Would you support your spouse if they decided/wanted to become a stay at home parent?

Question

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

No I would not. As a victim of divorce, and I mean victim... stay at home parents will wrack your ass over the coals in a divorce proceeding. You basically will end up paying for them even after they quit on the marriage. My ex worked for 14 years... once my oldest turned 16 she wanted to stay at home and raise my 10 year old because she had all these feelings of regret. Once I got to 20 years at my job and had a guaranteed life long pension she divorced me and since she was unemployed for last four years of marriage despite having a master degree and 14 years of work experience and certifications... I ended up having to pay 10 years of alimony. She now collects 20K a year in alimony and 20k in child support and has 60K annual income from her job and I have to take her back to court to get out of the alimony next year after the youngest turns 18 and the child support turns off, because honestly she is self supporting.

Cubus · Accepted Answer

If we were able to afford it - yes, I would support.

honeynut-scenarios · Accepted Answer

I’m not married, but I don’t think I could support my husband fully unless I trusted him fully to not just sit around all day. I think resentment, and frustration would arise from the working partner if they starting coming home, and noticing things haven’t been done around the house, or still having to maintain their responsibilities at home after working all day. I’ve met too many messy men to have a non biased opinion. Male or female, working or not, use a trash can and clean up after yourself!

Apple1996 · Accepted Answer

I'm already a stay at home mom and my husband very much supports it. Can't imagine the situation being flipped around since he has no desire to stay home and I have no desire to work so that wouldn't work out for us.

WhatTheHeckkkk · Answer

Yes, but I’d have to change my career or get a higher degree so I could get a better paying job to support all of us.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I had an ex who wanted to become one in his 20s. I mean he had the funds to do so and businesses to back him up. I guess I could make due for a while because it would be nice for the kids to have someone always there until they’re old enough for preschool (age 4+). But after that i’d wonder what he's doing with his day

Justerino · Answer

My co-worker has been married for 7 years. Has a 1 year old son. Not sure how much his wife makes, but think she had a decent job. But, he said he mathed it out and they have more money when she stays home and takes care of the kid then to pay for childcare and work. Also, definitely a plus your kid spends time with their own mother.

KatieB713 · Answer

If we had discussed it is terms of finances etc, then this would be ok. I could probably support him if I had to, but at the point they are school aged then they should be in school to be honest with you and there wouldn't be a good enough reason to have my partner at how and not working

BluishGaze · Answer

Yes. I would rather her be home safe and caring for the kids, but that's up to her. It's fine if the man stays at home, I guess... but it would make more sense if it was the woman that did it.

Being a *mother* is already a full-time job and women are naturally better equipped for it than men are.

Slartybartfast · Answer

My ex was a stay at home parent, only she didn't want kids and I did so we compromised and didn't have any.

She never cooked or did housework. That was my job. As well as having a job, sometimes two..

I get tired just thinking about my past relationships, I couldn't live like that anymore. Treated like a servant, high expectations, no appreciation, all the pressure, walking on eggshells never knowing what random thought would piss her off.

AviatorTom · Answer

Yes. I did. Many years ago, my then-wife and I both worked when she got pregnant with our first child. She planned to come back to work after he was born, and then changed her mind and became a stay at home mom. It was tough going from two to just one income, but it ended up bring a good decision. Kids and family are most important.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

It's not a matter of choice cause i won't marry a girl who doesn't adores becoming a housewife which means i'll be her supporter as long as we live...

I don't like the photo that you have uploaded because this role is for women, a basic role, of some males chose to become stay at home dads it's their business but it's a humiliation for other real men!

I love the picture only if it was a woman instead of this guy!

Anonymous · Answer

Of course. Before we got married we decided together that she would stay home with our kids until they were older. We have a14 month old daughter and she stays home with her. She is a great mom and wife and I appreciate her dedication to our family and what a great job she does taking care of our home. She has a career she has put on hold but will go back to work when the kids are all in school full time. Being a stay a home mom is a tough job.

Moose304 · Answer

I'm not married. Even if I were to allow a female to live with me I don't want her living off me like that. In a comment, I just read and agree with 100% DaveJord nailed it. EVEN if she works if you make more than she does you are going to get raped by the family courts. NO THANK YOU!

crmoore · Answer

Very much so. I deeply yearn for a spouse like that. Quite frankly I concern myself over whether I'll even find a girl like that, let alone happen to be each other's type and begin dating.

Babygirl_S · Answer

No I want a manly man. I should be the one doing that. I believe in traditional gender roles.

mobiusforniner · Answer

I do right now. She wants to stay home. I work full time and we make it just fine. Honestly I think its better for our kids but i recognize not everyone has that luxury.

