How would u feel or react of your girlfriend told u this?

[heybay22]

“i have been feeling really sad and distant from you.“

or

“i feel sad and unappreciated…. i also feel really distant from you”

which one should i say? nothing bad is going on with our relationship he just preoccupied in other things which i get he's busy and i actually see him maybe 4 times a week so im not complaining… should i say this? if so which one…

[Anonymous]

If this were a question asked by a dude about a chick, I'd tell him she's already made up her mind and on her way out the door if you don't man up.

Being asked by a chick, such as you, I'd say your clingy and needy, and trying to guilt/goad him into giving you more attention, when you know he's busy and preoccupied.

If you're not complainng, what this question? You're coming to us seeking advice for ways to give him one more chance, because he's not satisfying your needy emptiness. You're already half way out the door.

If you have to ask others how guilt or goad him... who's selfish problem do you think it is, and what should you do?

[Opinion Owner]

How would I feel or react if you told me one of those options?

I'd feel like you don't appreciate what time I DO spend/share with you. That you're selfish, needy personality is not attractive at all.

I'd react by incredulously asking, "What more do you want from me?" "I'm giving you all I can." "What would you suggest I do?""Is there anything YOU can do with your time to occupy it so you have something to fill the void, so that when we DO get together, you'll value what time we DO spend together?

[IMuser]

If nothing is going wrong, say this
(Tbh if you are meeting him 4 days a week and still complaining, you are needy af)
"Hi, i know you are busy these days and i totally understand it. However, i crave our time together and you better compensate for the lost time asap"

[IMuser]

(add a laughing emoji and some insider joke of yours)

[heybay22]

i mean i can explain it but its a lot it just makes me feel sad. he goes out with friends weekends but i wish we would do something fun rather than just do hw together. i have asked for a date and nothing

[IMuser]

What's stopping you from planning a date once? Plan a date, have a fun and let him know somehow that you like to going dates more than doing work together

[heybay22]

i try but he always has to work and he also get invited out to party so there's that lol. when i do need him tho he is there. i wonder if i say that i feel distant from him he’ll react or do something.

[IMuser]

Do not rock the boat unless you have to. I would be pretty much disappointed if my girlfriend did this ultimatum kind of thing for this reason.

In a relationship, you think for both of us. If currently you are feeling lonely or something, get a hobby or friends. The difference being loved ones and others is that loved ones are there when you need them. And in this aspect, your boyfriend is alright.

However, if you are being neglected way too much and are not afraid for the breakup as worst case, then do it

[mikaelis]

Please tell him either but tell him the reason why. That's important and it gives him what steps he can do to resolve your problem. If he doesn't care or respond , well. Do you want someone that doesn't care about you but you would feel sad over? Ain't worth it.

[sirderpsalot123]

I would ask what I did to make her feel this way and try my best to fix whatever the problem is. Even if its something I consider silly, it isn't to her so as long as its within reason I'll stop doing it.

[Anonymous]

The first, but follow it up with what you'd like to change and how. I don't know is life, but he may not know what to do about it.

[htmndg183]

4 times a week ain't bad. But if its really bothering you, say the former.

[htmndg183]

Obvs i'd feel devastated if my girlfriend told me this but hopefully communication can work towards improving that.

[heybay22]

omg i donr want him to be devastated either aaah what do i say? i just want to go out with him maybe on a date? i have told him this bur he’s constantly working or out with friends so im hurt.. when we do hang out its a week day so we are just doing hw and stuff :(

[htmndg183]

So tell him you want to go out on a date. Grab a meal. at least do something outside home so that it adds life to your week.

[Anonymous]

I would ask what I could do

[dudeinohio]

The second one