Would you tell their spouse?

[Anonymous]

If you were going out with someone and going out to hotels/restaurants with them and their husband/wife texted you to tell you to get off their social media and you told them you were their girlfriend/boyfriend and they told you they were married with this person and if they asked you for proof and evidence many times, would you tell their spouse that you were going to hotels/restaurants with them and tell their spouse they were cheating or would you say nothing even if they asked for proof/evidence many times?

I would tell them everything

I would say nothing

[SecretsofKB]

If I saw evidence that the person I was dating was married or in another relationship, I would absolutely not hesitate to tell their other partner.

I would then offer my services to help said partner with anything they need.

[caring__1]

You probably don't want to involve yourself in their issues, but I'd research to see if what she's saying is accurate and then dump him if it is. You don't need to be involved with anyone who isn't willing to be open and honest with you. You could be opening a can of worms that is deeper and more complex than you imagined by getting between the two of them. Live your life, not theirs.

[Asker]

Can I ask you something

[Asker]

This happened to me

[Asker]

This girl on social media basially bullied me and tried to split me and my husband up. I texted her in the first place to tell her to stop liking my husbands pictures. She claimed she was his girlfriend but when I asked her for proof she never sent anything and I asked her over and over for proof and evidence she was with him and she never sent anything just told me that I was not his wife and I told her to leave him alone and I sent her a photo of me and him together and she still never sent anything to show me she was with him and I texted her and told her to leave me him alone and she never texted back. She just seen the message. I told my husband about it and he said that she was crazy. 8 months later she started texting me and telling me that she went too a hotel with him once in January in the city. I asked a few questions and she blocked me.

2 months later she sent an audio message saying she went to a hotel with him and that was it. I sent the audio to my husband and he denied it profusely and said it was all fake and even laughed.

2 months later she changed her story and said that she went to a hotel every week with him in December and she said that she stayed in a b&b in the suburbs. When I looked the b&b up I discovered that the b&b only opened 5 months after she claimed to be there with him. I texted her and told her that she was lying as the hotel was not even open when she claimed to be there and that she changed her story to one time in January to every week a few months later. I also questioned her as to why she didn't tell me anything in the first place and She went absolutely ballistic and started calling me every name under the sun and told me she would get the police to track me down and then blocked me. She also kept calling me over and over and suddenly start saying how she had a boyfriend and that she was fighting with her boyfriend over the stress of this situation. Why do you think she would lie about all of this?

[caring__1]

The girl has problems. If she can't show any proof, she's just focusing on feeding her own ego. Just block her and move on. Never accuse anyone of anything without proof.

[Asker]

You think she has mental issues

[caring__1]

I'm not going to put a diagnosis on someone I've never even met, but stop focusing on her and start focusing on yourself. No one's forcing you to continue to dwell on this.