Hangry06 · Answer

I don't want my income to be the only means to live. So no For some time, yes. But not forever

exitseven · Answer

My wife atayed home with our kids for 11 years when they were little.

lrina · Answer

i wouldn't have. if i were to adopt a child for example, i'd rather have both parents work to provide an income for their future.

JakeS00 · Answer

Yeah if things were to work out that way and still be stable.

shaysh87 · Answer

Haha I can guarantee that 85- 90% of the people on here who obsess over housewiving are the same ones who can’t afford it

littlered1015 · Answer

As long as one of us had a stable paycheck and didn't live a crazy extravagant spending life while they did. I mean, just so the bills would be paid and everything was secure and safe for a family.

GlassTop · Answer

The girl i’m with refuses to not work. She considers it lazy. If I had the income I would. But a stay at home job is temporary. Eventually your kids are old enough to take care of themselves.

Lyndsielee666 · Answer

My kid dad was staying home with them while I bartended because I made way more money than he would’ve 🤷‍♀️

Dinklex3 · Answer

I don't want kids.. But if he wants to be a stay at home husband, cook, clean, and be my gym buddy then I'm all for it 😛

IsoUser · Answer

To be perfectly honest No, I have had enough of 24/7 being together over the past 2 years with COVID Lmao

DWornock · Answer

I wouldn't have it any other way especially if she wanted to home school our children and give them an outstanding education instead of the indoctrination, sometimes abuse, and lack of any good education from public schools.

Mark987 · Answer

100% we live in 2022.. if the guy wants to stay home that is cool or if she does

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Yes, though I'd need to find a higher paying job to make ends meet.

ohshee · Answer

Yes for sure and it could be better for the kids to

Jamie05rhs · Answer

"if they decided.". WRONG. Nobody decides anything by themselves. This is a TEAM. We make decisions TOGETHER.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

If that is what she desires to do and I have the funds then cool, but she can't stay in the house all day.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I won't be having kids in my house. She wants that, she can find another place to live.

proFountain · Answer

Yes. If I make enough. Syst at home girls are great. They make a nice home and sex great. And they live good.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

No. I'm in full support of my partner getting a work from home job but he needs to bring in some cash.

sheikalana · Answer

As long as he does the house chores and the cooking while I'm working I'm okay with it.

Fireguy17 · Answer

If we could financially afford it, yes. Some families are not able to because of the money.

Anonymous · Answer

If I could fund it on a normal fulltime job. I don't want to work extra and get less time with my family.

Jonny59 · Answer

I own properties so I don't really have to work for money, she can work :D  I can cook , clean , working out a lot , and so on

Anonymous · Answer

No. She has to work and so do the kids. My great grandfather was working on the farm when he was just 5 years old and his father was working down the mines of the 1800s when he was 8 and that's what my kids will do too.

Anonymous · Answer

To get away from her

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

If we can afford it, then yes. I know sometimes daycare could be your whole paycheck

Andres77 · Answer

Yes, and we'd have to review our budget constraints and adjust accordingly.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Yes ofc. Tbh id only be ok with a stay at home girlfriend/wife. I don't know why id bother dating someone who works.

Zobee12345 · Answer

Yes and yes! I support my husband 💯 on our joint decision of him being a stay at home dad. But I don't ever expect him to do anything more then what we'd pay to have a nanny do.

Juan_Sheet · Answer

Of course. Its their choice and I support my wife in all her endeavors

Anonymous · Answer

Thats fine if she's able to support me getting more blowjobs and anal

Anonymous · Answer

A woman who wants to stay home is what I want in a woman, I wanna work and come home to a clean house and dinner on the table made by my beautiful housewife, so yeah I would support her. 😊

Djaay · Answer

Men being a real man doesn't do that. Thatz NOT his leadership role.

TheAfrikan · Answer

Yeah if she has her satisfying reason for that kind of decision. @lucy68

Phoenix-gb · Answer

If it was financially feasible then sure.

BirdieBeep · Answer

If I could comfortably afford it, why not?

bowenw · Answer

I would if we could make it work financially.

Browneye57 · Answer

Sure. Tell us why you wouldn't.

XXblack88 · Answer

If I could afford it yeah way not

annabananna · Answer

If it financially made since than yes I would.

jahaims · Answer

Yeah, my wife works by choice.

alance99 · Answer

Yes i would fully support her

driven159 · Answer

as long as you can afford it

B4852 · Answer

Yes.

Dargil · Answer

She is.

talka20 · Answer

Any day any time yes

Jay3344 · Answer

Sure

Would you support your spouse if they decided/wanted to become a stay at home parent?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

Would you support your spouse if they decided/wanted to become a stay at home parent?

Most Helpful Opinions

Most Helpful Opinions

What Girls & Guys Said

We're glad to see you liked this post.