What is the biggest sacrifice you've ever made for a relationship?

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Lliam · Accepted Answer

I loaned my sister $20k many years ago.

At one point, after I proposed to my wife, she asked if I would be willing to see a couples counselor with her. I guess she wanted to be sure that we were suited for each other. I had never been to a counselor and thought the idea was strange, but I figured what the heck, maybe it will be interesting. As it turned out, it WAS interesting and kind of painful at times digging into parts of my personality and past that I hadn't been aware of or thought much about. In the end, those sessions were very valuable.

Over the years, since we've been married, she enrolled us with other counselors with my permission, not because our marriage was in trouble, but to keep it healthy and happy. Although counseling can be unpleasant at times, it's educational. We have learned a lot about ourselves and each other and have gained much better communicate skills. I admire her commitment to honesty and to our relationship.

I think it was a sacrifice on my part to humor her wishes and go to counseling.

The elevation where we live is 600' but my wife works 20 miles away in a town that's at 2500'. One day while she was at work they had an unusually hard snow storm and it was still snowing very hard when she got off. There was well over a foot of snow on the roads. She was afraid to drive home in her little car. I jumped in the Toyota Prius I had at the time and drove up there to rescue her. Even the highway was covered with snow and I had to be very, very careful in my car. I had driven in snow many times, but not in a car like that.
I don't think that qualifies as an actual sacrifice but my wife thought I was a hero.

I paid for a few vacations with girlfriends before. Again, not exactly sacrifices because they were my idea and we had a great time.

Aside from that, just hard work around our house and property from time to time or the four times we moved before we wound up here.

CuriousJC · Accepted Answer

My biggest sacrifice in relationships was given up everything I've ever had to make my girlfriend happy just to get stabbed in the heart after everything is gone. Some of my girlfriends I literally signed my soul to the devil on different occasions, lost jobs frequently for loyalty and commitment, went places for their benefits such as items in clothes that can be found in other stores, be with their kids that's not mines and be a good role model. But in the end it was never enough. Sometimes after doing all that, I rather just hang myself. It really doesn't make sense to sacrifice so much and she just takes me for granted over and over until Hell Freezes Over.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I actually felt like I was "giving up" a lot more when I was in an abusive relationship. In my current much more healthy relationship I feel a lot more like I'm investing in the relationship as opposed to giving things up. Sure, any relationship requires work. Sometimes he drives me crazy. Sometimes I do things I don't want to do or don't do things I really want to do. However, I always feel like it's really worth it. I feel like what I get out is way more than what I put in.

PhenomenalQueen · Accepted Answer

I sacrificed EVERYTHING and they sacrificed nothing.. I will never lose myself like that again, and the sad part is sometimes they’ll boldly tell you, “I never asked you to do that”.

Telekinetic-Potato · Answer

The biggest sacrifice I ever made was letting go of who I was in order to be the person she wanted.

She wasn't evil for doing this, I was just inexperienced and stupid for doing it. It's obviously important to have someone help you grow and improve but the change needs to make you into the best version of yourself.

I'm realizing now the right woman will see what it is about me that works and when she asks me to change it will be for the better and not just to satisfy her immediate desires.

I want someone who thinks I'm great the way I am and wants to see me become amazing.

Heartache0405 · Answer

Going against my parents wishes and attending a college 3 hours away from my hometown for the girl I was in a relationship with at the time who was still finishing up her senior year of high school at the time. Little did I know that she was cheating on me with a dude in one of her classes just because I wouldn’t have sex with her... stranded without a car, with a small group of friends I managed to make... she was the only reason I even went there to begin with. Parents had to make a 3 hour drive just to see me.

MrtoddsWildRide · Answer

I got a vasectomy because my ex asked me to. That led to a complication called bilateral epididymitis. (look it up). The end result is that unlike with the vasectomy, I can never have it reversed and will never be able to have children again.

Darine123 · Answer

I put him first, I really care about him and love him but at the same time he cheating on me, I care about him worrying that he not gonna have a money to eat, worrying that if he didn’t take his pill he won’t be okay. I wish the time when he cheats on me I could take care of myself more

honeynut-scenarios · Answer

I gave up all forms of alcohol because my ex was an alcoholic. Not so much anymore, because liquor puts me to sleep now, but at the time I really enjoyed it for social reasons. It’s small, but it was still a sacrifice to me.

1millonlies · Answer

Myself. I put the other person before me every time. I was treated very poorly, I wish I was better to myself back then.

mikaelis · Answer

To tell them the truth even though it hurts but it's what j would have wanted. Granted I usually keep ties with those people and even try to mend these ties if we are both on the Same page but if not, well some relationship as are sadly temporary

Vikkrram · Answer

I have started to ignore the person whom i love but as i know we can't be together so it's better to keep a distance between us. I know she has been hurted by my behaviour but it's good for us.

IMuser · Answer

My self respect... The decision which I still regret.

DermalPunch · Answer

I cannot view the things that one does for someone you love as sacrifices. It's just loving and supporting. I am only gaining by giving so I can't name a sacrifice.

DJB72 · Answer

I moved ten thousand miles away from my friends and family and it's cost me all but two relationships.

zeitgeist057 · Answer

I once gave up having sex with other people for a relationship. Big mistake, lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Moved towns for him, sacrificed all my money and spoilt him with my weekly earnings, let him eat all my food and smoke all my weed/tobacco, just to get cheated on twice in the end.

Rixon · Answer

Sacrificing the love of my life for her happiness. Nothing could even come close to that.

kerrieberry03 · Answer

I think so far hiding my relationship from my parents for several months b/c my boyfriend is so much older.

Commando_Preetam · Answer

The biggest sacrifice i have made of my career security for my loved one. The secret which I shouldn't reveal i revealed to her but now she dumped me.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I let him steal a kiss from me so now my first kiss is someone I will never see again. It hurts me because I wanted that man to be my husband.

blundernuts · Answer

She was deciding between us her 2 kids and me, and her job. She was leaving me for a John She ment during escorting. The sacrifice I made was keeping my marriage strong by forgiveness

OmegaSTC · Answer

Given up oral sex because my wife hates it and I love her

AwesomeCookie · Answer

Schooling and future career

motheryoudliketobang · Answer

Was completely 100% committed just to feel like I wasn’t good enough bc I date a person with NPD

moonpie89 · Answer

Literally everything and I've barely been given the same.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Moving with my spouse to another town to be supportive of his work opportunities

McKellar · Answer

Breaking it off from her (That's what she wanted, not me) letting her go & moving on to nothing.

Jltakk · Answer

Never had the privilege of being in a relationship.

msc545 · Answer

Well, I spent time in the relationship far beyond the point when I should have left her.

Better_off_here · Answer

i had to cut off some people in my family who she did not like.

ohshee · Answer

I walked away from it so we could still be friends

Slut4Joy · Answer

i’m not allowed to see my friends

Shayedd · Answer

My family / my health

SunnyCaliGirl · Answer

I gave more than I received back

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

Moving away from family.

DavidHart · Answer

sacrificed my right hand for her.

jahaims · Answer

Had to break my morals and values once

sp33d · Answer

I agreed to SPLIT the cake. It was painful..

innerman · Answer

everything  time, money, en my heart

Anonymous · Answer

Getting a divorce with someone else.

Magarmor64 · Answer

don't know haven't been in one yet

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

Letting her go.

jimmy2 · Answer

To always forgive after so many cheating

Agape93 · Answer

My safety

Anonymous · Answer

That I voluntarily choose to be single. MGTOW

Anonymous · Answer

Money they owe me a lot of money

kRazacky · Answer

Love myself

Anonymous · Answer

My sanity

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