouldn't finger me. He said it doesn't feel natural putting his fingers inside me... I couldn't believe it. I thought he was joking but then again he had ocd and the whole sexual intercourse thing became really complicated because of this which sadly felt like a chore rather then enjoyable.

He thought foreplay was kissing and his foreplay didn't include fingering or anything
I was sad he wouldn't finger me, let alone go down on me!!!
Girl you got needs and if he ain't showing up, or willing to try, as a means to please his partner, then sorry but fuck that.

You can have everything you want and more if you find someone who also wants the same things.

This was my BIGGEST mistake ever.
I knew I could easily have better sex elsewhere, but I was in love with him so stuck around.

Can you live with shit sex and no foreplay?

[SnowedIn]

Be done with him.

Not because of double standards or anything else.

For only one reason: what's important to you clearly doesn't matter. Don't be with a guy who doesn't value your needs.

[Asker]

Omg this!! Exactly and it’s no fun for me he wants sex and then before it head but then for me it’s just straight sex? Which isn’t fair..
he's like ‘ bad man don’t eat pussy’ I said to Him they do they just lie.. it’s a joke I need to detach myself because whilst I’m explaining it to you I’m thinking to myself wtf

[SnowedIn]

wtf is right. Like, if that's his choice, fine. But you don't have to live with it.

[Asker]

Very true but it’s hard when you love someone

[Kyyroz]

It's one thing if he tries his best, in this case, he isn't even trying so...

[Pterodon]

Dump him. You’re not sexually compatible and it will be a huge problem

[Anonymous]

I agree with you 100-%.