How do I let go of someone I really. cared about?

[MLGbreezy]

When it comes to love I tend to fall face and hard. About a month ago now me and girl I was close friends with and interested in had a falling out. She had asked me out in the past and had been very flirty with me recently but I also know she had a thing with a co worker I work with that ended very badly and she was at fault. So I moved with caution. I’m the type that unless you’ve shown signs of wronging me or wronged me before I’m always open to giving you a shot. I was good friend with her we had a lot in common and she was always very sweet towards me me to make a really long story short she ended up sorta using me for attention while she was with another guy and when I took a step back decide to sorta cut me out her life to an extent she even quit our job and didn’t tell me anything even tho I did see her the day I confronted her. When I brought everything she did she took no accountability and things got heated, I went back the next day with a clear mind apologized to her for anything maybe I blew out of proportion even tho she didn’t and I then reiterated my issues. She responded by basically saying she no longer wanted me in her life even though the argument wasn’t that bad and she imitated damn near everything. i tend to get very attached so letting go of her has been very hard there a lot that reminds me of her and I did hope we could work things out. But it’s been a little over a month now and she still has me blocked on everything. I unblocked her in hopes that we could work things out but I think it’s far past the time that I should let go. But I don't know I’m having a lot of trouble. I cares about her immensely she was my close friend potential lover and the first girl I actively wanted to date in a long time. Am I being overly dramatic or should I have let her go by now or will I ever fully let it go?

[Flatmanlewis]

Okay. So I understand the headspace you are in and so I have to just give it to you straight.
1) Erase the word love from your mind regarding this girl. You never loved her and she never loved you. You were infatuated and had hopes it could be love but it never was.


2) She absolutely 100% used you. You will look back years from now, after a few more relationships with women, and see that clearly. You were her security blanket for her own self-esteem while she navigated her own relationships.


3) Remember this forever. If you are “friends” with a girl and she’s talking about the other guy she likes/liked - you are firmly and securely placed in the friendzone. You are not a potential lover - you are a comfort friend and only there until another man comes along.


4) She literally told you she doesn’t want you in her life and your busy looking on her social media and hoping you can reconcile.


5) How they treat you matters more than what they say. In this case, she didn’t tell you about quitting, cut you off, got mad at you, and there are probably a dozen more examples you know that haven’t been shared in this post.


Lastly, women don’t want these soft guys who they can walk all over and have them apologizing to her for “maybe overreacting”. Be a man. Own your feelings. Don’t get all spun up over some girl that’s using you and recognize just because she’s pretty and sometimes nice doesn’t mean she’s not toxic. Pretty girls have relied their charms to use men since Adam & Eve.

[OlderAndWiser]

DUDE! She DID use you. . . shamelessly so. Why would you want to reconcile with her?

1. You misjudged her character. Think about how that happened and what you can do to avoid repeating that mistake.

2. Bad relationships are part of the dating experience because they help you to appreciate the good ones when they come along. So learn something from the experience and you don't need to consider it to be a total waste. BUT if you try to go back to her, it won't end well - you know that - and the pain the second time around will all be self-inflicted.

3. Resolve to leave this woman in your past and start building some self-esteem for yourself.

[Nikki1989]

Life is about changes, so you just have to roll with it. It is not how you fall down, but how quickly you get up again that really counts.

[MLGbreezy]

Easier said then done but I to get what you’re saying and I’m definitely trying to push forward it feels so fresh can’t believe it’s been a month already

[Sonorous]

For me it's easy when I remind myself just how much they don't care about me. I wouldn't want love that I have to compete for to large degree. I prefer when it's smooth. When things just slide into place. And I always keep in mind that "She's not yours, it's just your turn." As much as I hate hearing it, in modern day, it seems more true than not. Helps me not to be so attached.

[KrakenAttackin]

She's a pretty girl who never faces any accountability. Girls like this make up the majority of modern women.

You said you don't factor in a person's behavior unless they have wronged you. This is a huge mistake, huge. Study people before you allow them into your life. If she is abusive and cheats with other men, she will do the same to your, guaranteed. You are not so special that you can get a leopard to change it's spots.

[SolitarySolace]

It’s easier to do when you realize they only want your money they don’t want you. They only want you for what you could provide for them and when they find someone else that provides even more or even something else they’ll leave you for that

[laly520]

keep on trying
its matter of time

[MLGbreezy]

Thanks it’s weird I haven’t felt this way in a while so ig it’s hitting kinda hard despite me knowing I’m better off and she was toxic she was my friend in the end and I ended up caring a lot

[noohair]

Have you ever heard of the paragraph?

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Let it go bro, she is toxic